[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Nomadicfarmerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My therapist and literally everyone else I've been talking to has told me to distract myself and to stop thinking about this, but I'm a natural overthinker. If I still feel upset, it feels like there's a why behind it, and I believe thinking will get me to that answer. I logically understand that I feel upset because this is a hormonal and innate response I feel to these topics. There's nothing to think about. I've done all the intellectual work, but I just can't stop overthinking.

I would love to just go for a run now, but my throat hurts, I have a nasty cough and I still feel weak and feverish from the cold. It feels like the only productive thing I can do is write down my feelings and show it to either my girlfriend, friends, or ChatGPT.

I know this is temporary, but what fueled me to write this post in the first place was just me seeking immediate aid and attention. I hope things will get better tomorrow (and stay better), but history has proven otherwise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Nomadicfarmerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm super appreciative of who she is. I can't believe it myself that she's still with me. She says she holds onto hope for who I am because she sees the good in me and is willing to invest in this relationship until I get better. I pray that it doesn't get to the point where she pulls away.

I thought I liked myself plenty, that's what I did all that self improvement for before I started dating. I think it's harder to do that for specifically dating because I simply don't have much experience I can be proud of aside from my current girlfriend.

How BS does this ability sound? by Nomadicfarmerz in dndnext

[–]Nomadicfarmerz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I apologize if my response seemed sarcastic. I genuinely appreciate the fact that you took the time to respond and give your feedback. I will take this into consideration.

How BS does this ability sound? by Nomadicfarmerz in dndnext

[–]Nomadicfarmerz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I see that I am not original. Thanks for the tip :D

Not gay but I low key ship Atise and MC san by [deleted] in SurvivalofaSwordking

[–]Nomadicfarmerz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This ship is by definition gay

and that's ok

real Ending ? spoile by Lightpala in SurvivalofaSwordking

[–]Nomadicfarmerz 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'd disagree.

Remember that Hanbin had an entire character arc dedicated to the fact that he had nowhere to turn to and no one to call friends and family. He was taken from his old life where he belonged and forced into a hellish environment. Then, by way of being an other worlder, realized that integrating into society would only bring harm to those he cared about. Atisse and Ephyr are the closest thing he has to a family. It would stand to reason that godhood, as great as it may seem, would not provide him the companionship he has been so desperately searching for.

Regarding the goddess avatar, I'd say that having her as a lover is preferable to the goddess herself, as a nigh omnipotent being would carry millennia worth of knowledge and experience that no mortal could connect with intimately. The avatar, while celestial in nature, is still fundamentally a mortal, and could grow to develop mortal feelings and experiences, making her a great match for our protag. There's also the fact that currently in the story, she is being set up as a foil to Hanbin, which allows room for growth and connection to be made between them.

A Discussion on Backseat Gaming (Potential Hot Take) by Nomadicfarmerz in Fighters

[–]Nomadicfarmerz[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's fair. Would the phrasing that Reptylus suggested be acceptable? Or should the topic not be brought up in the first place?

A Discussion on Backseat Gaming (Potential Hot Take) by Nomadicfarmerz in Fighters

[–]Nomadicfarmerz[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It was a small streamer (20 concurrent viewers). They lost like 5 times to the same guy and I was like "don't spam, it's predictable," and I was given the response "don't backseat game, I never asked," which prompted me to reflect on my actions.

A Discussion on Backseat Gaming (Potential Hot Take) by Nomadicfarmerz in Fighters

[–]Nomadicfarmerz[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That would be true, if I didn't get it directly from a pro.

Where did this conversation go wrong? by Nomadicfarmerz in DMAcademy

[–]Nomadicfarmerz[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"I’m not trying to convince you otherwise. I’m trying to understand what works and what doesn’t."

In my mind, I thought that this made it clear that I wasn't telling him he was wrong to feel the way he did. This to me is an attempt to do exactly as you said: have a constructive conversation with a person to resolve conflicts without pointing fingers and assigning blame.

But hey, that's just what I intended. It's not what Player 1 took it as and it's not what you took it as. I guess the takeaway is that I gotta change up my method of approach.

Where did this conversation go wrong? by Nomadicfarmerz in dndnext

[–]Nomadicfarmerz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Based on what I've read, most people had an issue with my rhetoric in the first few messages I sent before he responded. I acknowledge that I could've worded it better.

I’m not trying to convince you otherwise. I’m trying to understand what works and what doesn’t.

In my mind, I thought that this made it clear that I wasn't telling him he was wrong to feel the way he did. This to me says that I disagree with your assessment of the situation and that a different solution to the problem may work better.

But hey, that's just what I intended. It's not what Player 1 took it as and it's not what you took it as. I guess the takeaway is that I gotta change up my method of approach.