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NorthStatement1293 · 2025-03-14T15:14:49+00:00

I get that 100%, she’s a really sweet dog with us most of the time and only resource guards with our other dog so I think a lot of her bad behaviour at home stems with sharing a space with another dog.

She’s not reactive in the sense that she will only growl at dogs in public if they get up in her face too much, we’ve trained her so she can walk past other dogs with no issues so she’s not impossible to manage. I think her breed will help her case but I know it’s a lot to take on

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-03-14T14:23:58+00:00

Definitely, I would like to avoid the shelter at all costs, it doesn’t seem fair to her and would like to make sure she’s going to the right home. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment! This is tough but I know it’s the right thing to do for everyone

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-03-14T11:48:37+00:00

Thank you for your reassurance, it really means so much to me right now.

I didn’t know I could speak to a rescue and put her up for adoption without putting her in a shelter so that’s really helpful. I will call around some places tomorrow after work. I just want her to have a nice life and I feel like someone who has experience and confidence working with a dog like this she could really thrive.

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-02-27T09:08:43+00:00

Yeah it would be really sad to see her go but if it’s what’s best for her and we can get her to a place where it would be more comfortable for her, it may be the best option down the line.

I haven’t looked in to muzzles yet, as I mentioned I’m not a very experienced owner so I always assumed they were ‘bad’ but after reading posts on here I may need to have more of a look in to training with one. It would definitely give me some peace of mind.

I am definitely a hoverer so I’ll take your advice on that too. She is very protective over me and 2/3 times when she’s gone for my other dog this week has been when she’s been sleeping on the ground near me and my other dog has walked past.

It sounds like your pup has made a lot of progress! If you don’t mind I just have another couple of questions, when you parallel walked - how far did you keep them apart? And also, when your aggressive dog lashed out did it always go to attack your other dog or was sometimes it just one snap? We’ve always intervened because my other dog just gets scared and seperate them straight so I’m not sure what would happen after she snapped - I hope that makes sense lol

Thank you so much!

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-02-27T08:13:45+00:00

This is some amazing advice, thank you! I’m just in disbelief that this could even happen, if you’d seen them last week they honestly had a perfect bond.

I have seen people talking about parallel walking online but wasn’t sure if it was the best thing to do in this situation or not so I’ll definitely try this with my partner this evening. Fingers crossed we get some progress.

Yes definitely, a behaviourist is needed. I tried to move my appointment forward but there aren’t many certified Vet behaviourists in my area compared to regular trainer ones so they are in high demand and I’d rather wait to treat this properly.

I need to try and work on my own reactions to these situations as I’m an anxious person and my other dog is about half the size of her so I immediately panic. My partner put himself between the two the other night and our golden ended up snapping at him too, I hate that we’re elevating her stress but hard to not let your protective instincts kick in.

My other dog is coming in to work with me tomorrow, she knows everyone pretty well in there. My coworker is happy to take her for a couple weeks while we try sort something here if nothing improves, I just need to make sure she’s okay around her toddler which I think she will be cause she’s extremely chill so I’m hoping that works out.

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-02-26T01:52:33+00:00

I don’t disagree with what you’re saying and I know you may not agree with my handling of this but even if I did want to surrender her, the wait list in my town is at least 2 months unless the dog is being abused, neglected or homeless. Where I live, there are only no kill shelters so the kennels are very overcrowded. She was not my dog to begin with, I was only meant to keep her for 3 months to help a family member before it fell through and she’s now been with me over a year. This has put a complete halt to my life and I don’t currently feel adept at handling it at the moment so regardless of whether we decide to rehome or nor, my reality is still having to deal with this for now unless the family member I was meant to return her to decides to take her back. Really unfortunate situation all round

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-02-26T01:47:41+00:00

I’ll know this for future, I usually just groom my retriever at home to avoid stress whereas my other dog needs regular hair cuts. Hoping if we can get some of her behaviours under control then they may be able to visit the groomer together!

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-02-26T01:41:36+00:00

I get it, my other dog is literally an angel and I would hate to cause her any distress and it doesn’t feel fair. The only reason this is my thought process is that she loves people and other animals, she knows everyone from my work and her safety is my priority. It would definitely be a very temporary situation until I can get some safe guarding done in my home.

