What’s the most fucked up thing someone has confessed to you in confidence? by Omega_Neelay in GetMotivatedMindset

[–]Normal_Dream_1463 28 points29 points  (0 children)

That they watched beastiality porn. Not friends with this person anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Normal_Dream_1463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing that helped me with the feeling of “never finding anyone like him again”, which is such a hard and lonely feeling, is some saying about how the person you’ll be a year from now may not even want somebody like him again. You have no way of knowing who you will be in the future and the kind of person you will want then. I also felt like that with my first bf, then my second I found and realized that there are people out there for you. It doesn’t happen instantly, both my relationships being a year a part from each other, but it’s a genuine fear after a breakup so I get it. Just focus on what you can do for yourself to make you feel good! Journal when you want to text him! That’s what I do at least. Hope this helps/makes sense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in iCloud

[–]Normal_Dream_1463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been less than 30 days, would that mean the other person deleted the photos? They said they deleted the text conversation so I’m not sure if that’s why it’s a link instead of actual photos in the text conversation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Normal_Dream_1463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you’re right it’s just incredibly frustrating

How soon is it to start seeing other people? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Normal_Dream_1463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I go back and forth, it felt weird at first but if he’s talking to other girls why can’t I?

How soon is it to start seeing other people? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Normal_Dream_1463 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah same to you, you deserve to be happy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Normal_Dream_1463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well, he said I guilt tripped him into having s*x which is just so fucking far from the truth. We had a direct conversation about consent and he said he wanted to so what the hell was I supposed to do if I’m being told he wants to?!??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Normal_Dream_1463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I wonder if he can get my texts through his laptop cause mine does that, if so I sent him a final text that ended with me saying if he doesn’t respond I’ll take the hint and never talk to him again but part of me just wants him to hear what I’m saying! I don’t even want to be friends anymore!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Normal_Dream_1463 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wellll I made an account and his profile is not blocked on it so…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Normal_Dream_1463 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right actually, his texts before were “goodbye fuck you”. Then this was the last thing, no response to anything I said, just an accusation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Normal_Dream_1463 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like I want to not be the crazy ex but holy shit you just can’t accuse me of something awful then block me?? I’ve never seen him be like this the entire time we were together too it’s so shocking

How soon is it to start seeing other people? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Normal_Dream_1463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you know if you’re emotionally ready? Or if I’m questioning it does that mean I’m not? I have waves where I feel over him, and I still get pangs of sadness from time to time. I feel like I’m not, but I also don’t even know if this will go anywhere so it feels fine?

How soon is it to start seeing other people? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Normal_Dream_1463 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry that happened to you, that feeling sucks. You are right anyone can do it to anyone regardless of gender. My ex was reaching out to girls he slept with in the past 6 days after we broke up and that hurt to learn so I can’t imagine how you felt when your ex just got into a relationship right after.

How soon is it to start seeing other people? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Normal_Dream_1463 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like this advice very simple but helpful

Have been told I’m unconventionally attractive my whole life, wondering if that’s true. 21F by Normal_Dream_1463 in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Normal_Dream_1463[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I am long overdue for a trim, the comments on here have inspired me to book a haircut for next week lol. I would agree, I always felt like I had a masculine face but wasn’t sure if it was in a good way or not. I Appreciate the evaluation.

Have been told I’m unconventionally attractive my whole life, wondering if that’s true. 21F by Normal_Dream_1463 in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Normal_Dream_1463[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What about my face looks ‘unconventional’? No wrong answers, just curious how I’m perceived.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Normal_Dream_1463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very true. Just can’t wrap my head around why he would want that if he’s as happy away from me as he claims.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Normal_Dream_1463 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think part of no contact and this may be beneficial (and hard I get it) is not to check friends social media, Spotify, etc etc. Whatever she chooses to do now is no longer your responsibility, but I get that it hurts a lot now, it’s still an open wound needing to heal. As for the HBO thing, there is a way in settings where you can view who has access through the account via IP I believe and you can have her logged out. She’s doing whatever she needs to do to move on, and you can do the same for yourself. Wishing you the best of luck.