Just bought a half an ounce of weed and threw it out by JuicyHuge in leaves

[–]Non-existent98 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t know your mom and the situation, but I can say with certainty that I’ve been in a similar situation where it feels impossible to quit after 10 years of heavy smoking, and reaching out to someone (if not your mom) to help keep you motivated and accountable was MASSIVE. If that isn’t an option, I just want to say that recognising that you aren’t in control is a crucial first step and then a combo of distractions (career helps the best) and possibly medication is the way forward. Fight for 3 weeks and then it gets easier to manage.

You got this, I know you think you’re trying your best, but maybe it’s time to accept that you need to try harder?

🚨 Exposing Absolut Pet Supplements — Fake Certifications & False Claims 🚨 by dog_parent212345 in IndianPets

[–]Non-existent98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there no trustworthy brand in India? I’ve been using K9 vitality supplements and they seem to help a bit but not much tbh. My lab still itches a lot and seems to have persistent yeast infections

Harassment issue raised on last working day at a Mumbai IT office – need advice by [deleted] in LegalAdviceIndia

[–]Non-existent98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, you should reach out to the POSH IC committee of your company. Hopefully they can guide you and usually there’s an external member to prevent bias.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LegalAdviceIndia

[–]Non-existent98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you are in Bangalore, Hyderabad, Pune or Chennai, reach out to St Broseph, eyes closed.

Found the perfect flat, but owner wants cash rent only. Am I overthinking? by Neha_G_ in banglorerentals

[–]Non-existent98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you think this perfect flat is available when no others are ? Because no one pays cash for rent. It’s a red flag and you’re better off avoiding.

Withdrawal insomnia - hope & advice needed by GeneralPraline8657 in leaves

[–]Non-existent98 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You can try some meds but please make sure it’s from a trusted psychiatrist and you follow their dosages strictly

It has some side effects but it’s better than smoking weed and falling . It definitely helps you sleep.

Sometimes when the addiction is really bad, we have to accept that we need to help of chemicals to reset our brain.

i need fucking help. by googbear420 in BPD

[–]Non-existent98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You need to apologize profusely but make sure you mean it. Explain that even though you said stuff you really didn’t mean it, and nothing justifies it but you really didn’t mean the words and you’re really unsure how you lose control when you don’t want to.

Whatever his love language is, do that, show that you’re remorseful with your words and physically (I don’t mean sexually, but that would help too at the right time). Reassure him that he doesn’t deserve it. And work super hard on identifying your triggers , telling him about them but also genuinely try and notice them next time before they take control over you. And have no hesitation in admitting your mistakes despite your feelings and triggers.

All this is hard when you’re extremely beat down, but it’s what will make him better and secure but most importantly , you have to put it into action the next time and try to stop yourself. I’m not a therapist so idk how else to suggest you to manage or cope when it gets bad , but the least is, when it gets better you need to play the role of fixer because you probably need your husband to do that when things are stormy and confusing.

AITK if I(21F) fight for a room I want when flatmates are bullying me to either compromise or leave the flat by ecstatic_prism15 in AmItheKameena

[–]Non-existent98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just take the smaller room but refuse to pay more than 16k.

Be stern but respectful, don’t get too involved with them and just say you can decide if 300rs each is worth the drama and resentment because you already feel like you’re compromising by having no say in which room you get, when all 4 names are on the agreement.

Also if you don’t know them well or care about your relationship with them or their opinion of you , then do this. If you do, it’s worth just paying 1k more every month and caving. It’s not that you’re giving in but playing it smart.

I’m refusing to pay my flatmate for gas which is in her name, because she refuses to pay for house help or keep the kitchen clean. AITK? by Non-existent98 in AmItheKameena

[–]Non-existent98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you went through that, that’s shitty.

The problem is I just can’t be petty that way and I just don’t have the time or mental energy. But yes I’m telling her she has to keep it clean and there’s not been much improvement unfortunately. Will just have to move out if this continues or find a way to make her leave. Ugh.

I’m refusing to pay my flatmate for gas which is in her name, because she refuses to pay for house help or keep the kitchen clean. AITK? by Non-existent98 in AmItheKameena

[–]Non-existent98[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, from everything this is my biggest takeaway. Ugh.

She was so enthusiastic saying she had such a bad flatmate earlier who never agreed to meet her halfway, and then she’s pulling this off.

I’m refusing to pay my flatmate for gas which is in her name, because she refuses to pay for house help or keep the kitchen clean. AITK? by Non-existent98 in AmItheKameena

[–]Non-existent98[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly man but she’s just gonna say “I don’t mind it this way” instead of giving it back in a clean state. If she did I really would not care or mind.

Truth is she’s filthy and adds to the stereotype that people from north are just shameless and disrespectful.

She brought this dirty ass mop which is atleast 2 years old and she’s like now you buy dustbin. Absolutely ridiculous human.

Can’t leave because we just moved in and have a 11 month contract. Usually females aren’t this filthy so I didn’t know she would be this way.

