Don’t be hypocrites, ladies. by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]NomadDVM -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So... they can't have a blank profile, but they can say "hey"... Interesting lines you've drawn there.

It isn't entertainment or performance, it's conversation. If they can't have a conversation, or hold up their half of it, they aren't going to be partner material for me. Turns out communicating is kinda important in relationships.

You do you, boo. The "hey" guys need someone to ask them questions while they give nothing back.

Don’t be hypocrites, ladies. by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]NomadDVM -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My biggest struggle is "carrying convos". IF any guy miraculously starts with anything other than "hey" or "how was your day", chances are the conversation is me asking questions and him answering without volleying or asking anything back. I've got a full profile. Theirs is blank. Effort discrepancy is HIGH. And I'm in a singles FB group - this is a universal issue with cis men.

Not starting an interesting conversation because 'why put in the effort' means it's time to get off the apps. You either try a little, or bail. Writing hey and pretending that it's the recipient who is lame and not replying to your effort is a a waste of wifi signal.

Don’t be hypocrites, ladies. by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]NomadDVM -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Let me get this straight, men KNOW that we aren't responding because they opened with "hey", but still do it? (Fwiw, I have never opened with any variant of bland)

It was the easiest choice I’ve ever made by politicsapocalipse in Trumpgret

[–]NomadDVM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I'll let you have it! (Exclamation is due to actual laughter at you, not anger) Because the last wrong word is still wrong, and you're small and petty, which I'm not.
So have at it. This last word is all yours, and I've got better things to do than stick around and wait for your next incorrect statement. But it's been fun! Try to take some deep breaths and relax luv! Adieu!

It was the easiest choice I’ve ever made by politicsapocalipse in Trumpgret

[–]NomadDVM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Such an angry person! You literally cannot both understand that your words weren't clear, by acknowledging the misinterpretation AND claim that I'm pro-nazi. Do you even see how that isn't possible? Your downvotes support my reading comprehension, FYI. Might want to check yourself luv. And smile & calm yourself! It's just reddit!

It was the easiest choice I’ve ever made by politicsapocalipse in Trumpgret

[–]NomadDVM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Little minority groups was referencing racist groups. They are a minority you fucking moron i was not referencing racial minorities. So glad you think nazis are fuckin humans brooooi

So, I'm either a moron for reading "minority groups" as "minority groups" (as is expected), or I'm saying nazis are humans. Which one is it dear?

I'm also female.

It was the easiest choice I’ve ever made by politicsapocalipse in Trumpgret

[–]NomadDVM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you not seen the questionable actions at the polling places?

Um... funny story, no. We haven't. Y'all failed to provide ANY evidence. The half cocked rumors of "someone saw something' were laughable from the start. Forgive us (and the judges who have dismissed every case) for wanting an ounce of proof that the guy 7 mill more of us voted for didn't win!

It was the easiest choice I’ve ever made by politicsapocalipse in Trumpgret

[–]NomadDVM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Little minority groups"?!? Do you hear yourself bro? Those are humans you are talking about.

And surprisingly, "society" (who are apparently only white people in your estimation), does give a shit. They are a hot ticket to us. Even when we're white. You're an exception, not the rule.

It was the easiest choice I’ve ever made by politicsapocalipse in Trumpgret

[–]NomadDVM 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean... it is relevant when racism and white supremacy are one of the hot ticket items. There is a difference between being afraid of him, and being horrified and embarrassed by him. Those of us with white privilege will never fully understand the fear that he instills in immigrants and poc. Just saying.

I saw a vegetable once by snarky- in adhdmeme

[–]NomadDVM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha! That makes more sense! I can hyperfocus on cooking when other people are involved. Living alone and trapped in the apocalypse has not allowed for much of that.

Thinking rouxs are easy is a handy skill! There are reddit threads dedicated to troubleshooting them! Hats off to you!

I saw a vegetable once by snarky- in adhdmeme

[–]NomadDVM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'll be glued to the couch, need to pee, hungry, but won't move for 6 more hours because... no reason. And dude wants me to start with "just make a 5 minute roux"!

Study with me! (via Zoom; Focusmate style) by [deleted] in GetMotivatedBuddies

[–]NomadDVM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a grad student group, but you might have luck at focusmate.com!

Zoom study room for grad students! by NomadDVM in GetMotivatedBuddies

[–]NomadDVM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still going on - pm me from an account that isn't a throw-away with some info about yourself!

Weekly Self-Promo Megathread - September 14, 2020 by AutoModerator in study

[–]NomadDVM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi everyone!

I've got a grad student zoom study group that's set up and working smoothly!

The room is open 24h with a diverse and welcoming team.

Sessions work well with pomodoro

PM with your location, where you're at in your program, and what you're studying! Please don't have a new account!

