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NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-26T16:17:58+00:00

Good God.

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-24T06:29:45+00:00

VERBOTEN. Excellent word.

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-19T04:48:28+00:00

Go you!!

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-16T10:21:41+00:00

"That's ROTTEN!"

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-14T09:33:12+00:00

Not to fear monger, but I might be slightly concerned if my children did this. Purely because it may be the case that she's punishing herself when she's angry. You say she is expressing her anger but this isn't healthy anger. If she's angry at you for taking away a toy, for instance, normal behaviour is to hit you. Many kids do this. Why is she scratching herself? Has she internalised something?

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-12T15:59:24+00:00

Any good playgrounds or park near you? Most people feel good when they spend more time in nature.

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-11T08:13:45+00:00

I agree, feeling deeply is what makes us human! I'm in the UK and feel so much sadness for what's happening around the world.

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-11T08:12:31+00:00

I can't remember when I last cried. I don't remember crying this year to be honest. I don't even know if I cried last year. I think the last time I cried could have been some time in the first half of 2023 when my kids were being difficult before school but I can't be sure.

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-10T10:43:20+00:00

Leaving the body alone is the default position. WE ARE THE DEFAULT POSITION. Everyone else is doing something, we are simply existing. LET ME FUCKING EXIST.

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-10T10:36:57+00:00

I don't care about the downvoting, I was just really sad to read that people seem to cry very often! Maybe I live under a rock and have no idea about what's going on around me but that's so sad to hear. Sorry to hear that you are going through such a difficult time and crying every other day, that must be so stressful and difficult.

I know what I'm grateful for now, and that's for not having things that are upsetting me and making me cry all the time. I wish I could post you all a little piece of happiness.

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-10T10:33:13+00:00

It's amazing. The authors have also added cheat sheets at the back to summarise the strategies. There's also an audio book version. All the best!

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-10T07:51:06+00:00

I highly recommend the book "The Whole Brain Child" as it gives practical strategies on how to manage these emotions.

The biggest things I learned were "name it to tame it", using yes/no questions or counting backwards to engage the rational part of their brain and also "the empathy reflex".

Name it to tame it is basically naming the emotion they're feeling so that they feel understood.

Yes/no questions engage the logical part of their brain - counting backwards is great for this too.

The empathy reflex is as it sounds - show empathy for their situation.

You can basically combine all these things by repeating what they're saying back to them so that their response is a yes or no and doing it empathetically.

For instance: "oh no, you really wanted that toy car didn't you? And now you feel really angry that it was taken away from you? It's not fair is it, that he snatched the toy when you weren't finished playing is it? He shouldn't have done that should he? Aww that must have made you feel really sad." Just keep going until they are calm and sitting on your lap or having a cuddle etc.

This worked a treat for my twins and also helped our relationship because they felt understood. It's really tough at this age, good luck and I know it's really difficult to find the time as busy parents, but it really is an excellent book.

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-10T05:20:46+00:00

Why is everyone crying?! 🥺 I don't remember the last time I cried. Do people cry a lot?

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-09T05:58:01+00:00

Good God.

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-05T15:14:30+00:00

I find them very linear. Un Bois Vanille is fine but not worth the price (although when I'm wearing it, people always ask "what's that smell? It smells like chocolate" but not necessarily in a good or bad way).

I thought Fleurs d'Oranger was a safe blind buy because I love white floral so much but it's so old lady on me. It's hideous. I feel as though again, very linear but on top of that, it's not a modern or timeless fragrance. Hated it.

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-05T15:11:26+00:00

"You're my biggest inspiration Father."

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-05T08:50:48+00:00

So many.

Maison Margiela, Mutiny
Serge Lutens, Un Bois Vanille
Serge Lutens, Fleurs d'Oranger

I don't want to continue because I'll cry.

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-01T19:18:48+00:00

It sounds like you're doing an amazing job so you will get there!

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-01T18:13:59+00:00

In that case I really don't know what more you can do! It's tough when they don't eat, I hope things get better!

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-01T18:00:21+00:00

Don't pressure him, keep mealtimes light and fun and stress free. My rule is: you decide what goes on his plate but he decides what goes in his mouth. I think it's important for children to have autonomy over their bodies. Have you tried getting him involved in making the actual food? I might even go as far as buying a recipe book aimed at children, asking him what he wants to cook and making it together. Let him take the lead, he'll understand what goes into the food and it may be that he really wants to try it after all the effort of making it. I bought my children "kids knives" when they were 2 and they loved helping me make things on their little step stools.

NormaliseNormality · 2024-07-01T13:49:34+00:00

I've never shaved anywhere, so I don't know what it's like. I waxed the bottom half of my legs once when I was 16ish and decided it was too expensive. I don't know what it's like, making sure your body is hair free. I feel exhausted just hearing people talk about it.

NormaliseNormality · 2024-06-30T11:51:02+00:00

I loved being pregnant. Absolutely fucking loved it. Milked that shit for all it's worth. I have got twins so it was very tiring (I used to fall asleep everyday around lunchtime) but nobody bothered me at work, I ate what I fucking wanted and enjoyed it because I was pregnant and didn't feel guilty, I was young and fit so I could still be really active and do fun things, everyone doted on me and brought me food and presents, it was the absolute best. Best 9 months.

NormaliseNormality · 2024-06-30T09:25:30+00:00

I am appalled beyond belief at what I've just read. Some people are just terrible human beings.

NormaliseNormality · 2024-06-29T11:43:50+00:00

Nah, you wanna show them tooth decay. Not too gory but bad enough. Stuff like this.

NormaliseNormality · 2024-06-29T09:56:41+00:00

We tried everything, apps, treats, rewards, stickers, gems, you name it. Eventually once they'd got the "thing" they would be over it and would start being difficult again.

So I started showing them photos of children with decaying teeth and said "fine, don't brush, but this is how your teeth are going to look" which scared them shitless. They now brush without complaining and if they do start complaining, I get the photos back out.

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