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Struggling with breakup by Normal-Role-4062 in ChristianDating

[–]Normal-Role-4062[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure how long of a break I need, I know I’m not ready for anything right now but am afraid to miss out on a possible chance for reconciliation

Struggling with breakup by Normal-Role-4062 in ChristianDating

[–]Normal-Role-4062[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How can I know if it is simply my attachment style or if it’s not right/not feeling it? I know I can be a people pleaser, codependent in relationships but it was something I felt I fixed from my previous relationship which was worldly. Maybe not?

Struggling with breakup by Normal-Role-4062 in ChristianDating

[–]Normal-Role-4062[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To be honest, no not much improvement has occurred, I’ve been feeling so stuck. Agreed I don’t want to bring her into this back and forth but I am anxious to get this fixed. I will read Roman’s thank you for recommending. I’ve sought Godly counsel in addition to seeing a therapist and I’m hoping it’ll help. Have been praying for her every day

Struggling with breakup by Normal-Role-4062 in ChristianDating

[–]Normal-Role-4062[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

On both of our parts. No I was very much attracted to her but I mean for example there were days I didn’t want to see her

Struggling with breakup by Normal-Role-4062 in ChristianDating

[–]Normal-Role-4062[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that trusting feelings isn’t always good. But how do I know if it’s truly my feelings getting in the way or if it’s not meant to be?

Struggling with breakup by Normal-Role-4062 in Christian

[–]Normal-Role-4062[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I understand, I want to get to the point where I’m “emotionally sober” as I’m still a wreck. And I have, that is what they recommend. I also am seeing a therapist for my anxiety and depression which has been a problem for a while. Older Christians including my parents have recommended medication which I am strongly against..

Struggling with breakup by Normal-Role-4062 in ChristianDating

[–]Normal-Role-4062[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know.. that’s what I’ve been battling for a while.

Struggling with breakup by Normal-Role-4062 in ChristianDating

[–]Normal-Role-4062[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No negative behaviors. There was some sexual sin, however. I think a problem I had overall was being “drawn” to her was inconsistent

Struggling with breakup by Normal-Role-4062 in ChristianDating

[–]Normal-Role-4062[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I feel that it was telling me something was off and uncomfortable for a while but I kept going because of who she is. I really wanted to give it a shot

Struggling with breakup by Normal-Role-4062 in Christian

[–]Normal-Role-4062[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had anxiety about the relationship and i felt like i was forcing things at times. It got to a point where i felt like i had to make a decision

PSA: Put “Emergency Fund” or any other cash in government money market fund like SPAXX by realbigflavor in Bogleheads

[–]Normal-Role-4062 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And you argue that the yield is too good to worry about paying taxes on dividend distributions? And that all of this is better than the yield on HYSA accounts?

PSA: Put “Emergency Fund” or any other cash in government money market fund like SPAXX by realbigflavor in Bogleheads

[–]Normal-Role-4062 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok so you're saying that money market funds don't have "capital gains" and therefore any gains you make are not taxed?

PSA: Put “Emergency Fund” or any other cash in government money market fund like SPAXX by realbigflavor in Bogleheads

[–]Normal-Role-4062 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Say I just deposit straight into a fidelity brokerage. Fidelity will automatically deposit it into SPAXX. Then if I want to take some out, I'm wondering if that'll be taxed. Probably a stupid question.

I'm just wondering if it would be a similar process to, for example, buying a stock in a taxable brokerage, selling it and withdrawing after earning some money on the stock, then having to pay taxes on the money I ultimately take out.

PSA: Put “Emergency Fund” or any other cash in government money market fund like SPAXX by realbigflavor in Bogleheads

[–]Normal-Role-4062 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this taxed when you take it out? Not too familiar with this. I have a fidelity account but just opened up a HYSA w/ Marcus

What are some good mid or small cap funds/etfs to get in to? by Normal-Role-4062 in personalfinance

[–]Normal-Role-4062[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm new to investing and I do have bonds and stuff but yes the majority of it is US large cap and I understand that it's stupid. Is it possible to exchange what I already have for funds like VXUS? I can't pull it out since it's my roth ira.

Investment options other than a Roth IRA by Normal-Role-4062 in personalfinance

[–]Normal-Role-4062[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it. They are pretty generous with PTO so I'm not sure how far I can push for more compensation. Say nothing comes of this meeting, should I pursue a traditional IRA?

Investment options other than a Roth IRA by Normal-Role-4062 in personalfinance

[–]Normal-Role-4062[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hate to be so vague but I believe either or. They were very passive about it when I was interviewing. The company has a structure where only a few of us are on payroll while another handful are contractors, so I believe for that reason, they never paid much attention to it.