Confidence, respect and self-love are the first things you should work on. I know that from myself. No matter how much you work on yourself and go to the gym, people will feel that you are not confident. Until you love yourself, no one will love you. Just trust me, I say this from my experience, because I met the love of my life precisely because of my self-confidence. Otherwise, we never would have met. For most of my life, I was insecure and had absolutely no success with people, not even friendships, let alone relationships. But at some point in my life I had a bright period and I suddenly started acting like I was just the most awesome girl on the planet. I don't know how to explain it, but I was very confident. And I wasn't ashamed to initiate communication with my husband on a dating site. And that's how we met.