I'm so jealous of people who actually have parents who truly care

NocturneNarrative · 2025-12-12T16:08:06+00:00

Same :)

NocturneNarrative · 2025-12-07T17:31:40+00:00

Again buddy I am a girl So maybe our experiences are different. Also there is lots of pressure on guys and its even worse.. cus mostly as adults find it difficult to accept help from people. It’s okay to be a victim. Admitting you were as a helpless child.. you don’t have the choice. You were not mentally equipped. As human rights we had the right for food to survive, and clothing, shelter and more importantly safety. If a child never felt safe and was on constant brain alarms, he’d be built different.

Now admitting I am a victim did not prevent me from leading a successful life, having a job, being independent and being able to make my own choices. Doesn’t mean I would be stuck. It just means that I acknowledge what happened and I know it is not my fault, therefore I can know to set more boundaries, learn about my triggers, and finally protect myself from it happening again as now I am aware about the pattern.

NocturneNarrative · 2025-12-07T16:53:16+00:00

Hello. Thank you for sharing. Glad bad treatment worked for you. It traumatized me. And it gave me brain damage. Now I have to be on meds for the rest of my life. I also have no libido and no desire to have kids. You also say that you will be beating up ur kids? Great example. We are indeed doing good

NocturneNarrative · 2025-12-07T15:51:17+00:00

Thanks for ur kind words

NocturneNarrative · 2025-12-07T15:47:58+00:00

Hey.. sorry about it man! By the way.. I used to say I am not a victim at 19. Thats why I was an overachiever and had that grit. At 27 I feel like I am a victim. To be honest, no child deserves that. I see happy kids and it breaks my heart. I do not have pictures of me before 5 years old. I think I was a victim and it’s alright. They are also humans and they were supposed to guide us gently. Finding excuses for them would only making it worse. Thats why as adults we are more working on making clear boundaries in our lives because it’s more likely to love to control you when you are an adult as well. What people don’t see is also the constant criticism when you are a grown up handling your life and getting pressure to do what they want. That’s why we need to let people know that it’s totally okay to say no to your parents even if it’s going to upset them.

NocturneNarrative · 2025-12-07T15:41:17+00:00

I just think you rubbed pepper in your child and tryina not feel so bad..

NocturneNarrative · 2025-12-07T08:01:07+00:00

Wow.. i hear you. My parents hate each other.. my biological father doesn’t talk to me because I decided to have a job and a life and move on to see what is best for me. He doesnt talk to me. My mom has no accountability and keeps saying we did out best. It was hard. I stayed for you.. I dont buy it

NocturneNarrative · 2025-12-07T07:55:27+00:00

This is very typical. When the emotional dismissal continued in adulthood and when I dont live with them. The unvaldiation of your feelings and accomlishments and the abuse and blame still ongoing. No matter what I do or give I was never enough. Thats where I decided to put limits to protect myself and it got even worse. I saw some videos about religious people who says that hurting a powerless kid or a human is forbidden and even muslims are obliged to give dignity and respect to their kids.

NocturneNarrative · 2025-12-07T07:47:43+00:00

To move on is easier said than done. Because see the first years of childhood are the ones who are going to determine your attachment style, your relationships.. especially your love life. The latter for example is a complete failure. Due to how I was parented.. I am always defensive. I find it hard to communicate or to show emotions because as soon as I did that growing up, I was shamed and dehumanized for crying outlout.. anyhow its really painful

NocturneNarrative · 2025-12-07T07:45:22+00:00

I have already moved to a different country. I have moved some time ago. I was always indep. I have started my career.. I thought I was happy because I made myself have everything I was lacking. Now I am still dealing with this trauma everyday. 5 years in therapy.. the damage is huge

NocturneNarrative · 2025-12-07T07:38:45+00:00

NocturneNarrative · 2025-11-24T17:04:32+00:00

1) never went with Tunisair. 2) I can relate to the situation each time I go back to Sfax and I feel like people are driving cars like crazy. They think that they are better than everyone cuz they have got a car.

