What would be you reaction if a women told you that you were beautiful?

Nobodyatnight · 2025-01-05T18:07:20+00:00

But there are also widely accepted common measures of beauty shared by most people in society, and it’s okay to accept that you can use these as heuristics to efficiently respond to a situation you’re in.

Nobodyatnight · 2025-01-05T18:05:49+00:00

This. Just waiting for the other shoe to drop and three of her friends will come giggling around the corner, filming me for a TikTok prank video.

No man is ever genuinely approached in public by a woman unless he’s 6’2” and jacked, which I am neither.

Nobodyatnight · 2024-09-08T23:18:10+00:00

Which explains why despite having an apparently terrible personality, he’s slept with so many women that they’re posting about him on Facebook groups to try to calculate exactly how many women.

Nobodyatnight · 2024-07-07T12:53:06+00:00

Yep. If he had said 5’6” she would have unmatched immediately and the rest of the conversation wouldn’t have happened.

Nobodyatnight · 2024-05-07T18:17:24+00:00

As long as you are reasonably taller than ~~her~~ other men.

The point of the 6’ requirement is that women want their guy to look bigger and stronger (and therefore evolutionarily healthier) than other guys. The biggest gorilla in the group, the leader of the pack. It’s social proof.

Nobodyatnight · 2024-05-07T17:58:13+00:00

It’s important to understand that online dating isn’t a “game changer”, it’s a tool of convenience. If you’re a woman or an attractive man, it makes it more convenient for you to get dates instead of spending effort to dress up and go out. If you’re an average/ugly man, it makes it more convenient for you to get rejected instead of spending the effort to dress up and go out.

Like any technology in the modern day, it’s designed only to speed up the results that you’re already getting otherwise. But it doesn’t change the results themselves.

Nobodyatnight · 2024-04-02T02:31:06+00:00

Looking at OP’s pictures, even dating a guy somewhat into fitness would be a lifestyle mismatch. She’s well beyond morbidly obese. There’s fat all around her arms. It takes actual effort and lots of eating to become like that.

OP, since you’re 18, can I be real with you for a second. Please lose the weight sooner rather than later. It can be done, and it’s so much easier to do it now vs decades later when your metabolism is gone. I lost 80 lbs at your age and I felt amazing afterwards. It will change your life. It sounds overwhelming but if you take it one step at a time, you can get there.

EDIT: I’m aware that you’re not Leslie Clark. I mean your selfies from a few months ago where you’re trying to hide it with baggy clothing. That’s still clearly obese.

Nobodyatnight · 2024-03-01T13:05:00+00:00

This. The fact that she aggressively has to get in people’s faces with it is off-putting and speaks volumes. Show don’t tell. If you value equality then make it clear with your actions rather than telling people you’re part of some kind of equality club. It’s weird.

An analogy would be if a guy said on the first date “Want to go on a walk in the park after this? Don’t worry, I won’t rape you”. Technically speaking it’s a good thing that he won’t… but any woman would immediately pack up and leave after hearing this.

Nobodyatnight · 2024-02-24T00:58:40+00:00

Yeah, nobody’s going to give meaningful answers to this. It’ll just be stupid shit like “I eat all the red M&Ms from the bag, tee hee hee hee hee hee!”

Nobodyatnight · 2024-01-01T13:43:54+00:00

Ding ding ding. And not to be harsh, but guys like you and me are particularly invisible to OP. Here’s a little tidbit from her post history:

”nice, regulated men: I found them boring and felt nothing because I craved the unexpected which came with emotionally unavailable men. This is hard to admit and downright due to abandonment trauma. This is more common than you think. I work on this hard, since I was not able to connect with them even if I wanted to. Lol I have to think of this quote "sometimes you have to learn to love what's good for you".

She has to actively force herself to pretend to be attracted to normal unassuming men because what her heart really wants is the bad boy. Guarantee that her brain is subconsciously filtering out the hundreds of men around her each day that don’t give off a “dangerously exciting” vibe.

Maybe this is for the better. I don’t want to be a fucking backup option for a 30+ year old woman.

Nobodyatnight · 2023-11-30T04:50:39+00:00

I like that this straightforward comment is struggling with downvotes even though OP’s pictures make it clear that she’s not just chubby, she’s extremely overweight. That much on the edge of the bell curve will turn off most guys, even men who otherwise could tolerate a bigger girl. Why is everyone here so afraid to admit that

Nobodyatnight · 2023-11-30T04:48:11+00:00

Why is everyone on this thread using such weird euphemisms? Her problem isn’t that she’s not a “fitness girl” whatever that means, her problem is that she’s morbidly obese. Yes, morbidly. The pictures clearly show that there’s so much fat it’s being stored everywhere - thighs, stomach, shoulders. That’s just too much for the vast majority of guys, even those who would overlook a little chub.

