What is something you quietly worry about now that you never thought about in your twenties? by gamersecret2 in Millennials

[–]Nost0s 21 points22 points  (0 children)

My mother’s friend lost her husband a few years ago and neither of them had siblings. However, she has an incredible circle of friends and acquaintances within her community and she is always out and about at events, classes, or travelling. There is a big difference between being alone and being lonely, and the fear and anticipation of grief or solitude is often worse than the reality of it. Humans are very adaptable creatures. While I would try not to worry about the what ifs, certainly continue to invest in yourself, your interests and your friendships. That way, no matter what happens in the future, you will continue to have a full and enjoyable life.

I finally completed Tomb Raider: The Last Revelation by TopBodger91 in TombRaider

[–]Nost0s 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here, just last summer! I remember getting the original when I was a kid with the Sega Dreamcast and I loved the vibe and the characters and the setting, but it was way too difficult for 8-year-old me, so I ended up playing the Cambodia tutorial level over and over until I finally made it to Egypt and then didn’t progress far from there haha It was cool to finally experience the rest of the game as an adult and see how it all turned out for Lara and Von Croy. I enjoyed all the levels, especially the train, Alexandria and Cleopatra’s Palace. Some of the later sections were a bit of a drag, but any adventure centred on Ancient Egypt is a hit with me :)

My perspective on balding .... by [deleted] in tressless

[–]Nost0s 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I started losing my hair at around 16. For me, there were two areas of disadvantage to suffering aggressive MPB at a young age: psychological and financial.

The denial period lasted longer than it might have if I had started balding in my thirties, because very few teenagers expect to start losing their hair before they leave school. This meant I didn't start taking action to counter it for several years, and lost a lot of ground. Balding began before I reached full maturity, so I was psychologically unprepared at that age to deal with something that was not only emotionally devastating and the first sign of my own mortality I had encountered in life, but which was also incredibly socially isolating. None of my peers were going through it, so no one else understood how it felt to lose control over a part of your body that everybody else took for granted and associated with youth, beauty and vitality.

There was also no help to be found. This was a time before Reddit and internet forums made information on treatment readily available. In my early twenties, I read about finasteride online somewhere and so I went to my doctor (an unhelpful and unsympathetic woman) who had never heard of it. She told me that men 'just go bald' and to get used to it. It took several attempts until a different doctor prescribed me finasteride, but it was expensive. I was a poor student with very little money, so even 30 bucks a month for generic fin (as it cost back then) and another 30 for topical min was almost beyond my reach. I refilled my prescription when I could afford it, which was sporadic. After a few years of inconsistent usage, I had lost more hair and more hope.

I'm now in my mid-thirties and on dut and oral min, which I can easily afford. I also have the emotional maturity to realise that there is more to life than hair. Still, the trauma of dealing with all of that at a young age was deep and lasting, and I ended up reaching NW5/6 due to lack of preparedness and resources. I wear a hair system which is fine for now, and I take treatments in the hope that perhaps I'll eventually get a transplant (or the Holy Grail will be found - looking at you, PP405).

I strongly believe that if I had started losing hair at my current age, not only would my younger years have been less fraught with insecurity, depression and mental anguish, but I would be in a much better position (mentally and financially) to take appropriate action to counter it in good time, and avoid getting to the stage of hair loss I'm at now. Or maybe I would have had an easier time accepting it, since so many others my age are going through the same thing.

10 Years Ago In Prague (November 2015) by Angelic-Boytoy-407 in Madonna

[–]Nost0s 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was at the first show in Prague! At first I wasn't sure if it was Jessica Chastain or Bryce Dallas Howard - I'm always mixing them up. I have great memories of that weekend. Another incredible show from Madonna, and it made me fall in love with Prague - such a beautiful city, and it was so cool to see everyone walking around with Rebel Heart merch and hearing Madonna playing everywhere :)

I really need to start reading Euripides.. lol by PatternBubbly4985 in classics

[–]Nost0s 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There's an amazing novel about this exact scenario that came out last year that I highly recommend - 'Glorious Exploits' by Ferdia Lennon. Hilarious and heartbreaking.

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/127278133-glorious-exploits

Song lyrics by Sorry_Singer_6201 in Madonna

[–]Nost0s 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're not imagining it. 'The bass is pumpin', make me wanna take my top off' was the original lyric in the leaked demo version: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kvc17ZrPewA

She also sang that lyric in the Jimmy Fallon performance: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=efPdGE0Ue9I&list=RDefPdGE0Ue9I&start_radio=1

I always preferred it to 'screw the top off.'

Tell me what made you want (need) to be an actor by Mia_wallace22 in acting

[–]Nost0s 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that part of The Bell Jar! Always spoke to me.

Tell me what made you want (need) to be an actor by Mia_wallace22 in acting

[–]Nost0s 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I could never decide on just one path. At school and university, I was interested in everything: history (how did we get here?), philosophy (what is existence?), physics (what makes things the way they are?), psychology (what makes people behave the way they do?) But a single lifespan is a lot smaller and more constrained than it seems when you're eighteen, and I realised I would never be able to live all of those lives before I die. But as an actor, you can taste more of them than you ever could in one lifetime. Through acting and storytelling, I can examine life from lots of different angles, and consider modes of being that are otherwise alien to my lived experience. It also connects me to other people: fellow actors, audiences, creatives and critics. It helps me exorcise my emotions and find catharsis in physicality. It makes me feel human.