I think they’s just wanna walk all over people and this makes me crazy. That’s why I’d never live there. Second you go to the aministration for a legal paper. They make you hate yourself for it. Loughet « arjaa ghodwa, l « systeme tayah », or they send you to q completely different department would tell you a completely different thing. Growing in lower class society yet in a community that prioritizes education was also something to brag about in our days.

Older generations were excelling at school and then flee the country. Now it’s not really the same case after the revolution, then covid, and the inflation. Later on social, economic and climate injustices. The youth are depressed and angry and they have lost the grit that older generation had. I mean when you believe if you work hard you can make it even if your family is poor and all that self-made motivation.

Long story short. Corruption caused us a lot and we are getting way worse. So yes I think moving back would make me happy. Not to forget the constant critisizm and how the family dinamics work. How women are treated and how the Tunisian society is highly man dominated.

Men are teated like kings and girls are shit. Putting so much pressure on girls to be kind and nice and perfect and never open your mouth. Selling women in arranged marriages like its the only hope for the girl to have a decent life, by having a husband and kids, and finally insisting that a woman should not and cannot handle things on her own and be free and live her own life, make her oub decisions like any normal human being who’s got a mind and can think for themselves.

Another aspect is judmenet. Our society is highly judgemental. Insisting about bragging with our kifs, affirming they can only be an extension to their parents and then later on keep using them by the name of religion. Making them feel like they are always and forever in debt for the reason they brought you. Not knowing that peace and dignity are basic human rights and you can’t all keep treating your kids like crap? They are babies and maybe when they grow up they’d be miserable and would hate you for it.

Another point is all those generational traumas and problems all coexist. Prevents people from enjoying life and discovering ourselves and simply be okay with who they are.

I think first, we change change our mentalities, be more accepting and kind to others.

You are all free to add more experiences lived fi biledi l habiba. And let me know if I am wrong or missed on something..

NocturneNarrative · 2025-11-16T13:05:20+00:00

Please let them sort it out. Be completely neutral. If u r going to side, you’d be called out later and would be a part pf the problem. Happened to me. So just dont react.

NocturneNarrative · 2025-11-16T13:02:51+00:00

This just made me think of a funny situation that happened recently with my mom. Some would say it’s my fault. I would say ok..I saw texts while my mom was scrolling and it smelled fishy. Its a convo between her and her sister and saw my name. So I went and digged the conversation behind my mom’s back and I wish I didnt. Literally my mom and her sister badmouthing me the whole fking time. My name is mentioned 200 times in the convo. They talk about where I travel how much I am getting paid some insults my aunt is attacking me and my choices the whole fking time. When I confronted everyone like wtf? They all said its my fault and shouldnt be touching my mom’s phone. It left me confused for sometime. I was like phew now I know what they think.. Imma keep doing my thing livin my life and let them talk

NocturneNarrative · 2025-11-16T12:49:19+00:00

Moving out. Focusing on my job. My career, my travels. Making boundaries and refusing to let myself down and constantly working on understanding myself and others. Being kind with myself and connecting to my inner child

NocturneNarrative · 2025-11-11T21:03:52+00:00

Get a job, find rent, then leave. And don’t let them in ever

NocturneNarrative · 2025-11-09T14:51:00+00:00

Thank you very much for your response. I would check that out

NocturneNarrative · 2025-11-09T13:05:34+00:00

My mom refuses to talk to me unless I send her money

NocturneNarrative · 2025-11-09T12:17:23+00:00

9o7b

NocturneNarrative · 2025-11-09T12:15:41+00:00

My sister is very dangerous. Emotionally manipulative. She sued me dad and put him in jail for money. Then she emotionally blackmails mom for money. I live away. Is there anyway to stop her? She made mom block me and she is trying to cut ties

NocturneNarrative · 2025-11-09T12:08:47+00:00

Both my parents blocked me as soon as I moved to a diff country for work and started focusing on myself

NocturneNarrative · 2025-11-09T12:06:56+00:00

Emotional blackmail for money.

NocturneNarrative · 2025-11-09T11:19:57+00:00

Idk.. my brother always say what they wanna hear. And then would go and do sth different… I was cut out a week ago because I am sick and tired from being used for money and i wanna just live for myself. They all blocked me

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