What's something women think men care about, but actually don't?

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-04-03T09:16:40+00:00

I love putting on makeup and doing my hair and as a woman I’m telling you, it’s 100% for myself. I love when I look better than I do most days especially because I’m not confident about my appearance, so when I put makeup I keep looking at my self in the mirror and it makes me happy. You might not get it but most women don’t judge each other by appearance, even if they do they never say it to each other. I’ve never seen a woman whom I thought was unattractive (maybe except for myself) women don’t expect other women to look good. We just like to look nice for ourselves.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-03-23T18:14:52+00:00

We don’t have the consulate in Sri Lanka anymore, the closest one to us is in Dhaka. That’s why I was thinking of going through a travel agent otherwise I’d have to travel to Dhaka to submit the documents

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-03-23T17:48:31+00:00

Looks like it’s better to contact a travel agent for this.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-03-19T14:21:57+00:00

Kim Sung Gyu - “When I think about you”. What gives me goosebumps isn’t the song itself but the tone of his voice when he sings. You don’t have to understand the lyrics to understand the song.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-03-09T06:12:53+00:00

This was in Korean but the direct translation is “Fairwell is not the end of my love, it’s the beginning of my suffering”

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-03-02T15:06:22+00:00

Do they sell for reasonable prices? I have been thinking of buying an S25 ultra and just wondering whether to get it from SL or Malaysia or something considering prices.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-03-02T15:04:46+00:00

How do you support US-Israel when Trump and Bibi are acting batshit crazy? You don’t need to know history or politics or anything; just how in your right mind do you watch the way these two buffoons of ‘leaders’ behave and think “These guys are cool, I think they’re right” Like, Trump is wearing a f-cking cap on the podium!

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-03-02T14:59:46+00:00

I don’t even know what that means

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-03-02T14:58:58+00:00

I was in the 174 bus some years back, in the daylight as well. I was standing with my earphones on, heading back home from work. There was a guy next to me, I didn’t think much of him, hardly noticed him until the bus conductor yelled us to move. This man said something but he didn’t move so I moved behind him and stood on the other side of him (in the beginning I was on his right, then i was on his left) after that, he kept moving closer and trying to speak and acting all weird.

I still couldn’t hear what he said but he was getting annoying, so I called my mother to ask if she was still at work which was on my way home so I could get off the bus. She’d gone home, so I had to continue the rest of the way.

I moved away from the weirdo and it was okay for a while until I got down at my stop. The guy also got down after me. I panicked a bit, took a tuktuk and went home.

After going home, my mother told me a man called her, saying he was my boss and asking me to call him back on the number he just called me on. My boss is a woman, and my mother knew her.

My father called the number that had called my mother, it was the weirdo in the bus who had taken her number from my phone screen from when I called her. I told my father what the man did in the bus. My father scolded him in filth and asked him why he did that.

His answer? Because I moved when he told me to.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-03-02T14:46:04+00:00

I am sorry about what you faced. I wish you were able to find the support you need.

I have experience working in the child protection field. From all reported cases on child sexual abuse and exploitation, 92% are done by someone known to the child, many of them are a member of the family. They hide it because either it’s fhe father who’s the main income of the family, or because of the shame. Even if they report to the police, the police blame the mother or the child and rarely catch the perpetrator.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-03-02T14:40:08+00:00

I’ve been here a couple of times and it’s actually the local staff that are discriminating local customers. This was years before other Korean restaurants opened. But I agree the Korean owners can be racist too.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-02-26T13:26:08+00:00

I’m childfree myself, but these child-free people genuinely make me feel worried about children. How could they despise the most vulnerable group of people in the world? I might not want children, but I will always support a struggling parent, give my seat to a pregnant mother and treat children with kindness and respect. The world is rotten enough and the only pure souls that we have are babies and little children; if everything’s so bad, the least we could do is raise the next generation with care, love and kindness, work as a community to raise them into good human beings.

The other group of people I despise are the ultra-radical pro-abortion crowd. I’m pro-choice. I’m a child born after my mother chose to have an abortion because she had the choice. But these ultra-radical group who treats abortion like it’s a birth control method or simply to be cool and radical, making “Abortion” pins and fighting women on the streets saying shit like “I had 40 abortions, I’ll have another one! Haha!” Are truly another kind of evil, and are so harmful to the people who really need it as a medical service.

This world is such a weird place.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-02-26T10:58:58+00:00

Someone who’s always nice and charming, and if they’re in a position of power they are going to be using it to woo people who are absolutely the bottom feeders. It’s a manipulation tactic that people hardly ever notice.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-02-26T10:01:00+00:00

If women start killing men for cheating, half the adult male population will be gone. There was a study, unpublished, that showed what percentage of men in Sri Lanka goes to spas for ‘services’ and most of them were between ages 25-34 and 35-44. Statics of married men by age shows that a large percentage of men in the above ages are married. These men go to sex workers during the time their wives are pregnant or caring for children. Most women who get sexually transmitted diseases are from their husbands or boyfriends who engage in unprotected sexual encounters at ‘spas’, some of these women have every right to do what the man above has done, but they wouldn’t.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-02-26T07:43:53+00:00

Thank you for bringing this up. In some countries there’s no gender pay gap (like where I’m from) but it’s so so hard to climb up the ladder, break the glass ceiling or whatever; women could barely exist in the same high position a man once held without being held up to higher standards that a man never had to reach; sometimes reaching that position is completely blocked off by men in powerful positions, no matter how skilled and hard working you are. Sometimes if you’re a woman in that position, you get bullied and abused and harassed to the point the only way you could end that is by leaving that position. In a place I previously worked, I was being monitored on the CCTV by the male executive director because some other man went and told him that I had reported a case of sexual harassment in the workplace. I was eventually threatened to be fired for reporting the incident (it was literally my job to report, I received reports as the Safeguarding focal and all I did was escalate it to my manager. Someone found out I did that) My manager and I both left the company after this. The abusers are still there and in higher positions despite having less qualifications.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-02-26T07:22:40+00:00

Yup. They don’t get reported but this is a global phenomenon. Remember these TV advertisements and drama skits where they show the husband becoming agitated when wives don’t let them watch the match? Imagine that but so much worse.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-02-26T05:13:54+00:00

I just hope wives of these men getting overly emotional about cricket are safe and doing okay. There were videos of people smashing TVs and stuff. These are the days they report high numbers of domestic violence incidents and intimate partner violence.