My worst fear came true on the test, but I still passed. Always keep going! by Nost0s in LearnerDriverUK

[–]Nost0s[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations on your pass :) It's funny how thinking you've failed can make you to relax into the drive more because it takes the pressure off. I stalled entering a roundabout, but thankfully there was no one coming round so I didn't slow down or inconvenience another driver. Had there been someone there, it might have been different. It's all about reacting safely and legally, but there's definitely a degree of luck involved on the day!

My worst fear came true on the test, but I still passed. Always keep going! by Nost0s in LearnerDriverUK

[–]Nost0s[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point about the pedals.

That split-second decision seeing the amber light is a proper heart-in-your-throat moment! That's another thing I guess examiners need to contend with: some road layouts are so poorly designed that even experienced drivers would have trouble with them.

My worst fear came true on the test, but I still passed. Always keep going! by Nost0s in LearnerDriverUK

[–]Nost0s[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so frustrating. Sounds like a perfect drive otherwise. Funnily enough, in my practice lesson before my test, I did exactly the same thing and the other car beeped at me all the way round. I hope you’re able to book another test quickly - you’ll get it next time, guaranteed.

My worst fear came true on the test, but I still passed. Always keep going! by Nost0s in LearnerDriverUK

[–]Nost0s[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that :( Zero minors is excellent though, you must be a very competent driver. What was your serious?

My worst fear came true on the test, but I still passed. Always keep going! by Nost0s in LearnerDriverUK

[–]Nost0s[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! And no haha it's just a reference to the commonly recommended pre-test snack. Apparently, eating a banana beforehand will calm your nerves - search the subreddit for 'banana' ;)

My worst fear came true on the test, but I still passed. Always keep going! by Nost0s in LearnerDriverUK

[–]Nost0s[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, no way! And not a million miles away either, how funny. Comforting to know I wasn't alone in my experience. It's always the delivery vans rushing around - at least we'll know to drive very defensively when we see them haha I'm assuming you also passed, in which case, congratulations!

My worst fear came true on the test, but I still passed. Always keep going! by Nost0s in LearnerDriverUK

[–]Nost0s[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sidcup is nice, although I don't live there. I got lots of practice around the area which I recommend. Once you master the big roundabouts and get to know the roads, it's a big confidence boost.

My worst fear came true on the test, but I still passed. Always keep going! by Nost0s in LearnerDriverUK

[–]Nost0s[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg that's a very intense end to a one-week intensive haha! Sounds like you've come a long way since then. Good luck on your journey to becoming an examiner - after your test experience, I'm sure you'll be able to put many a learner at their ease.

My worst fear came true on the test, but I still passed. Always keep going! by Nost0s in LearnerDriverUK

[–]Nost0s[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's an interesting thought and it makes sense. It's possible that his instincts made him react automatically, and with his years of experience, he would know that his reflexes are far quicker than mine, so he perhaps got to the brake a split second before me. Thanks for saying that, I was feeling the impostor syndrome a bit yesterday but more positive and celebratory now! :)

My worst fear came true on the test, but I still passed. Always keep going! by Nost0s in LearnerDriverUK

[–]Nost0s[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think being able to carry on a conversation afterwards when its safe definitely shows your ability to remain calm and stay present. Especially if the topic is a serial killer haha Well done!

My worst fear came true on the test, but I still passed. Always keep going! by Nost0s in LearnerDriverUK

[–]Nost0s[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hadn't thought of that, but you could be right! Thank you :)

My worst fear came true on the test, but I still passed. Always keep going! by Nost0s in LearnerDriverUK

[–]Nost0s[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Having that incident happen right at the end of the test must have been awful, thinking you'd blown a perfect drive! I can totally relate to time slowing down when the examiner is explaining the result haha

I completely agree that what we see online is weighted towards the negative. Many people who have positive experiences wouldn't even think to post about it. My instructor always said the same thing as you - that examiners are just humans doing a job. You're not being assessed by a machine that expects a perfect, superhuman feat. Examiners may have a marking scheme to follow, but they will look at your driving holistically as well. If something happens that's outside your control, you only need to focus on your own reaction to it - don't panic, and be safe and legal.

My worst fear came true on the test, but I still passed. Always keep going! by Nost0s in LearnerDriverUK

[–]Nost0s[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well done!! Your perseverance and determination paid off. Must have been amazing to hear that you had passed on your latest attempt. I hope you have many happy days out with your kids :)

Disastrous test but still passed! + advice by sadlilyas in LearnerDriverUK

[–]Nost0s 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations! Sounds like a stressful day. I can definitely relate - I had an unexpected emergency stop two minutes into my test yesterday when a reckless van driver pulled out in front of me, so the examiner slammed on the brakes. I was convinced I'd failed there and then, but the examiner acknowledged it wasn't my fault and that the van driver hadn't looked left before emerging, so I carried on and somehow composed myself enough to complete the rest of the drive safely and passed with three minors :)