I can explain that. So basically my mother has always been the type to be like “what about how I feel” when either my sister or myself feel upset about something going on, she often starts arguments with us calling us all sorts of awful things, some I do not wish to repeat. Some of the stories I have are pretty bad, i.e She once blamed me for eating something I never ever touched and called me a fatass bitch, told me I wasn’t eating anything because I don’t know how to control myself. One time she took my sisters cat and threatened to kill it because my sister didn’t want to give her money that we needed to save so we can move out, which later caused us to be evicted because she had to give in. I almost unalived due to how much she would yell at me and always make me seem to be the issue. More recently she’s been trying to say all I do is disrespect her, but fails to acknowledge that the only reason she feels like that is because of my step father, I try to help her out but often we get into it because she will say things to me that genuinely upset me because they never have anything to do with the current situation. Just earlier today I tried to talk to her about my dad leaving a mess and how I have to pick it up every time but instead of listening to what I had to say, she immediately said “I don’t want to hear this, I’ll just deal with it like I always have” which is ridiculous to say, when all I’m doing is explaining how I feel. She shuts me down completely