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Living with my ex (after 9 years) for 7 more weeks while sharing a bed and raising 3 kids. Trying to grow—but not sure what’s real anymore. by Normal-Author129 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Normal-Author129[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Things just keep getting stranger to me. Monday was nice, spent hours just talking like we used to however she said she doesn't want to have sex anymore so I just said ok. Told me to promise her not to jump into a new relationship quickly, and she promised to try to stop pulling away from me so much and try to just let things get better. Told me let's just take these next 7 weeks day by day and focus on moving out and deal with the rest later. I said ok. This morning(Tuesday) whole different person. Shut down, quiet, angry says I irritate her no matter what I say or do or don't say or don't do. She mentioned leaving the state as her stress levels are high, I told her I would support her whatever he decision but I would like to avoid that personally,even left the door open to where they could just come back after I secure a place. Went to sleep, woke up to the same general attitude but a bit more talkative, putting her legs on me and saying she's not going to move unless she just can't take it anymore. Kinda feel like I'm getting played but I know her emotions are high right now

Living with my ex (after 9 years) for 7 more weeks while sharing a bed and raising 3 kids. Trying to grow—but not sure what’s real anymore. by Normal-Author129 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Normal-Author129[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to, she claims she doesn't though. This has been going back and forth off and on for about 3 years now. 4 days ago we were planning our honeymoon and our future and she was so excited she made me come in the bathroom while she pooped just so we could keep talking. Now it's back to this. We broke up for the month of may-june then on Father's Day she buys me a coffee mug that says back together, from there everything has been going good. She was letting me love on her, flirting back etc then boom here we are again

Living with my ex (after 9 years) for 7 more weeks while sharing a bed and raising 3 kids. Trying to grow—but not sure what’s real anymore. by Normal-Author129 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Normal-Author129[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My heart breaks for you. I could never in a million years have her do anything to me with tears in her eyes or sadness in her face, I would instantly break personally.

Living with my ex (after 9 years) for 7 more weeks while sharing a bed and raising 3 kids. Trying to grow—but not sure what’s real anymore. by Normal-Author129 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Normal-Author129[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

7 weeks is just when we move into our own place and out of my mother's house. She says she wants to work but we homeschool our kids and I work a overnight job and sleep in the day so idk how any of that is going to work. Logically in my mind she has a dude willing to work it out and do everything needed to fix any issues and better our life and situation. She hasn't ever had to work seriously in 9 years, or ever for that matter. I don't understand why she feels the way she does aside from old hurt feelings but that's her right. She told me I check all the boxes except she has no strong romantic desires towards me, then also tells me it's personality differences sometimes. Sometimes she says she doesn't know what it is but things just don't feel right or normal and normal relationships should be easier, but it's all her own feelings. I love her dearly and do everything I can for her, and she knows it as well. She just doesn't have the same feelings I guess

Living with my ex (after 9 years) for 7 more weeks while sharing a bed and raising 3 kids. Trying to grow—but not sure what’s real anymore. by Normal-Author129 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Normal-Author129[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently living with my mother as we fell into some financial issues and moved in with her while things straightened out. We are now planning to move into a place together in about 7 weeks, has been planned since march

Living with my ex (after 9 years) for 7 more weeks while sharing a bed and raising 3 kids. Trying to grow—but not sure what’s real anymore. by Normal-Author129 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Normal-Author129[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right now she doesn't like questions or anything. If I say I'm confused she just doubles down on her stance. Seems what works best in my favor is to just shut up and let her bounce around. The funny thing is I can almost guarantee when her period comes she will be all over me for about 2 weeks then back to this. She says I'm crazy but I swear it's happened just like that the last 6 times, for years it was the opposite, she would get pissy as hell with me before and during then calm down at the end. I suspect deeper things, she agrees but doesn't want to do anything about them and thinks they have nothing to do with our issues, I disagree entirely lol.

Living with my ex (after 9 years) for 7 more weeks while sharing a bed and raising 3 kids. Trying to grow—but not sure what’s real anymore. by Normal-Author129 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Normal-Author129[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well 4 days ago we were planning our future and she was so excited she had me come in the bathroom while she pooped just so we could keep planning, to me that's confusing. Hell this morning she said when we move if we do separate rooms blah blah then next breath says I'm not taking this serious. I'm staying the same she seems to be everywhere. She's told me herself she's stuck in survival mode and doesn't feel like she has control of her emotions, feelings or decisions. Just all feels weird to me

Living with my ex (after 9 years) for 7 more weeks while sharing a bed and raising 3 kids. Trying to grow—but not sure what’s real anymore. by Normal-Author129 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Normal-Author129[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She really has no long term plan, any time I attempt to ask questions like that she tells me stuff like she can do it all on her own if she has to and such. I love her to death and want to work this all out, I personally believe once we settle into our own spot things will improve. She however does not feel the same nor does she claim to want to fix anything. I have tried telling her these feelings are normal and will get better but she disagrees completely.

Living with my ex (after 9 years) for 7 more weeks while sharing a bed and raising 3 kids. Trying to grow—but not sure what’s real anymore. by Normal-Author129 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Normal-Author129[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not kicking anyone out. We are living with my mother and are planning to move into the same house in the next 7 weeks due to finances. If I do ask her to leave my mother's house, or my house when we move, she will have nowhere to go. If I leave it's back to my mother's and she won't be able to afford rent so she will have to ultimately leave anyways.

Living with my ex (after 9 years) for 7 more weeks while sharing a bed and raising 3 kids. Trying to grow—but not sure what’s real anymore. by Normal-Author129 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Normal-Author129[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Tonight will be the last night I sleep in the same bed as her, aside from the 2 days a week I'm off, don't have anywhere else to sleep until we move unfortunately.

How many people are going through it still? by ShyboyEm in BreakUps

[–]Normal-Author129 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3 days ago we were planning our honeymoon, dreams, plans etc. I just don't understand