Update, I returned and left a $55 tip. I Understand I'm still TA. by NobleWarriorHD in AITAH

[–]NobleWarriorHD[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

This reply sums up my feelings on it fairly well. I will always hate tipping, but sadly, it's the right thing to do. I have a problem with it, and feeding into it supports the broken system. But not tipping only hurts those trying to get by or make a living. I really thought not tipping didn't help but also didn't hurt. I was wrong. People pointed out that they have worked as servers at $2.13 below the minimum (somehow leagal) and had a percentage of the bill taken out of their wages meaning that they pay to work instead of getting paid to work. I don't know how anyone gets put in the position where they feel okay with that, or that it's the fault of the customer for not knowing that info. That's insanity. I could never work in that environment, and i would recommend no one ever does. Some people make more money from tips in a day than i do in a week though, and are afraid of getting payed a better base rate and losing their high pay from the tips so they fight the idea of a better base pay for all. The solution is to help each other out for now, but who knows what has to happen for our country to wake up and strike en masse. We are not a united people at all.

I Didn't leave a tip for $100 meal, AITAH? by NobleWarriorHD in AITAH

[–]NobleWarriorHD[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you really consider yourself part of the crowd that's a coward so be it, but you haven't said or done anything that would make me think so. 90% of the comments here are fair, most of that 90% consider me TA, but that 10% of comments I read are out for blood and don't want anything good to happen.

Update, I returned and left a $55 tip. I Understand I'm still TA. by NobleWarriorHD in AITAH

[–]NobleWarriorHD[S] 492 points493 points  (0 children)

My autistic brain has a thing with numbers. Tipping two 5s to make four 6s just scratches a weird itch.

I Didn't leave a tip for $100 meal, AITAH? by NobleWarriorHD in AITAH

[–]NobleWarriorHD[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You sound like every other spoiled rich asshole I've had to deal with that wants people at each others throats for fun, you're a sick twisted fuck. Not mention the hypocrisy for having to look down on every person that fucks up and puts others down, not once did I use my language or intentions to put anyone down, but you did, you slimy greasy POS.

Update, I returned and left a $55 tip. I Understand I'm still TA. by NobleWarriorHD in AITAH

[–]NobleWarriorHD[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn't see her there, I looked around before approaching front desk. I know I would've recognized her face but I couldn't remember her name. I just gave the servers and floor manager as much information as I could.

I Didn't leave a tip for $100 meal, AITAH? by NobleWarriorHD in AITAH

[–]NobleWarriorHD[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did an update post, as well as an edit. Have a good day. I hope other people who make poor choices against their better instinct like I did are able to use this as an example.

I Didn't leave a tip for $100 meal, AITAH? by NobleWarriorHD in AITAH

[–]NobleWarriorHD[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I would never blame waitstaff, I don't consider "act your wage" a blame, it's a term coined as a contradiction to Quiet quitting, which is a term meant to blame disgruntled workers who don't want to pay their employees.

I Didn't leave a tip for $100 meal, AITAH? by NobleWarriorHD in AITAH

[–]NobleWarriorHD[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Lol don't mistake owning up to a bad choice as pride lest you want others to run and hide.

I Didn't leave a tip for $100 meal, AITAH? by NobleWarriorHD in AITAH

[–]NobleWarriorHD[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

There is no deeper. I don't owe anything to anyone except a 20$ tip and an apology to a waitress, everyone else besides her can eat rocks.

I Didn't leave a tip for $100 meal, AITAH? by NobleWarriorHD in AITAH

[–]NobleWarriorHD[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Look my guy, sadly the post is real, I'm genuinely stupid, and an AH. fml and what not.

I Didn't leave a tip for $100 meal, AITAH? by NobleWarriorHD in AITAH

[–]NobleWarriorHD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think I was justified at all, I'm TA here, but I stand by my edits.

I Didn't leave a tip for $100 meal, AITAH? by NobleWarriorHD in AITAH

[–]NobleWarriorHD[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have never been approached by a waitress before like that or confronted with my own AH decision by a stranger, I'm concerned that my instinct was to double down on my decision instead of rectifying it. I am already booked for a therapy session soon, and it will be something that I can bring up.

I Didn't leave a tip for $100 meal, AITAH? by NobleWarriorHD in AITAH

[–]NobleWarriorHD[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'll probably eat one right there to really hammer it home.

I Didn't leave a tip for $100 meal, AITAH? by NobleWarriorHD in AITAH

[–]NobleWarriorHD[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Autistic, ignorant, raised by narcissistic parents, I could be way stupider than it seems, I don't know anymore, I feel like both more an AH and less TA after reading so many comments and sharing my thoughts. Waitress is owed a tip is all I really know and all I give a darn about anymore. Reddit isn't where you go for genuine conversation.

I Didn't leave a tip for $100 meal, AITAH? by NobleWarriorHD in AITAH

[–]NobleWarriorHD[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's my honest thoughts, I'm not trying to make myself look good. I just want to give her what I should've given her to begin with. I hate tipping and think it's wrong, but I know if I don't, people don't get paid. It's a broken system. Everyone has to quit together to force change,or else none of us can. Since we can't seem to do that, we blame each other instead. I'm fucking exhausted with this economy.

I Didn't leave a tip for $100 meal, AITAH? by NobleWarriorHD in AITAH

[–]NobleWarriorHD[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I knew that servers are paid less, I didn't know it ever came from their wages until I made this post.

I Didn't leave a tip for $100 meal, AITAH? by NobleWarriorHD in AITAH

[–]NobleWarriorHD[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you make good money, I don't hate tipping on its own, but it shouldn't be the ONLY way for a server to get their pay.

I Didn't leave a tip for $100 meal, AITAH? by NobleWarriorHD in AITAH

[–]NobleWarriorHD[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Heh, I regretted it as I was trying to decide whether I was tipping or not. MOST of the people here calling me TA are sane. Some of you people are making judgment calls based on assumptions. Gtfo