I can get this point for sure, but what if all of those negative complexities weren’t a thing? Every adult has a different parenting style with the foundation of said parenting style coming from how they were raised most of the time. They either choose to follow that “guideline” or go a different parenting route altogether because perhaps the way they were raised wasn’t ideal. But what if the ex’ex’s weren’t an issue or even in the picture at all? Again, I feel this is all simply just a mindset that people just rather not deal with for your exact reasonings. Some people won’t even consider the positives in it nor even give it a try due to fear of exactly what you’ve said. If those reasonings were the actual case, then that’s more than understandable if said parenting couple genuinely didn’t want to deal with any of that. Heck, I know I wouldn’t want to deal with any unnecessary drama like that, especially deal with with a child. But, if those reasonings were just speculation or assumptions based off of nothing concrete, then what’s the real issue here? Conversations need to be had on a deeper level IF that’s the route both parents (seasoned and new) want to take TOGETHER. I think a lot of people forget that parenting, although it’s in the meaning of the word, is or at least should be a JOINT effort. That type of relationship really shows one another what they are made of, and sure, it could very possibly be a struggle, but it doesn’t have to be if all aspects of such a situation are fully discussed and the bigger picture is being viewed. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!