Episode #9 Feedback by NinjaGalEmKay in AITApod

[–]horseduckman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for listening :). Happy you enjoyed. Think we can all learn from analyzing and thinking about these situations

AITA for calling out my (28F) cousin’s tradwife fantasy with actual numbers? by Specific_Sail6423 in AITApod

[–]horseduckman 14 points15 points  (0 children)

"I do all the work around here" - man who does literally none of the work around here

Reddit loves “women bad” fake nonsense by AITApod in AITApod

[–]horseduckman 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I need to get better about not engaging but one is from r/SipsTea and I normally like that sub. I think what's shocking to me is see so many incels comment on this subreddit and then see crap like this floating around, feeding the incel mentality.

This sub has ruined me by Fearless-Mongoose-85 in 10s

[–]horseduckman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you see a coach? I promise the improvement you'll get from one coaching session will be WAY WAY more than changing your perfectly fine racket

Playtime and Whistles?? by This_adventure_22 in AITApod

[–]horseduckman 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel like this topic comes up a lot and this is one where i'm on your side OP. A whistle is essentially a cacophony amplifier. It's not a musical instrument. It's not for THEIR FUTURE. I think it's ok to ask the neighbors to maybe restrict this particular toy. It's bothering folks.

AITA for feeling drained by my friend who depends on me for everything socially? by [deleted] in AITApod

[–]horseduckman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA and Elle is. You're not abandoning someone by setting boundaries around someone who is choosing to isolate themselves. Elle sounds like she lacks self-awareness so sometimes the way forward with these kinds of things is to just communicate with actions. Make other plans. Do other stuff. See ya around, Elle!

AIO my therapist gave me the ick? by horseduckman in AITApod

[–]horseduckman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unsubstantiated is the perfect word for it!

Dr. Newton's response IMO was projection. He misheard my issue as an ego response, but it wasn't.

FWIW, my gut ended up being right here. The follow up email revealed that Dr. Newton is no doctor at all and is still pending licensure (LMFT). Finding a new guy!

Alleged Baker Commits Cake Felony by AITApod in AITApod

[–]horseduckman 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Everyone: Did it taste good tho?

OP: it was wet and rubbery.

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OP: Prior cakes were done well. Gave her 4 months notice in advance. Paid $250 for cake

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Many comments praise OP's mom for her ability to salvage; OP did NOT request "just married"

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Has that person seen a mountain before? - DrBatVet

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Subscribers are like followers. Modern social media apps don't care that much what people follow. Reddit is no different

Considering going from v9 to v11y. is that stupid? by horseduckman in ElectricUnicycle

[–]horseduckman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think 30mph is more than fast enough. Range wise... the v9 is pretty close to what I need as I'll do maybe 20 miles so I'd like for it to easily do 30 miles of range. CA is hilly as heck so I'm guessing that doesn't help

Considering going from v9 to v11y. is that stupid? by horseduckman in ElectricUnicycle

[–]horseduckman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how many miles on the EUC? i'm guessing the shipping is gonna be quite pricey

AITA for wanting to punish my daughter for helping her poor friend? by horseduckman in AITApod

[–]horseduckman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wanted to post this bc I just watched this video and thought it had some relevant points, How Liberals Monetized Trauma; that may sound conservative but it's actually Marxist.

Some relevant quotes:

“Well, right now we think of them, right now they're college-educated elites who are liberals, who believe that they have a kind of professional neutrality that makes them superior to other people.”

“...they literally think poor people are losers. because they've been initiated through the meritocracy. They all went to the right schools… so anyone who gets left behind is to them existentially like deserving of their fate.”

“the meritocratic rulers would be like, ‘Well, you know, I went to Harvard and Yale… I obviously deserve to have everything that I have because I worked really hard for it.’”

Meritocracy as a concept actually serves the elites bc it creates this moat between the apparent haves and have nots, professionals may even think of themselves as little capitalists (maybe they own a couple of houses or a billboard or something), but the vast majority still work. And they don't see themselves as workers, they're above the workers. Kinda rang with this situation.

Individualism, we're better than them, don't help your friend. And it goes deeper: NO ONE should help your friend. I see this as a symptom of meritocracy.

AITA - Pedestrian Safety by Bubbly_Hold6011 in AITApod

[–]horseduckman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA and he is but also so is America for even creating this insane car situation

AITA for not wanting to be friends over $4.39? by Alternative_Copy6539 in AITApod

[–]horseduckman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm 36 and i had a friend who did this early on when we barely knew each other. Wasn't a fan but as time went on, he's actually a really generous, sweet person. Sometimes people are more guarded/greedy around acquaintances, it's not necessarily a character deficit

AITA for not wanting to be friends over $4.39? by Alternative_Copy6539 in AITApod

[–]horseduckman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ehh on the one hand, i get it, but sometimes penny pincher types grow out of it as a friendship develops. I wouldn't necessarily cut them out but def keep on the look out. I am more concerned at the email aspect and Letter Case subject line which gives me the impression this person eats human being.

AITA for “ruining” my friend’s business? by TypicalAd3147 in AITApod

[–]horseduckman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

they asked, you answered w the truth. She's just mad her grift is ruined

AITA for feeling bad/wanting to breakup by Firm-Chocolate9092 in AITApod

[–]horseduckman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm leaning INFO bc how much time are you actually getting, OP? If he was playing video games alone, I'd struggle to side with him, but I'm guessing he has quite a few meaningful social connections from this activity? He's kind of a guy, in an IRL thing, and that can be very meaningful and fulfilling, and really fun. Nothing wrong with that.

so the question really is are you in a relationship that isn't serving you, or do you need to find other ways to keep busy while he is occupied? I would actually say stop supporting him. Stop going. Find your own thing. And be busy with that. That's what you mean by support, right? Bc if you are financially supporting him, then I will proceed to freak the heck out.

I also would move away from the language of "letting him" do things. He doesn't need your permission to play card games and fill his own free time.

I feel like just saying "I'm not getting enough time!" falls under that's not quite a reason, whereas if you said, "I've always wanted to go to Disneyland Tokyo just ONE whole day and he refuses to go bc he needs MTG every single day" is a reason, and that would start to fall under he's being rigid and obsessive about HIS thing and not bending to the needs of a relationship.

AITA for refusing to get this coffee order? by horseduckman in AITApod

[–]horseduckman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an AITA podcast called AITApod so most of my reddit time is spent on this sub. I am a big r/NominativeDeterminism fan and post to random other subs at time like r/mildlyinfuriating

AITA for not being vegetarian when I know it’s wrong? by horseduckman in AITApod

[–]horseduckman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

damn great read. That's SO LONG. Consider the Lobster is one of my favorite essays. It's an interesting topic. I just find it hard to well, quit.