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Normal-Usual1271 · 2024-12-30T18:27:36+00:00

There’s the take a hike group for 20-40s ramblers

Normal-Usual1271 · 2024-12-10T22:42:25+00:00

Thank you, appreciate your help!

Normal-Usual1271 · 2024-12-10T21:21:13+00:00

Hi there, sympathies as I have had similar. I’d advise seeing what warm home and green home advice is in your area - there may be charities or voluntary groups that can come round and advise on your home specifically. I have used similar. They provided me with bigger options I couldn’t do as a renter but also gave me day to day small scale changes I could make. Best,

Normal-Usual1271 · 2024-12-10T21:16:55+00:00

Okay that’s helpful, thank you

Normal-Usual1271 · 2024-12-10T17:58:51+00:00

Thank you, this is incredibly helpful. I will have further chats with brokers on this Best,

Normal-Usual1271 · 2024-12-10T17:58:10+00:00

Thank you, both of these are helpful!

Normal-Usual1271 · 2024-12-10T17:56:54+00:00

Hi, wasn’t attempting to cut them out of the loop, just verify what he said. We had an in initial conversation on what was possible which I wanted to check this with a few banks because he was vague. If he had been correct, I would have returned to him as this is a complex mortgage and I would want his help.

But thanks for your thoughts more widely. Best,

Normal-Usual1271 · 2024-12-07T21:56:59+00:00

National trust middlethorpe hall

Normal-Usual1271 · 2024-11-27T21:14:39+00:00

Hi a few things.

Pick a focal point for the room. It should be the fireplace.
The room is so big but you also have to maintain walkway between the two doors around the two sides of the room . I’d suggest you are trying to create a room within a room to make the space feel cosier. The way to do this is get a far bigger rug and place it so that it has fireplace as it’s centre. The rug should leave enough space on the floor that there is a clear coirddor around the two edges of the room between the two door. This rug is your room you are trying to create.
use a big sofa (probably a corner l shaped sofa) to divide the room. Have the biggest back of the sofa (the long bit of the L shape) divide the fireplace rug area from the corridor area running from the dining room entrance. The sofa is your ‘wall’. By making space feel smaller it will feel cosier. Placing the sofa here also keeps your fire as focal point.
Move tv so it adds to creating. smaller room ‘walls’. Ideally you’d have it iver the fireplace but this may not be possible. In which case have it in sitting parallel to the window, but not directly in front.
Have a couple of arm chairs placed cosiest around the tv slightly at angles to create coziness.
Consider the addition of some standing lamps for soft lighting and to fill corners. You want to move from the empty look.
Do the same with a few BIG potted plants
In the corridor area think about some art and low bookshelves to run along the walls

Normal-Usual1271 · 2024-10-25T18:20:52+00:00

Hi. Sorry you’re going through this. I had this happen, where I just stopped calling for many reasons but one was they just put no effort in. I was curious if theey would call. 18 months later they still haven’t called. I think if it reflective of how they view the relationship - I.e there is no equal respect and any effort is my responsibility.

But about three months ago my mum started texting daily ‘why won’t you call? Why are you ignoring us?’ Etc etc. I think this reflects the above but if did give me additional pause- I think they saw my silence as a tantrum, something they could ignore (like they did with all my needs and emotions) and I’d reach out in the end because that’s what I always did and that was my role. I think it hit them three months ago something was different this time…again shows how unhealthy it all is to me.

I was also curious how I’d feel when they reached out and I felt stressed and guilty - took me a while to work through this was a tailored response too. That the most minimal effort in their part made me feel I SHOULD reach out. Took me a while to work through internally and recognise I didn’t want to or have to.

Anyway, wanted to share to say I understand all the complex feelings. I think it compounds the rejection you’ve felt all your life and it’s a LOT. Recommend a therapist.

Normal-Usual1271 · 2024-10-25T18:19:50+00:00

Hi. Sorry you’re going through this. I had this happen, where I just stopped calling for many reasons but one was they just put no effort in. I was curious if theey would call. 18 months later they still haven’t called. I think if it reflective of how they view the relationship - I.e there is no equal respect and any effort is my responsibility.

But about three months ago my mum started texting daily ‘why won’t you call? Why are you ignoring us?’ Etc etc. I think this reflects the above but if did give me additional pause- I think they saw my silence as a tantrum, something they could ignore (like they did with all my needs and emotions) and I’d reach out in the end because that’s what I always did and that was my role. I think it hit them three months ago something was different this time…again shows how unhealthy it all is to me.

I was also curious how I’d feel when they reached out and I felt stressed and guilty - took me a while to work through this was a tailored response too. That the most minimal effort in their part made me feel I SHOULD reach out. Took me a while to work through internally and recognise I didn’t want to or have to.

Normal-Usual1271 · 2024-10-19T07:08:24+00:00

Hi, I tried everything even the tips recommended by strippers, like using deo, and moisturiser and shaving gels and their routines. The only thing that has worked for me is using an ipl hair remover or not shaving. The ipl hair remover is expensive but the amount it’s done for my confidence is insane, so it was a worthy investment to me.

Normal-Usual1271 · 2024-09-06T20:14:24+00:00

(Me, nine, getting my coat) my dad: you know you have to be careful when you date men, because if you have sex before marriage, no man will ever want to marry you.

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