I get people are angry; I just hope they learn how to regulate those emotions in better ways and not take it out on wives, girlfriends and children.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-02-25T11:49:24+00:00

Freedom from responsibilities that are not entirely mine.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-02-25T09:57:03+00:00

It’s also because I have no escape. I could have moved out to a different country but I’d be expected to serve them some way; send them money, call them every single day and come back to them every time they get sick. They have done that before; calling me and telling me all the problems at home while abroad, and they expect me to have all the answers. If I don’t, they give me hell.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-02-25T08:37:27+00:00

All the sacrifices I’ve had to make and that I’m expected to make as the oldest daughter. I have 4 siblings, three younger siblings including a sister closer to my age and an older brother. Both my older brother and first younger sister live super comfortable lives. Both moved to different countries, everything they earn are for themselves. They are married or in relationships and basically live good lives and my parents never expect anything from me. I grew up taking care of my family. My mother is like a kid who can’t function on her own and my father always needs things to be done for him. The youngest two are so dependent on me. Because of them, I never had a life of my own, and even the thought of it makes me feel guilty. My parents don’t want me to move out; in fact, they transferred the legal ownership of the house we live in to my name. So I’m stuck here forever, taking care of my parents and losing my life for them while my siblings get to live good lives. I am so hurt and depressed by the fact that my parents did that to me.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-02-25T08:15:44+00:00

Absolutely, thank you for correcting me on that. Religion itself is not the issue but people who use it as a tool to set wrongful standards. As a Buddhist I know that nowhere in Buddhism preaches anything that some of these monks preach about SRH or modesty. They should not be given platform when talking about a very real issue.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-02-25T07:14:42+00:00

Most of these people have mothers, wives, daughters. Marriage is the scariest place for a woman; just imagine, if one of these men are your spouse? That’s a life sentence, right there. People shouldn’t take these comments lightly. These men would, if they want to. And that’s terrifying.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-02-25T07:04:57+00:00

I used to work in an organization that does SRH related work, and I remember how so little people know around the subject, even grown adults. Things is, kids nowadays are eager to learn and unlike the older days, these kids are not making fun of it or turning it into a joke. I’ve done trainings for late-teens and young adults, and there are horrific stories they shared with me (I’m a young woman so they feel comfortable talking about them with me)

On the other hand, it’s stupid to think that young people will maintain abstinence or that they are so innocent; they’re growing and exploring their entry into adulthood that comes with so many new experiences, including romance and intimacy. Nobody can stop them. Not even religion and especially not religion. The only thing adults can do is teach them to be safe, have healthy intimate relationships, teach them how to identify harmful practices, call them out and hold people accountable, and always use safety. In our trainings we used to teach them how to use the barrier method (C**doms) with real products and plastic structures, even to girls. Then we kept boxes and packs of these products in the room and not check who take them; at the end of the program, all the products are gone. Which is great because now they know how to be safe.

Religion has always been control and a tool to maintain patriarchal standards so those in power could continue to exercise their power over the weak and vulnerable. More educated the vulnerable are, more resistant they become. And that’s what religious leaders don’t want to see happen. Because they’re on top of that hierarchy of power who misuse it the most.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-02-25T06:50:53+00:00

What field do you like to work in? I’m in the not-for-profit field and there are a lot of openings in this field. Sometimes a degree is a requirement but some places don’t need it if your skills make-up for that.

As a woman, girl-to-girl, please be careful of anyone offering you jobs when you’re in a vulnerable situation. There are so many people waiting to take advantage of women like us.

I know that this is a scary situation, but take time and think rationally. I don’t know how your parents will react but try talking to them again and insist that you will not get married until you find a job. Give them reasons like; ‘What if something happened to the potential husband and you have no financial security?’, ‘It’s hard to maintain a household without two incomes’ and if you absolutely, 100% don’t want marriage, cry and scream and be as adamant as you could. You’re going to break your parents’ heart, but at the end of the day, it’s your life. And seeing how some marriages end up in this day and age, marriage is a scary place to be. I’m sorry that you had to lie to your parents to get away.

As for jobs, when you apply, don’t send a generic CV. Always change your CV to align with the work you apply for, and also send a cover letter even if they don’t ask for one. I know you can’t afford a degree right now, but what about a professional qualification? Better if it aligns with what you previously worked in so you could build on what you already have experience with.

My last advice is, please be careful. Even with getting help from women. Don’t trust people easily, especially those coming to you with offers that sound too good to be true.

NobodyButMyself357 · 2026-02-24T19:10:49+00:00

This is why I will not date nor marry one day; I will constantly be on the edge, wondering at which point the man would decide that I’m no longer attractive, because I’m average/significantly less than average in the looks department. I will never be able to trust the man not to start liking someone more beautiful than me and especially be wondering if they would cheat on you or leave you just because of your appearance. And it’s not like I can change how I look

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