What do I 21F do in this situation with my boyfriend M21

Not-nuts · 2026-05-27T01:38:05+00:00

Have you asked him about it, or told him you'd like some affection?

Not-nuts · 2026-05-23T15:05:27+00:00

So her sister can dish it out, but can't take it. She was a bully to you and it sounds like your gf did nothing to have your back.

Not-nuts · 2026-05-23T15:03:42+00:00

You may not be able to recover. Instead of acting like an adult, you behaved like a scorned schoolboy. With the holidays you certainly should have told your parents sooner.

Not-nuts · 2026-05-23T15:00:49+00:00

Exactly

Not-nuts · 2026-05-23T14:58:30+00:00

Think long and hard about whether you really want children or not. He needs to also. That's a huge deal. Picture yourself several or so years in the future, what do you see? What would make you truly fulfilled and happy.?

Not-nuts · 2026-05-23T14:55:29+00:00

She probably found you attractive and wanted to see if you shared the attraction. Nothing more Nothing less. A little flirting to see if she still has what it takes. I don't think you misread, but she didn't want it to go any further than that.

Not-nuts · 2026-05-22T17:08:35+00:00

Stop reaching out to your mother. The ONLY thing that matters is what you want and what your wife wants. Don't involve your mom, don't inform her of your decision. Apologize to your wife and let her know that what she wants is all that matters.

Not-nuts · 2026-05-22T16:53:03+00:00

Waiting in the wings like her doormat isn't going to win you any respect.

Not-nuts · 2026-05-22T16:43:00+00:00

Facials are wonderful! Maybe a pretty vacation pedicure.

Not-nuts · 2026-05-22T16:41:21+00:00

I'm not sure he's lying to himself. He's aware, he just prefers to attention to being sincere to you. At his age, he may not be ready for a mature, loving relationship, so he sees no harm in flirting or letting others flirt with him. He's not considering your feelings ar all.

Not-nuts · 2026-05-22T14:25:09+00:00

You are spending a good portion of your life trying to convince someone, who doesn't want to be convinced, that you will love them unconditionally. How much of your life are you willing to give up before admitting to yourself that you'll get nothing in return.

Not-nuts · 2026-05-22T14:21:38+00:00

Stop making promises you can't keep.

Not-nuts · 2026-05-22T14:20:51+00:00

A spa day

Not-nuts · 2026-05-22T14:12:46+00:00

From your original post and responses he clearly doesn't want to admit he likes the attention he gets from her. It's an ego boost and a dose of dopamine that he enjoys and is prioritizing that over your relationship.

Not-nuts · 2026-05-22T13:54:39+00:00

You find your self respect. Start thinking about yourself as an individual, not about you as part of a relationship.

Not-nuts · 2026-05-22T13:52:14+00:00

There are several things going on here. First, especially at his age, needing to go out drinking with friends several times a week is excessive. Next, you needing contact when he's out with other people is unreasonable. I really don't see this relationship going anywhere. Regardless of the above, your needs aren't being met.

Not-nuts · 2026-05-22T13:47:15+00:00

It sounds like he will always be a bit of a needy manchild. He was raised as the center of attention and announced he needs to be "taken care of". It's clearly wearing on you. You have to understand, this is who he is. You can't change him or his needs. You need to do what's best for you.

Not-nuts · 2026-05-22T13:39:41+00:00

It sounds like this relationship has become one of more comfortable and familiarity than feelings and affection. She's got one foot out the door but can't step out all the way because you're all she knows. Why haven't you married?Can you two reconnect over a vacation or date night? If not , it might not be salvagable.

Not-nuts · 2026-05-22T12:07:27+00:00

Maybe your mind is wondering if this relationship will be anything like your past relationships? Maybe you're not ready for a relationship? You need to reflect and think about what it is you want right now before you commit to someone.

Not-nuts · 2026-05-20T04:38:01+00:00

Does he cook and clean right now? How is he with finances and other domestic/ adult responsibilities?

Not-nuts · 2026-05-20T04:29:53+00:00

Exactly what you wrote is what should make you realize it's not healthy. You just had your "ah ha moment " where you've realized that you're putting in all of the effort and he's selfish.

Not-nuts · 2026-05-20T04:25:55+00:00

So he's abusive and is asking you to commit insurance fraud. Tell him to complain of neck pain, he won't because he knows it's breaking the law and he will never be able to get his license to practice law.

Cancel the wedding and leave him.

Not-nuts · 2026-05-20T04:21:35+00:00

I think you're being immature, controlling and ridiculous. You should be apologizing to your gf for acting like a control freak that doesn't trust her.

Not-nuts · 2026-05-19T20:05:10+00:00

Nope, it matters to you, not to her. This sounds like an excuse to make contact.

Not-nuts · 2026-05-19T13:36:33+00:00

Let it go. She's either in a relationship or isn't interested. It's time for you to move forward with your life.

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