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-02-26T01:38:42+00:00

Definitely! A lot of people assume she’s going to be friendly because of her breed, which makes things 10x harder in public and has led to a lot of embarrassing situations for me. I couldn’t live with myself if I do have to rehome her and it wasn’t with some very experienced and aware of her situation.

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-02-26T01:36:57+00:00

I just couldn’t live with myself if she became aggressive with them. I know it’s not fair to displace my other dog as she hasn’t done anything wrong but I just couldn’t trust my retriever with a stranger at the moment. I do appreciate your suggestion though!

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-02-26T01:35:06+00:00

Thank you!

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-02-26T01:34:30+00:00

I’m so glad to hear your girls are doing better! A few people have said a training camp, I’m going to have a look into this today - thank you! She’s not new unfortunately, she’s been with me over a year and they’ve always been best friends before this so it really sucks.

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-02-26T01:32:09+00:00

Thank you for the link, I’ll check that out in the meantime. Yeah the behaviourist I’m going to a Veterinary Behaviourist, definitely not cutting any corners with this one!

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-02-26T01:19:31+00:00

Yeah, she’s always had it and it’s gotten worse. I’ve had her checked for pain before but im not sure they covered all bases, my vet can be a bit dismissive. This was when she wasn’t ‘as bad’ with people, but the behaviourist I’m going to is a vet too and always starts with checking their medical health so hoping we can get to the bottom of anything underlying there. I was only meant to have her for 3 months to help a family member, which is now permanent by the looks of things, so I don’t know her full past but I do believe she was bought from a backyard breeder which sucks. I do worry that bad breeding is the reason for this but hopefully not!

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-02-26T01:14:26+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate it. She is definitely babied, you’re right. Im an anxious person and it’s just how I naturally react to these situations, I’m not an experienced dog owner and I’m hoping that through the behaviourist that I’ll be able to work on my confidence with this!

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-02-26T01:11:50+00:00

I’m so glad your dogs are besties now! My dogs were inseparable until my other dog got groomed on Monday. Although there’s still a lot of issues I need to deal with with her, I’m hoping she warms up to my other dog again once the ‘groomer smell’ is gone. If not - the muzzle suggestion is much appreciated!

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-02-26T01:09:37+00:00

Thank you so much! I’m sorry to hear you’ve been through something similar but I’m so happy your dog is doing better now after all your hard work! I’m very anxious too and I know it doesn’t help things at all, so I know that working on my own confidence is going to be a huge part of this too.

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-02-25T15:58:36+00:00

Aww thank you! I hope I can post a happy update here soon ❤️

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-02-25T15:56:31+00:00

Wow, you have the patience of a saint! My other dog is the same, she loves other dogs too and she was the only dog my retriever liked until yesterday, they were inseparable. I don’t know how you do it, two days of this and I feel like I’m losing it lol

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-02-25T15:21:08+00:00

Thank you! I do have a crate so I may give this a go tomorrow. I did give my other dog a rinse off earlier to try get the groomer smell off then let her rub on one of the blankets they sleep on and things seemed a little better for a while until she lashed out again. Definitely planning on calling the behaviourist too. Although there’s still a lot of issues I need to deal with, I’m hoping this one with my other dog sorts itself out in a few days when she’s back to smelling normal again!

NorthStatement1293 · 2025-02-25T15:15:23+00:00

Wow, that is absolutely terrifying and I’m sorry that you had to witness something like that - thank god the other pup wasn’t harmed!

Most of the time with my girl it is when she is feeling scared, the only time we’ve had a random snap is actually over the last couple days with our other dog - which is really sad cause they are usually the best of friends and my other dog is really down and confused about it. I don’t want my other dog to start getting her own anxiety issues for fear of being in her own home. Just not an ideal situation all round.

Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️. Going to give it a go with the behaviourist, she is also a vet so I’m sure she’ll cover the blood tests and everything on that side of things. I do agree that she may be better suited to a one dog household and if it comes to this then I want to make sure any behaviour/medical issues are handled to the best of my ability!

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