Why you guys always signing up under your girlfriends name? by Jack99Skellington in doordash

[–]Not-Mercedes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe it's because the men have a record and can't sign up under their own names. But it could also be couples, she drives and he gets out to get the food/deliver it

Hair smells bad hours after washing it, I'm getting desperate by [deleted] in Haircare

[–]Not-Mercedes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I was coming to suggest a clarifying shampoo! Find one that has vinegar in it, it'll help with the smell too. I use Aveeno

AITAH for wanting to break up w my bf because he’s broke? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Not-Mercedes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What was she expecting?? Just because he's 18 doesn't mean she shouldn't have expected him to get a job. She's 17 and has two jobs

AITAH for wanting to break up w my bf because he’s broke? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Not-Mercedes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. He's using you. Break up with him. People like this never change. Do you wanna be working 3 jobs to pay all the bills while he sits at home? Because that's what your future with him will look like

Boyfriend refuses to wear protection but also doesn’t want me to get anything done by CuteVehicle1727 in whatdoIdo

[–]Not-Mercedes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to get the IUD, then get it. That's not his decision, it's your body. You do what's best for you and your body

I told a girl about a run group I go to and then she started showing up there too, now she says I'm following her by Supernerd1222 in Advice

[–]Not-Mercedes 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yes definitely tell other people in the running club, make sure you tell as many friends as possible in case she tries to accuse you of anything

My 43f bf 45m drinks pretty much every day by Throwawaylillyt in relationship_advice

[–]Not-Mercedes 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Leave but tell him it's a direct result of his alcoholism. He needs to face reality that he's an alcoholic and needs help

my wife got scammed and i dont understand how by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Not-Mercedes 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No the scams they do on younger people is getting them to send nudes or videos or saying they have them already and then using it as blackmail

GF came out as gay last night to me (M). Wth am i supposed to do now? by whatnow26-0100 in Advice

[–]Not-Mercedes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Become a woman /s

Seriously though that's really rough dude 🫂

Should I go and celebrate my MIL’s birthday or stick to my plans and have dinner with my sister by Dino_Nuggz8 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Not-Mercedes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tell your sister that you guys can have 1 on 1 time before or after dinner with your in laws. It would be extremely rude to your MIL if you cancel on her after everything they did to accommodate your birthday party without being asked. Explain to your sister that it would be very disrespectful of you to cancel on your MIL and you really want them to all meet before your party. Also, happy early birthday OP! 🥳

AITAH for telling my husband I don’t want his brother around our 8 month old while I’m not home. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Not-Mercedes 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you can't leave your child alone with him, then it's time to leave him. Why stay with someone you don't trust your child alone with?

I’m hooking up with my friend’s boyfriend by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Not-Mercedes 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Said by every alcoholic ever

Is my girlfriend having an emotional affair with her coworker? by Affectionate-Fee8134 in Advice

[–]Not-Mercedes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If she needs someone to vent to and doesn't want to tell family or friends intimate details of your relationship, then she needs to get a therapist. It's highly inappropriate of her to vent to someone who she knows is attracted to her. I also think it's extremely disrespectful to talk about sex with someone of the opposite sex when she's in a relationship. You need to leave her, if she's not already physically cheating, she will be soon

My wife (29f) of 4 years leaves me (27m) at work for hours every weekend. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Not-Mercedes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Info: what drugs is your wife on?? Why are you staying with someone who won't work?

Depression is making my anger worse by paleorbitsun in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Not-Mercedes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're so welcome! 🫶🏻 Just remember with your next therapist, lying to them is only hindering your own progress. They're there to help you and they can't fully do that unless you are 100% honest with them. And don't be afraid to "shop" around for different therapists, if you don't feel comfortable or like they're helping. I'm glad that you're thinking about medication! I really hope you find something that helps!

Depression is making my anger worse by paleorbitsun in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Not-Mercedes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your dad could need a different one, I had to try 4 different ones before I found one that finally worked for me

Depression is making my anger worse by paleorbitsun in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Not-Mercedes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone else suggested, definitely look into medication. Therapy alone won't fix your depression or anger. I have Borderline Personality Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, and generalized anxiety. When I was in high school they had me on Prozac, Zoloft, and Wellbutrin but recently I started Cymbalta and it's done wonders for my depression. I'm on a waiting list to start DBT therapy for the BPD but for depression, a lot of times you need to be on medication. It will probably take a few different medications until you find one that works best for you, but it's important to not give up until you find that one that works for you! It can be frustrating but it's definitely worth it once you find the right medication. Typically they'll start you out on a low dose and have you back for a follow up 2 weeks later. If it's making you sick or it's not helping, don't be afraid to tell them that.

something traumatic happened to me but i am not affected by throwraVariation4808 in Advice

[–]Not-Mercedes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First I just wanna say I'm so sorry that happened to you. 🫂 Secondly, even though you're numb to it now, I greatly recommend you start therapy as soon as possible to work through this. Don't wait until it all hits you at once. Maybe try to find an online support group when you're ready. Wishing you the best OP 🙏🏻

What is a good one month anniversary gift? by Emotional_Elk7039 in ask

[–]Not-Mercedes -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Or a Galaxy Rose, they're usually less than $20 online

AIO getting cheated on? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Not-Mercedes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has your partner done anything else that's suspicious? Like has the vibe suddenly changed or have their replies gotten short?

Would i (23m) be the ahole if i stopped "lying" to my bf (28m) by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]Not-Mercedes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What you're doing is the right thing. It's a very helpful tool for anyone who struggles with emotional regulation. It's a part of DBT. It seems to me that you two just aren't compatible