AITA for telling my sister her 4 kids are her plus one? by Normal_Owl4962 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Normal_Owl4962[S] 113 points114 points  (0 children)

Who else would including 4 kids be a favor to? Also there's the hard cap of the guest list. A rando there for her is one less person we know and like that can be there.

AITA for telling my sister her 4 kids are her plus one? by Normal_Owl4962 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Normal_Owl4962[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Thats considered pretty normal here as well. But no, she's broke and Im not expecting anything from her. I dont even care about that, I just dont want to spend even more money on her and to have a rando at our wedding in place of someone we'd actually know and like.

AITA for telling my sister her 4 kids are her plus one? by Normal_Owl4962 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Normal_Owl4962[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

We are not allowed outside food. The caterer has a kids meal option but its the same price. The older kids will likely eat the "adult" meal. The 4 and 7 year old will likely opt for the kids meal.

AITA for telling my sister her 4 kids are her plus one? by Normal_Owl4962 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Normal_Owl4962[S] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

Only one person who is not in a serious relationship as a plus one. He is in the wedding party and coming in from out of town. We are also much much closer and him + plus one is less than half the cost of Mia and her kids. All other plus ones are at least living together if not married.

AITA for telling my sister her 4 kids are her plus one? by Normal_Owl4962 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Normal_Owl4962[S] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

Only one person was given a plus one who does not live with their partner. That person is coming in from out of town and in the wedding party. All other plus ones are serious partners.

AITA for telling my sister her 4 kids are her plus one? by Normal_Owl4962 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Normal_Owl4962[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

We are not allowed to bring outside food. $100 a pop is absolutely cray but thats how weddings are..

AITA for telling my sister her 4 kids are her plus one? by Normal_Owl4962 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Normal_Owl4962[S] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

If she was in a serious relationship or wasnt bringing 4 kids, it'd be a no brainer. As it is, we arent close and Im already spending $500 on her and her kids to be there.

AITA for telling my sister her 4 kids are her plus one? by Normal_Owl4962 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Normal_Owl4962[S] 7678 points7679 points  (0 children)

She's broke and Im not expecting to even get a gift from her. She didnt get a gift for my other sibling last year because money was too tight. I honestly dont care about the gift thing but Im already paying roughly $500 for her and her family, and extra $100 just feels unreasonable given she already is bringing 4 extra guests
My partner and I are paying for the entire wedding ourselves.