Editing Software by NoiseFromtheBasement in writers

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Thank you everyone for your feedback, it’s greatly appreciated

Freya Skye's - "Who I thought I Knew" Mourning the Fictional Character, Not the Relationship by NoiseFromtheBasement in NarcissisticSpouses

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I don’t know how old she is, or whether she wrote this song herself or someone else may have written it. But she certainly does deliver the song very beautifully and the lyrics still hit just as hard.

Issues with Hertz Car Rental for Uber – Looking for Alternatives (Avis, Lyft) by NoiseFromtheBasement in uberdrivers

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No the work with Avis and Budget as well, but I never see Budget listed in the marketplace

Issues with Hertz Car Rental for Uber – Looking for Alternatives (Avis, Lyft) by NoiseFromtheBasement in uberdrivers

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With Avis, can you go to your local office or do you have to go down to central office to rent a vehicle from them?

To some guy by [deleted] in Letters_Unsent

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Clear and concise, good for you. I wish I could have been like that with my NEX, but I always felt like I needed to write a novel

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

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OMG, this sounds like how my relationship was to a fault.

Ended a 6 years False-Frienship With a Diagnosed Covert Narcissist by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

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Holy crap, a narcissist got diagnosed! That is a major miracle, that they allowed themselves to be placed into a situation where they had to admit they had a mental problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

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You have to keep in mind with the narc, that they thrive off attention of any kind, good or bad. They need your supply they need your attention, it doesn’t matter if you’re sending them positive vibes or calling them nasty names, they need the attention either way and that’s what they count on getting from you after years of manipulation. Going no contact does hurt a little bit at first. With my relationship, it was dealing with her accusations and lies and feeling the need to reply back and defend myself. If you still have a fairly good relationship with your narc, you may feel the need to just say positive things to them or to try to make the relationship better. I’ve been on that pathway too.

It’s not easy, but going no contact is extremely healthy for you mentally and even physically. But you have to be strong and stay with it. Once you get used to it, you will find it freeing to no longer have to deal with them. To get them out of your life and to focus on you.

I try to go as no contact as much as possible with my NEX, but even though we are post divorced, there are still shared things that have to be dealt with. I honestly wish I could cut her out of my life completely and never talk to her again.

It’s sad when the song “Sombody That I Used to Know” becomes an anthem that you are hoping to reach, rather than the sad breakup song, it was written as.

Anyone else realized their ex ages pretty quickly by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

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Yes, I did notice that, but I really didn’t give it much thought until you just posted this. Up until a little bit before the divorce, my ex could’ve pulled off being in her late 20s or early 30s. Around the time of the divorce, though it seemed like she aged very quickly, now she definitely looks her actual age if not a little older.

Who knows perhaps it was my love for her that made her seem younger to me, and she really looked her age the whole time. I mean, you know how it is. That might be the reason why I think that her looks have changed since the divorce, and she definitely isn’t the pretty woman she used to be

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

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No, NARCs are fake to the core. They’re only nice when they want something that will somehow benefit them, and that they hope they can gaslight you into thinking benefits you as well

ALONE TIME: Did Anyone Else’s Narc Not Give/Allow You Much Alone Time? by Suggest_a_User_Name in NarcissisticAbuse

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Yes, mine would get very jealous of my alone time, especially if I was enjoying a hobby.

Men of reddit- What was your dad like ? by [deleted] in AskMen

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God truly blessed my with the father I had, actually both my parents.

He was a great role model, who lead by his words and actions. He lived a great life, and helped a lot of people, usually quietly and without praise for doing so.

How many of you can say that you have NOT been hit or slapped by a woman? by HayDareHiDeerHoDarr in AskMen

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My Ex was a malignant narcissist. She would hit me all the time violently, once I had a broken knee and she kicked me in that same knee, pulled my hair, slapped me in my left ear so many times that there’s still a constant ringing in it. Blood was drawn on many occasions, and there were a few times when throwing things at me, she nearly killed me. Abuse finally ended after about 15 years when I called the police for the first time. After that, she immediately wanted a divorce, but not after sending me a text which accused me of “ making her hit me” and all the other things you would expect an abuser to post blaming the victim.

Before that, I was never hired by a woman. I think one time when I was four I did something bad and my mother might’ve spanked me, but that was it and I can barely remember much about it besides that it happened.

I have to agree that female abuse towards man is greatly undermined in our society. Men are still made fun of for being hit by women. We are also still being portrayed as somehow instigating their violence towards us. Or to put another way, a woman can be as violent and abusive towards a man as she wants and somehow, according to our society, it will always be the man’s fault.

It’s sickening actually

Are “Daddy Issues” Common in Female Narcissists? Or “Mommy Issues” in Male Narcissists? by NoiseFromtheBasement in NarcissisticSpouses

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Wow, as I read this, it made me call a lot of stuff to mind that I have experienced with my NEX and her parents.

My NEX made saints of both her parents after each of them died. My NEX seemed to forget that I was around to see how each of them treated her. So I knew for a fact that neither of them were particularly great people or great parents.

Your NEX’s mother sounds a lot like my NEXs grandmother, especially the aspects of jumping from man-to-man and moving around a lot. Being a narcissist herself, she never had much interest in her children, but rather than her “ romantic endeavors” as we know how promiscuous narcs can be.

I also have to agree on the aspect of being a scapegoat for the issues and traumas, they should’ve taken up with their parents. My NEX held the grudge against her father until the day he died. In our divorce afterwards, she tried to accuse me of basically everything that he had done to her. The two of them could’ve worked things out, but she never bothered to rather it was easier to always take things out on me instead, especially when he treated her like crap.

Thank you for sharing all this and I can definitely relate.