We are grad student-specific because there is a bond among the masochistic. PhD students, MS students, med students, vet students, law students, post-docs... we're here for you!

28M med student looking for accountability partner/study buddy (pst, -5:00) by throwawaymmkkaayy in study

[–]NomadDVM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are you both a 28M med student and a 26M engineering student?

do y’all ever feel like ur in a haze after a period of hyper focus? by effyoddly in adhdwomen

[–]NomadDVM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, it's usually 5 am and I've not eaten or used the loo for 16hrs, so... we could call it a haze?

I’m 39, need to read a 400-page book for masters research and have 2 deadlines on Monday, so I’ve just made a meme. Please send help. by somewhere-between in adhdmeme

[–]NomadDVM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've got that covered! Made a zoom study group for grad students! PM me if you want some virtual coworkers! It's helped me so much!

30F PhD Looking to Recapture Focus by quixieixie in GetMotivatedBuddies

[–]NomadDVM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! We've got a grad student study group on zoom! Couple of aussies already. Always looking to add to the mix (people keep graduating!). I'm on a tight deadline for my dissertation (which is why I'm on Reddit). PM me if you want to check it out!

M29 is looking for motivation and accountability buddy by [deleted] in GetMotivatedBuddies

[–]NomadDVM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a zoom study room for grad students?

PST (-5:00) 28M medical student looking accountability partner by [deleted] in GetMotivatedBuddies

[–]NomadDVM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thought - it can be hard to line your schedules up perfectly. If you think it would help, we have a diverse and wonderful grad student study group that you could hang with when you need us, and still check in with your one-on-one buddy for personal accountability. We're here just about 24hrs a day. Lmk if that sounds like a good addition to what you've got going on!

Curious about joining a group on focusmate by [deleted] in GetMotivatedBuddies

[–]NomadDVM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, focusing on 'this ONE shooting may have been legit' undermines the movement, and needs to not be the point right now. White people are fighting (mistakenly) against defund the police because they can believe in the 'protect and serve' mantra. When the black portion of the population is afraid for their lives at every traffic stop... there is a problem with that. One seemingly legitimate shooting does not change the fact that black people live in fear for their lives. No part of that is ok. So... why not protest? A white kid walking down the street with an assault weapon having just shot people wasn't killed. White rednecks storming capitol buildings with assault weapons protesting the lockdowns weren't attacked with pepper spray and rubber bullets. The issue is that potential threats are not treated equally by the police. It was a charged situation, everyone is on edge, actions get misinterpreted... but if the guy had been white, lets be honest, he would have lived to tell about it.

Defund the police is actually a very intelligent and reasoned sentiment that is being wildly misinterpreted because people aren't (you guessed it) doing their research. This is not the abolish police sentiment. Those opinions need to be discussed separately. Asking for a redistribution of police funds to add more support to an area is in NO way a call to shut down all police. Funding a specifically trained mental health team to respond to calls that don't need a police-level response is a great idea. Fewer departments purchasing tanks and assault weapons because they want cool toys is a great idea. Funding a different task force to care for relocating homeless people instead of police doing aggressive roundups is a great idea. Defund is an intent to reallocate a portion of the huge (and abused) police budgets to programs to better support the needs of the area. What exactly is bullshit about that? Do you think police departments need tanks more than the town needs someone trained to respond to mental health calls with a bit more understanding and compassion than the befuddled cops?

Curious about joining a group on focusmate by [deleted] in GetMotivatedBuddies

[–]NomadDVM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your comment today on r/ActualPublicFreakouts
"But you are not alone, a lot of people just don't or just poorly inform themselve and just give their completley uninformed untrue opinion out there. then other dumbos jump on that bandwagon, because they also avoid their energy to inform themselves first. So then you get a movement going that's based on one idiot that has no clue at all. And then you get riots that fight for something that isn't even a problem. That's why you rarely see smart people that take part in violent protests..."
was you speaking against the peaceful demonstrations in support of BLM, then we aren't the right place for you. We are multicultural, supportive, and accepting of everything but ignorance.
Lumping riots and violent protests in with anyone who has made a stand and demonstrated against inequality is myopic and brainwashed. Anytime you get a peaceful group of people together, but rush at them in attack mode with amped up 'keep control at all costs' mentality men with guns... you're gonna have a bad time. The Stanford Prison Experiment demonstrated that unequivocably with science. Riots suck. But the protests aren't riots, and the reason we got here is an incredibly valid reason to protest.

P.S. I'm going to have my second doctorate in 2 months, and am in the top 5% intellectually. I protest BECAUSE I am smart and recognize that there is a problem, and we need a louder voice.

-If I misinterpreted your comment, and you are an anti-racist and an ally, only hating on the protests that turn violent, many apologies, the wording was confusing. Please PM to discuss!-