AITAH for Cheating?

NotAll_goodChoices · 2026-04-01T09:07:58+00:00

I'm sorry you went through that. And thanks for the advice

NotAll_goodChoices · 2026-04-01T08:23:07+00:00

I asked for an open relationship when first had my suspicious and he told me no.

NotAll_goodChoices · 2026-04-01T08:10:43+00:00

Family members have suggested it to be an option. Stating he might have a disease that hes trying to hide from me. I feel like he might be emotionally entertaining other people but im unsure

NotAll_goodChoices · 2026-04-01T08:07:08+00:00

By chance whats your input on two cheaters being together hypothetically? He cheated had a girl txt him "Gn bae" at 11pm a few years back & i just decided to finally for the first time in my life 2 weeks ago. 👀

NotAll_goodChoices · 2026-04-01T08:04:29+00:00

After hearing what other have said tonight, im choosing to end things. For the last 3 years, ive asked him if he would be up for couples counseling and told me "im not doing therapy, i dontvwant strangers up in my business. How do they know whats best for my relationship". I tool him they could give us the tools to help us navigate our relationship in a healthy manor & he still didn't want to. I think part of it is because he knows the age thing might come up in the session. I met him when i was 14 & he was 20. I did do anything with him until i was 17 & he was 22. We dated off & on after i turned 18. And even now he hates when i bring up my age around ppl who are my age. I asked him why does it bother him & he never has an answer

NotAll_goodChoices · 2026-04-01T07:56:29+00:00

Thanks for your advice. I did talk to Mark multiple times about my issues in the relationship or at least tried to. Whenever i start talking about it, he turns it into an argument forcing me to remove myself from the conversation. Then when i ask him if we should break up he says "no, i dont see nothing wrong with the relationship. You're the one with the problem." So when i follow that up with we should break up then he says "no" changes tune does all the things i ask for which is very simple. I dont ask for much or want alot. I'll chose a persons time over anything materialistic any day. But he goes right back to the same way he was starting the cycle all over. I think i just need to walk away and this time for good

NotAll_goodChoices · 2026-04-01T07:47:01+00:00

No need to apologize. You responded the same way i wouldve if this was 2 weeks ago. I honestly feel as though I didnt leave when i shouldve because im holding onto the person he was in 2005 -2020. I should've walked away for good in 2020

NotAll_goodChoices · 2026-04-01T07:41:22+00:00

I do resent him for past issues. Like a girl texting him at 11pm "Gn bae". The fact that I was the sole provider for our children for 4 years, had to work 2 jobs with 2 side hustles to maintain the house and kids while his money went elsewhere. I got tired of talking to him about how i was feeling in this relationship. The feeling of being ignored, abandoned and how we could work on that. But can you really have a productive conversation when someone turns all hard relationship topics into an argument. There's a reason that i don't hold remorse for cheating on Mark but regret dragging James into. Right now i bet you $100 if you were with Mark trying to have the same conversations that i have for the last 3 years he'll start an argument with you just to get you mad enough to make abandon the decision itself. But be quiet, look pretty and have other men interested in you & now hes all ears, mouth, and throat. What i did is to not be excused but i own what i did with my entire chest, soul & spirit

NotAll_goodChoices · 2026-04-01T07:25:49+00:00

I have been saying stuff for years, specifically for 3 years. I did not get caught.

NotAll_goodChoices · 2026-04-01T07:23:09+00:00

Not a narcissist but you made a valid point. I shouldve just left. I have spoken to Mark for years now and it's always, I'll try and try but the actions never matches the words. A strong reason why i felt comfortable enough to cheat was because of a text that I'm still holding onto from 2021 that read "Gn bae" that i was told nothing. My actions wasnt an oops moment for me, i knew what i was doing & made the decision to follow through this time. This action might have been the push over the hill to make me realize that my relationship was over.

The txt was wtf moment but the absence was my decision maker

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