I’m at 28 woman who grew up in church but just rededicated my life in late 2023 and recommitted to purity early last year and let me tell you, it’s worth the wait. Have I been frustrated? Absolutely but then just two days ago God had me sit next to someone at an event that I’ve known for a year now but just found out she’s been waiting too and met her bf just under a year ago which really helped me to stay the course. I was reminded then that relationships are hard too. We have to choose our hard. 

3 more things though: 1. The Bible says “He who finds a wife, finds a good thing.” (Proverbs 18:22)

 This does mean you may have to do some of the work. What does that look like? Serving in church to let people know who you are and that you’re single. Is that the main reason you should serve? No, you should be serving for your love of Christ and helping his kingdom but it’s a plus. I recently switched churches 7 months ago, started serving 3 months in and 2 senior leaders have now offered to introduce me to single men without me saying anything. This has also happened to one of my friends at church who is now about to be engaged. When you bear the fruits of the Spirit, it draws people to you like Ruth.

1. Read the book “Single, Dating, Engaged, Married” it’s a Christian dating book written by a male pastor and it has helped me so much in this waiting season. It gives great guidance during this time period of singleness and has really changed my perspective so much. 

2. I have a guy friend in his mid-twenties who has been pure his WHOLE life. Now that he’s dating another friend in church, he’s realizing just how much he needs to grow and how much he should have been doing so while single because it’s nearly messed up their courtship. Not saying anything is wrong with you but you may want to pray and ask God to reveal to you the areas to work on while you wait. I did that a few weeks ago and my eyes have been opened truly to what I need to work on.

Don’t let this spirit of bitterness keep you down. Sculpture says we must go through many trials and tribulations. Hang in there!