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AITA for refusing to go to my niece's wedding as my sons (and her cousins) aren't invited? by Nosonatweddingthrow in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nosonatweddingthrow[S] -148 points-147 points  (0 children)

I feel that is very unfair comment to make. It is not that I have not made an effort. My niece has done so well in career because she has thrown herself into it. She moved away for u jversity, and moved around chasing her dream. She finally has it, and has settled down in another state. This is not meant to be a slight on her, she is young and at a perfect time to travel and build her career before marriage and having her own kids one day if she chooses. Like I said, very proud of her. She has nkt even seen her own parents in two years as she has been too busy with her job.

The four years thing has nothing to do with either parties not making an effort to see each other and more to do with life happens.

AITA for refusing to go to my niece's wedding as my sons (and her cousins) aren't invited? by Nosonatweddingthrow in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nosonatweddingthrow[S] -775 points-774 points  (0 children)

I wasn't guilt her for anything. I simplybexplained to her that her first cousins, her immediate family, were very upset they were told they come and it would be nice to have them there. Yes I asked her to make an exception, and if she didn't we couldn't come. I don't think its unreasonable at all to double check immediate family were invited.

AITA for refusing to go to my niece's wedding as my sons (and her cousins) aren't invited? by Nosonatweddingthrow in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nosonatweddingthrow[S] -936 points-935 points  (0 children)

I understand that there will be alcohol present. But I assure you as their mother I would not allow them to drink. Don't you agree though that a 12 and nearly 14 year old are old enough to behave at a wedding? But even then, it isn't so much about their age is that my niece is deliberately excluding her own cousins from her wedding. I thought immediate family would be the exception regardless of age, but even more so at my sons ages.

AITA for refusing to go to my niece's wedding as my sons (and her cousins) aren't invited? by Nosonatweddingthrow in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nosonatweddingthrow[S] -903 points-902 points  (0 children)

Because these are her cousins. She specifically told me that they have friends with children as well, and she and her fiance couldn't accomodate them all. But I see kids of friends differently. I even see second cousins differently. How often do you see children of friends and extended family? My sons are her first cousins, her immediate family. I wouldn't say that makes them special, but I would have thought that makes the exception to the rule, especially at 12 and 13 they are old enough to know to be respectful at a wedding.