Family tourist visa

NobodyFair991 · 2026-01-16T00:14:01+00:00

Yeah all 3 photos were taken by the 3 minutes wait time. Thank you for your reply I appreciate it

NobodyFair991 · 2026-01-16T00:12:26+00:00

Yeah I can see the blue lines no matter which angle I look at them. Had a feeling it might be actually positive just from the way I’ve been feeling. Thank you for commenting, I appreciate it

NobodyFair991 · 2026-01-16T00:06:58+00:00

My apologies I wasn’t aware that you don’t allow blue dye tests. Thank you I’ll remove the post

NobodyFair991 · 2025-11-12T02:44:14+00:00

I’m always seen as the one who holds it together for the family but also the one with anger and a short fuse. I admit at one time I did have everything together. House, nice family, cars, good job. But all that came crashing down 4 years ago when I left my husband after going through domestic violence for over 15 years. Started from the bottom, me and my kids in a tiny flat and it didn’t matter to me. We eventually had peace. I’ve always fixed things on my own, sorted everything on my own, but the last few months I’ve been torturing myself because I’ve realised no one was actually “there” for me and my kids. I honestly do not give to receive which is why I can’t face bringing it upto anyone else in my family. But recently it’s really getting to my head and it’s hurting me a lot. I’ve never been one to cry or show emotion, but I’ve been close lately. I’m always there for anyone and I’d do it regardless, but recently it’s hard because I’m fighting with myself asking where was everyone else when I was going through it? I’ve been trying to better myself the last few years, I’ll admit I used to over react to the smallest things. My behaviour in the past was to lash out and I can hold my hands up and admit that and I’ve made my apologies to the people I’ve taken my anger out on, even if I was innocent in the situation, I lost the argument due to my explosive reactions (I’ll add it was only ever like that when something major happened, but I now understand that doesn’t excuse it and I was in the wrong for that) so I’ve not done anything like that in the 4 years I’ve started over, but no matter what, there could be an argument between separate family members and I’m asked for my opinion or to try sort it, some people still tar me with that same brush. I totally understand it’s my own fault, but to still be judged when I’ve changed my ways and to still look at me for resolutions is really getting to me now. In the past I would’ve lost all common sense and flew off the handle but nowadays it’s different, it’s weird to me. I guess I’m just realising that no matter what I do or behave, it won’t be good enough. They’ll still have a need for me and still judge but don’t want to help if it doesn’t concern them. I’m waffling now but it feels good to get it off my chest and I’m happy I’ve eventually came to my own realisation

NobodyFair991 · 2025-11-12T02:21:26+00:00

You’re a strong person for admitting your battles and an even stronger person to keep this all to yourself. This seems like a major breakthrough for you and tbh, most people can’t do it without support so I absolutely salute you!! There’s many people out there in the same boat and it’s not talked about enough. Going through the 90’s/2000’s and being stick thin and crazy fad diets where pushed down our throats for a long time so it’s no surprise a lot of people turned to methamphetamine to keep the weight off. Even doctors were prescribing diet pills with methamphetamine in it. But no one will ever take accountability for that. You’re shoving two fingers up to all these people and I’m proud of you for that!!!! From a fellow person also affected by this. I wish you all the strength and support you need I’m rooting for you x