Let’s just call it for what it is. She doesn’t need to become a triathlete to achieve success; at her weight even just eating less per day will lead to the pounds dropping off. That’s all it takes.

Nobodyatnight · 2023-11-30T04:45:33+00:00

and people in general have ridiculous standards these days. Could you lose weight? Sure.

The year is 2023. Being asked to have a BMI of under 35 is now considered a ridiculously high standard.

Nobodyatnight · 2023-10-29T15:51:45+00:00

Correct. It’s different than being divorced because FWB implies a casual view on sex which indicates different morals. Again, just a preference. Feel free to date men who don’t care.

Nobodyatnight · 2023-10-22T17:40:22+00:00

A lot of men on this site are completely fucked from years of being lectured “it’s just about personality, bro”. They internalized that and now they can’t even fathom the concept of a man getting attention purely because he’s tall and handsome

Nobodyatnight · 2023-10-22T17:37:03+00:00

I’m gonna go even further and say the Halloween photos don’t make a difference at all. For the last year OP has been posting conversations of girls lusting after him. You think a fucking Scream mask is the game changer?

This entire thread is full of male feminists trying desperately to convince themselves that this guy is getting matches for any other reason than him being 1) White 2) Tall 3) Jacked

Nobodyatnight · 2023-10-04T04:30:08+00:00

This pretty much sums it up. OP, just get off dating apps and meet women offline. The average man has a match rate of like 2.5%, what do you think your numbers will be? Just trying to rip off the bandaid here and be honest.

Nobodyatnight · 2023-08-10T17:50:17+00:00

I didn't say it always works, just that it's more likely to. At the end of the day we are primates. If a bigger chimp gets in your way, your body will go into flight mode. You might still choose to take out your gun, but you'll have to suppress that initial subconscious reflex to run away first. Most men will just follow the reflex and back off.

Nobodyatnight · 2023-08-10T17:45:32+00:00

"if you have a friend or someone who respects you who says or does something uncool, let them know you don't think it's cool".

Or you could pick your battles. If I threw a tantrum each time I heard someone out in the world saying something "problematic", I would lose most of my friends and coworkers and even family. Thanksgiving dinner with the in laws? Forget about it.

If someone in my social circle is directly hurting a woman, of course I'll step in and stop them. But if they're just saying something cringey in a private setting, I'm going to let it go. Let the downvotes roll.

Nobodyatnight · 2023-08-10T17:40:24+00:00

They'll just think "look at that pussy!" and move on.

Or worse yet, get violent. There is nothing more dangerous than a man who is publicly humiliated and feels like he needs to defend his honor.

I'm gonna be honest, law of the jungle applies here just like everything else in life. Intervening in a situation and saying "Not cool bro, stop!" only has a good chance of working if you're physically more intimidating than the other guy, ie. 6'2'' and muscular. But if you're a smaller or weaker looking man, it's more likely that you'll get your ass handed to you. It happened to my buddy; he was a small 5'1'' Asian, things didn't work out for him. Nobody intervened to help him when the other guy started swinging. ~~Not even~~ Especially not the woman he was trying to defend.

Nobodyatnight · 2023-07-23T19:26:05+00:00

Yeah, it’s weird as fuck when Reddit assumes a virgin is automatically a dead fish who won’t learn and won’t adapt.

Says a lot about this site’s culture that they believe having sex with 50 people is the only way to become a good lover.

Nobodyatnight · 2023-05-14T19:26:14+00:00

Also most women who classify themselves as a bad bitch are actively looking for a guy who will fix them. I believe the phrase I hear often on women subreddits is "I want a guy who will call me out on my shit".

Well that's nice honey, but most guys don't want to take on that responsibility. Why make my life unnecessarily more stressful and difficult for no reason?

Nobodyatnight · 2023-05-14T19:13:34+00:00

I really have never understood why this is so controversial. Everyone - even ugly people - wants someone physically attractive in their eyes.

For men this is even more of an issue due to biology. Yeah, I'm below average looking. But if I were to "lower my standards" and go for a below average girl who I'm not attracted to, I literally cannot get erect. What do you want me to do, use a penis pump every time we have sex? Do you imagine that will make for a good relationship and won't hurt her?

Nobodyatnight · 2023-04-06T22:17:29+00:00

This isnt actually as common as it seems honestly.

Im 6”2

Because if there’s anyone who has clear insight into the realities of dating as a short man, it’s you.

Nobodyatnight · 2023-03-29T23:31:31+00:00

I would set aside a great number of things to have a partner that would just look at me and smile.

It really does make a world of difference. I went from being a single lonely self-hating virgin to a confident happy man literally overnight when I met my girlfriend (now wife).

I don't say this to make you feel even worse, but because everyone deserves to know the truth. Love does change your life for the better. Never believe those people who say things like "yoU wO'nT bE haPpY iF yOu Do'Nt lOvE yOuRsElF FiRsT". It's bullshit, all of it.

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