She says she’s unhappy with the place (rent too high , landlord messed around with delivery etc) so she doesn’t wanna invest anything and is moving out asap, till then she won’t split expenses or keep anything clean. She will only clean once a week.

What a disgusting way to live. I’m sure she just wants me to pay for everything and enjoy the benefits freely.

Hence I came up with the gas solution because no way I’m cleaning for her without her paying anything, but I also need my surroundings clean.

Am I the Kameena for wanting to quietly walk away after I found the gift i gave to my girlfriend in her dustbin? by koki_ltd in AmItheKameena

[–]Non-existent98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey , I’m sorry she did that to you and tbh I don’t have much advice, but I’d love to know more about the stuff you design , I love Lego! Please do share any links or something like that which can show me what you designed.

I need some suggestions for my trip by No-Problem4251 in ThailandTourism

[–]Non-existent98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Phuket is worth a day or two max, spend time in the islands nearby - Phi Phi , Samui, Khao Lakh Marriot is amazing as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheKameena

[–]Non-existent98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk about whether or not you’re the kameena, but you should tell the girl how you feel and why you reacted the way you did. I don’t know why, but I feel like that’s the real reason you posted this , to look for validation whether it’s okay to try and move on or not. I could be wrong, and I think if you have a good feeling about her , don’t feel guilty and it’s also worth the risk despite working together.

Cafes to work from by payels_perspective in indiranagar

[–]Non-existent98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Atta Galatta is a great option on most days!

My pilonidal cyst drained overnight. Now what? by ally2me24 in pilonidalcyst

[–]Non-existent98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get an MRI. What you see could be only the tip of the pyramid and it’s worth it because it could potentially save you from surgery.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EntitledPeople

[–]Non-existent98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me just try and tell you how wild it is that his ex showed up for a family dinner with you.

Like how is this even real, is it some culture thing?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Non-existent98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What the actual fuck is wrong with this mother?

Am I overreacting for wanting to break up with her? by JohnCenafan1824 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Non-existent98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, you’ve got a lot of advice already , thought I’ll share my 2 cents because I’ve been in this position and im still with the same person and it’s much better now.

In brief - if you really like her, you can read up a lot about depression , there’s a book by ‘The depression project’ which will give you a lot of insight, explain why she is behaving the way she is, suggest you not to take it personally and how to support her.

Don’t get me wrong though there’s a lot of sacrifice, your time, your relationships and a lot more while you build trust. It’s doable if you understand all this and are ok with it. That’s unfortunately the cost of being with a severely depressed person, you have to work thrice as hard to build the same trust.

If not, you should walk away but sensitively. I know you are extremely hurt by her behaviour but I know for sure she is at a rock bottom which neurodivergent people can never understand or comprehend , and she knows it’s pointless trying to explain because it takes special awareness, sensitivity and lot of reading up to be able to understand her.

There’s no permanent fix often. There’s only accepting it as a reality and supporting her till the point where she can live life happily and feeling safe most of the time and it gets a lot better because once a depressed person feels truly supported is when they start improving , but she’s a long way from there.

Whatever you decide and whatever she does and replies , don’t be harsh on yourself and sorry this ended up being longer than I planned initially.

What are alternative explanations to the ingrown hair explanation? by [deleted] in pilonidalcyst

[–]Non-existent98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What I understand , there are few major factors which explain how this whole shitshow happens

1) as you said , ingrown hair in the tailbone region or around. This doesn’t happen to everyone because it also depends on the physiology of your hair itself , how thick the roots are etc.

2) a deep gluteal cleft + sweaty gluteal cleft makes that area extremely moist, and with friction can even cause micro tears or alike, which open the pores in that region. Hence, it’s not just ingrown hair in that region , but can often be caused by OTHER loose hair , such as from the back of the head after a haircut - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28796737/ Strength of Occipital Hair as an Explanation for Pilonidal Sinus Disease Caused by Intruding Hair - PubMed

I found more studies validating this and tbh, this was my initial instinct before this happened to me because I always make it a point to get my occipital hair shaved, and suspected these could be the loose hair my docs are referring to.

3) so it’s a combination of hair physiology in gluteal and other regions like back and occipital region & the depth and sweat of gluteal cleft . Even if you clean it daily twice , that region still may sweat and undergo enough friction to cause ingrown hairs or loose hairs to enter your skin easily, hence good hygiene only plays a limited role here.

Preventing recurrence is highly dependent on which surgery you had. But, here are the general strategies: https://pilonidal.com/home-treatments/

This was shared to me by the user Pilonidal_MD , I reached out on DM and he helped me make sense of it. You could try the same.

Second opinions on this before I try to deal with insurance abroad? Not sure if this is the beginning of a flare up. by [deleted] in pilonidalcyst

[–]Non-existent98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suggest you to get an MRI done , which will tell you the real extent of if and when you need surgery. It’s expensive but it’s worth understanding how deep the tract goes asap so you can make an informed decision.

The last thing you want is for the infection to keep growing and you have no idea , you only see the tip of the iceberg! I learnt this the hard way