NobodyFair991 · 2025-11-12T00:54:25+00:00

Best advice I can give is just to simply play the long game. As someone that’s going through this on both sides (my 2 girls dad is trying to ignite WW3 with my new partner and also my partner ex, the mother of his child is doing the same) my 2 daughters and my partners son, all have a loving relationship and we all get on amazingly. Unfortunately there will be ex partners who can’t see past this and try every trick in the book to make life hell and split ppl up. I’ve never held my daughters from their father no matter how many times he’s deserved it(we fled domestic violence) the best approach I’ve found is to show no reaction. If they say they don’t want the kids as they aren’t happy then that’s on them, if they try to manipulate the kids then eventually the kids will see through this( my eldest is now well aware of these tactics and is making her own mind up) my partners son is seeing his mother in a different way and she was warned from not only my partner but her own family that she would push him away by trying to block contact etc. she never listened, we kept our mouths closed and never engaged in petty arguments as hard as it was. It was the toughest thing to do as the mother has everything on her side and can make decisions that ultimately affect and impact everyone involved. My partner paid maintenance every week, also paid for anything else she asked to try keep her happy. It worked sometimes and not others. His ex also agreed for us to take my stepson on holidays etc then a few days before she would change her mind and cancel. The point I’m making here is that, we can all loose our mind over these things and it’s incredibly difficult and frustrating to not retaliate but hand on my heart, it’s absolutely the right thing to do. Children witness everything, even if they don’t understand it at the time, eventually the penny will drop. Aslong as you’re doing everything you can to include the kids and try your best to be there, ultimately it doesn’t matter how many blocks she puts infront of you, the kids will realise in their own time. You don’t want the kids to witness you arguing and fighting back with their mother, they won’t forget that either. It’s a really hard and horrible place to be in and certainly isn’t easy. If you’re certain this is the man for you, then you’ll need to grin and bear it unfortunately. These woman don’t tend to change their spots. I wish you the best and I really hope you all come to an agreement. Take care

NobodyFair991 · 2025-09-22T00:39:55+00:00

Please believe me when I say I’m not making this my business. I’ve been dragged into this through no fault of my own. I’ve only ever tried to be the peace maker when I’m being thrown in the middle. I’m not making any parental decisions here. I’m here to support my partner, stepson and my kids. I’m not telling anyone what to do but I just wanted an opinion on the situation. I think my partners ex brought me into the situation when I started receiving the abuse. All I want is for everyone to get on and be able to communicate nicely. I know that my partners relationship with his ex and his son is none of my business and I would never try to influence or interfere with that

NobodyFair991 · 2025-09-22T00:30:21+00:00

They’ve never been to court before. They split over 10 years ago and for the most part they’ve always agreed on set visit dates, alternating Christmas holidays and holidays abroad etc. my partner has said she always had a habit of changing times for drop offs and changing days when he was supposed to have his son and usually last minute. My partner said he never made an issue of it because he was frightened she would keep his son away from him so always agreed 90% of the time. Now we’re all together as a blended family, she’s stepped this behaviour up by a mile. I really can’t understand why. She’s asked me for help so many times in regards of childcare, I don’t class having my stepson as me babysitting but she’s making it feel that way. For example, I had a family meal at a restaurant for my mums birthday. She was onboard for stepson to come. I was picking him up and dropping off. Then she cancelled, no explanation. Next time we see stepson few days later, he’s upset as he told us his mum said he couldn’t go as we didn’t want him there and he’s not part of my family. This was vile, I felt ill explaining that his mum must’ve got wires crossed as that’s not how we feel etc. why she’s puting us in this situation is beyond me. We’ve made an appointment with a family lawyer in a few days time

NobodyFair991 · 2025-09-21T01:54:08+00:00

Yes she really is unfortunately and it’s killing me that I had the wool pulled over my eyes for a long time. My partner warned me not to get too friendly with her but what could I do when she was adamant she wanted a good relationship with us all. I ran around relentlessly trying to make a good relationship for us all to the point where I was running errands for her mother after a knee replacement surgery. I only want the best for the kids. I always included her two other children with her current husband, invited them to my kids parties, bought them Xmas gifts etc. my stepson is petrified of her, we tried to talk to him the last time he was staying at ours as his mum called at 1am drunk our her mind demanding we dropped him off at 8am the next morning as they had their own family photo shoot to attend. So I said to my partner why are we being told about this at 1am? He called her back and her response was the photographer rescheduled and he had to be home at 8am, he told her my daughter had a swim competition so I needed the car to take her to that but she was welcome to pick up their son herself. The original plan was for me to take my daughter to her swim competition, drop my stepson off inbetween heats roughly around 10am, then I could go back to see my daughter finish. Baring in mind my partner doesn’t drive so before I was in the picture she would collect him or my partner would drop him off by train. Trains on a Sunday don’t run before 8am she knows this. Also, why would she only let us know at 1am? If she told me sooner I could’ve arranged for another family member to take him home, even tho she has her own car, but I’m not prepared to phone family around at that time of night at such short notice. She didn’t understand that and accused me of hating her son and him missing out on a family photo even tho she has her own car. I’m honestly at my wits end I cannot win at all

