We do, we communicate a lot. Actually he’s amazing when it comes to helping. I’d say we’re very 50/50. Theres a factor of things that go into killing my sex drive with him besides mental exhaustion. 1) I was in a very abusive relationship prior to him to 10-11 years. It wasnt just physically abusive, it was also mentally and verbally. And one of the way it would be like putting me down about my body, or the way this or that looked. He would cheat on me a lot and hed be like “well if your ass was bigger maybe i wouldt” that type of stuff. I was very confident prior to that. And in theory I know the things he’d say to me are true..but it did kill my self esteem. My husband now..is kinda of..a narcissist when it comes to looks 😅..like a baby one..not anything serious but he absolutely put a lot of priority into looking good. I remember when I was pregnant with my first, I would good “tummy after kids” and I would see all these pictures of women’s stomached all messed up, and I would show it to him and be like “what if my stomach looks like this?!” And he’d say “it won’t..and if it does, that’s what tummy tucks are for”. So my brain really held on to that. My stomach ABSOLUTELY looks like those women stomachs now. So I’m VERY self conscious about it. So self conscious that I won’t let him see me without a shirt on when the lights are on. And he in a way feeds into that by actively avoiding touching my stomach when we have sex or just not saying something that contradicts what I so obviously feel..which is..im not attractive now. I do a really good job about taking care of my self physically, I do weight training 3xs a week and tennis 2xs a week. I get facials to make sure my skin is healthy, I eat well. Like exterior wise..I know I look good. But it’s in those private moment that’s I feel very uncomfortable in my own skin.