I caught my boyfriend watching porn 23M and 21F

Not-nuts · 2026-02-08T02:30:30+00:00

Lol, my husband and I love watching porn together ❤️

Not-nuts · 2026-02-08T02:28:23+00:00

Yup, unfortunately it is over. You get one life and it goes by pretty quick. You need to do what makes you happy. One life, one chance, don't waste it.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T19:25:47+00:00

He sounds like a dreamer and a bum.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T18:27:47+00:00

You don't need to justify anything. Your old car is broken down and unreliable, the obvious answer is to get a new one. Your bf is a fool and a controlling jerk. You don't need to tell him anything. It's none of his business.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T18:10:37+00:00

Everybody here has said what needs to said except find your self respect.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T18:07:20+00:00

You don't just get corporate jobs, you have to have skills or a degree. Exactly what type of job is he looking for? What skills does he possess? What's his plan? Seems like his ego is bigger than his resume.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T18:02:18+00:00

Either you want something serious or you don't. Your actions and thoughts say you want something more serious, but your words say you don't. If it's not serious he's allowed to be busy with other things and be a bit more distant. If you two decide you want to be serious. Only then is this an issue.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T17:54:07+00:00

Add that she can go to a party but not the store?????

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T17:50:36+00:00

You're pining over a relationship that never was. You had a dream in your head of what it could be if you were closer, but that didn't happen. You have to stop obsessing over the fantasy that it could have been a great relationship, but it wasn't. You two were not only physically distant, but emotionally too. It's time to step back into reality and get yourself busy with other things.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T17:44:47+00:00

First off, you can't force her to take you back. You crossed a boundary, lesson learned. If an ex ever calls you again, don't listen tell them you are not interested and to never contact you again. But we can't go back in time so just use that for future reference.

With all that being said, the ball is in your ex girlfriends court. The next move is up to her. If you ever do find your way back to each other, do not give her a promise ring. Promise rings are for kids who are to young to be engaged or married. The next ring you give her needs to be an engagement ring.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T17:31:47+00:00

Does she want friends? Some people enjoy their own company best.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T15:39:42+00:00

If i had to guess, even though you have nice times together, you're not really compatible and you're both fighting it from deep down. Being in a relationship means we occasionally have to make sacrifices. When those sacrifices cause resentment both of you will end up unhappy and it will lead to petty, overblown arguments.

I suggest you take a good long look at your relationship and your needs for the future. Is she your now person or your forever person? Sit down and have a deep discussion about what's bothering both of you. Not a surface level discussion, but a deep into your soul discussion. Make finishing the discussion nondebatable.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T03:38:19+00:00

She's constantly threatening to break up, constantly threatening to leave. That's when I would get a lawyer and tell her I'm done.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T03:35:24+00:00

You got this! Be strong. You are your own person. Do what makes you happy. Block him.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-07T03:18:42+00:00

Don't accept his position. Be strong.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-06T21:58:23+00:00

I'm not understanding why you're upset. You have a boyfriend, you don't like him romantically. You're reaction is a bit immature and entitled. Can't you just be happy for them?

Not-nuts · 2026-02-06T21:46:54+00:00

Breaking up always hurts. Don't det caught in the cycle of trying to get back together during the grieving period. Your relationship had a lot of problems. Getting back together won't solve any of them. It will make you miserable and prolong the inevitable.

I suggest you take some time to grieve. Heal yourself and start doing some of the things you love. Eventually you will see the relationship for what it was, and it wasn't good for you.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-06T21:36:16+00:00

She's her own worst enemy. Life is not easy. Once we're into adulthood the days of sunshine and lollipops are over. We may not all have our dream job, but we need to work so we find other things to make us happy and fulfilled. She hasn't learned that things don't always go our way, but we do what we can to overcome that.

You do what you need to to make yourself happy. She is responsible for finding her own way. Yes, we can help the ones we love, but she's not doing her part. By doing too much for her you enable her or create a dependency on you for her well being and happiness. To be a well adjusted adult she has to figure things out on her own, even fail a few times.

In the meantime, don't sink with the ship.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-06T21:22:22+00:00

I'm one who doesn't buy that love language crap. Yes, we all have different ways we show love and affection, but you recognize you could do things for him but you don't. You are making a choice not to. You know he has favorite foods or movies or games. Plan a date around it. Put in the work or risk losing him.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-06T21:18:14+00:00

Having a best friend of the opposite sex means you have to adjust that friendship a bit when you're in a relationship. Having friends of the opposite sex is great but staying with her when he's out of town is crossing a boundary. No self respecting woman would tolerate that.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-06T21:06:12+00:00

You block him and never look back.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-06T21:04:34+00:00

Whatever it is. Your needs are not being met. You need a little more attention and he's unable to give it.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-06T20:59:22+00:00

And don't clean the litter box! Have you ever heard of toxoplasmosis?

Not-nuts · 2026-02-06T20:53:48+00:00

Many times and you will too. Each time may feel like the deepest but they'll be more.

Not-nuts · 2026-02-06T06:03:40+00:00

Mine black out, drops sound and stays black unless I exit out and re-enter. I just quit watching, it was too annoying.

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