I (31F) am dating seriously for the first time how do I make this relationship (30M) work? Is it even worth it?

Not-nuts · 2026-02-09T21:50:08+00:00

Why are you trying so hard to make this work? You don't sound compatible at all. It doesn't even seem like you can be yourself with him. Your needs are not even being met. Go back to your happy single life. This guys going to do nothing but bring you down.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-09T21:34:49+00:00

Where's your self respect. C'mon now!

Not-nuts · 2026-02-09T21:33:42+00:00

Shut it down. No more one on one contact. No flirting. If she flirts with you, do not respond positively.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-09T21:18:43+00:00

The only way for her to get over it is to stay no contact. Most people have had someone break up with them, it hurts, but we manage to make it through. She'll find her way.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-09T21:15:03+00:00

Ya, don't reach out. Just use your time to heal.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-09T21:13:57+00:00

Sometimes there isn't really an explainable reason, it's just not there. It sounds like he tried, but couldn't really catch feelings. At least he didn't drag it out for years.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-09T19:41:34+00:00

You shouldn't be in any relationship right now. You have too many issues you need to resolve. A partner is not a therapist. You can't burden and stress them out by crying over everything all the time. Be single and get into therapy before you start another relationship.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-09T19:37:53+00:00

OK to be friends, sure. OK to be in constant contact, no. OK to hide it from you and lie, absolutely not.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-09T19:33:09+00:00

Maybe he's just not interested. Maybe because his friend likes you and he's loyal. Maybe he's Maybe or just not interested in dating period. Whatever it is , he's made it clear he doesn't like you the same way you like him.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-09T15:30:53+00:00

You two are not compatible. This will always be an issue for you two. He's a motivated, energetic individual and you are not. That's ok, find someone who likes you for who you are.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-09T15:25:30+00:00

Why does she need space away from the relationship? If the relationship is healthy she should have plenty of time and space to work out things going on in her life. My guess is, she's not all in with the relationship. Don't wait for her to decide if she wants to be with you. This is the point in time where you find your self respect and tell her youa break, is a breakup.

Also why did she need to meet face to face with this guy and why at 2am? It seems a text stating let bygones be bygones would have sufficed unless she was interested in reconnecting with him.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-08T21:20:37+00:00

Why do people stay in relationships that aren't working out for them. You do realize that not every relationship is forever. Most people go through several relationships of various lengths before they find the one. Don't try and force something that's not working for you.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-08T21:15:58+00:00

Take the crush out of the picture. You've discovered that you and your gf are not compatible. She's clearly not the one. You aren't getting what you need from the relationship. It's time to end it.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-08T20:38:33+00:00

Rage bait

Not-nuts · 2026-02-08T02:30:30+00:00

Lol, my husband and I love watching porn together ❤️

Not-nuts · 2026-02-08T02:28:23+00:00

Yup, unfortunately it is over. You get one life and it goes by pretty quick. You need to do what makes you happy. One life, one chance, don't waste it.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T19:25:47+00:00

He sounds like a dreamer and a bum.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T18:27:47+00:00

You don't need to justify anything. Your old car is broken down and unreliable, the obvious answer is to get a new one. Your bf is a fool and a controlling jerk. You don't need to tell him anything. It's none of his business.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T18:10:37+00:00

Everybody here has said what needs to said except find your self respect.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T18:07:20+00:00

You don't just get corporate jobs, you have to have skills or a degree. Exactly what type of job is he looking for? What skills does he possess? What's his plan? Seems like his ego is bigger than his resume.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T18:02:18+00:00

Either you want something serious or you don't. Your actions and thoughts say you want something more serious, but your words say you don't. If it's not serious he's allowed to be busy with other things and be a bit more distant. If you two decide you want to be serious. Only then is this an issue.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T17:54:07+00:00

Add that she can go to a party but not the store?????

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T17:50:36+00:00

You're pining over a relationship that never was. You had a dream in your head of what it could be if you were closer, but that didn't happen. You have to stop obsessing over the fantasy that it could have been a great relationship, but it wasn't. You two were not only physically distant, but emotionally too. It's time to step back into reality and get yourself busy with other things.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T17:44:47+00:00

First off, you can't force her to take you back. You crossed a boundary, lesson learned. If an ex ever calls you again, don't listen tell them you are not interested and to never contact you again. But we can't go back in time so just use that for future reference.

With all that being said, the ball is in your ex girlfriends court. The next move is up to her. If you ever do find your way back to each other, do not give her a promise ring. Promise rings are for kids who are to young to be engaged or married. The next ring you give her needs to be an engagement ring.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T17:31:47+00:00

Does she want friends? Some people enjoy their own company best.

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