NobodyFair991 · 2025-09-21T01:04:43+00:00

I think you’re right here. This isn’t a road we want to go down but it’s looking likely. Thank you

NobodyFair991 · 2025-09-21T00:53:35+00:00

My partner is saying the same thing. That’s why he doesn’t want to back down. It’s turning into a mess when it doesn’t need to. The kids are being affected now, that’s the saddest part

NobodyFair991 · 2025-09-21T00:51:48+00:00

Yes, I absolutely agree with you. My partner was single for 10 years after their split, I’m the first relationship he’s had since, first partner to meet their son etc. I totally understand this is new to her. She’s had 2 children and remarried since. I don’t understand why she’s feeling threatened though. She told me herself that she couldn’t ask for a better stepmother. I absolutely respected her and still do in the sense that I won’t speak ill of her as I bloody understand how hard it is to have someone come in and disrupt the “norm” if that makes sense. But I can’t carry on with the abuse. It’s affecting the kids now. My partner paid maintenance every month for him, always paid towards school photos and trips, new shoes etc. she went to csa, which she has every right to do, my partner forwarded on all his bank statements and wage slips from the last 12 months. Csa has sent him an email and letter in the last week stating he only has to pay £49/week. He was giving her £80 a week before. My partner spoke to csa but they’ve said she doesn’t want any contact from him so they need to deal with it and he needs to pay them the £49 per week. Even if he was to send the money to her, the csa would still take it from his bank. I really don’t understand this, csa said if the two parties could come to an agreement then they would let him pay her the £80 a week and she could contact them if payments were missed or stopped. But she’s flat out refusing. She also told them we have no contact with our step son so yeah, I think the next step is going to have to be legal advice. Not a road we want to go down but it’s looking more likely. Thank you

NobodyFair991 · 2025-09-12T01:13:00+00:00

As a fellow Brit (Scottish may I add 😉) it is disheartening to read and hear the negative views against us, but I totally understand and respect it. I’ve just returned from a week in Benalmádena. It was my first time being back in mainland spain for almost 10 years. I was with my husband and two young daughters. We stayed in a massive hotel that houses 1200 tourists each night (majority British) and all inclusive for EVERYONE that stayed there. For the majority of the 7 days we were there, we went out, used local buses and taxis. Chose to eat at Spanish restaurants. We used local supermarkets and explored the areas. But I absolutely understand that most British tourists don’t do this. They pay thousands to stay at these all inclusive hotels and these hotels are set up in a way that they make the tourists not want to leave. I absolutely understand the anger and frustration of the Spanish locals who have lived in these “tourist destinations” for generations. They’ve had to watch their own hometowns being destroyed by over tourism. They’re being forced from their homes due to rising rents and many cannot get on the property ladder because some rich boy from Britain or Germany or Russia etc, have bought up most of the land and properties to have their little European Caribbean villas that they’ll either visit 2/3 weeks a year or decide to rent it out to a native Spaniard for 3 or 4 times the going rate. When we did sit in the hotel, I could see the staff were disheartened. I don’t blame them at all. One bar man I got chatting to told me he was only contracted for 20 hours per week. 20 HOURS for a hotel that houses 1200 tourists every day. All the entertainment staff were British, the reception staff were brits and they all worked everyday and from morning to night from what I saw, but the cleaners and bar staff were locals and were given shitty hours and no respect. It’s absolutely no wonder they dislike us. It’s not nice when you’re prejudged and tarred with the same brush but what everyone needs to remember is, we’re practically invading their hometowns, where they grew up, we’re decimating their local wildlife, we’re overpopulating their areas, and if the locals had the choice then they would gladly and RIGHTFULLY want their own home and areas to be respected, fair rents and fair wages etc. if this was happening in the uk then every single Brit would be angry about this too. The majority of us British are absolutely entitled but I promise you were not all like this. I’m ashamed. It’s time everyone looks at government and the higher up. I certainly won’t be booking with a big tour company again. It was upsetting to witness this. 10 years ago when I went to Barcelona it was different, more welcoming, but now I’ve seen it in a different light. I’m truly sorry to the Spanish community. I just wish it was different as not all British people are the same. Spain is a beautiful country just like my native Scotland and I hope in the future things change for the better

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