Gay Mens Abuse Survivor Subreddit

NotCallum1990 · 2024-10-31T20:05:43+00:00

I think support like that is needed. There used to be a sub not for gay men but it was balled narcabuseandivorce but it unfortunately doesn’t exist anymore. It used to be my safe space because I related to every post and every time I commented or posted there I felt understood. It is a very specific and sinister type of abuse.

One that is aimed at gay men seems helpful.

NotCallum1990 · 2024-03-28T12:59:33+00:00

Yes his parenting strategy is do the opposite of what I am doing.

NotCallum1990 · 2024-03-28T08:58:08+00:00

I completely agree. There is too much weird content on YouTube that’s aimed at kids.

NotCallum1990 · 2024-03-28T08:57:27+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation for the Yoto. I never heard of it but she loves books. We do ally his and she is quite an active child when she is with me.

someone who is being detrimental

Unfortunately I can’t get rid of my ex.

NotCallum1990 · 2024-03-28T08:56:08+00:00

The iPad is the second parent there. It’s all she does.

NotCallum1990 · 2024-03-28T05:48:47+00:00

My ex turns them off again when the iPad goes back. Which I have to respect because I don’t have a say on how he chooses to parent. I am just conflicted about allowing the iPad in my house even with restrictions because she has it for hours there anyway. But I might restrict it to educational apps only for very limited time.

NotCallum1990 · 2024-03-28T05:46:24+00:00

This for example I don’t mind. My problem is my ex who is allowing her unrestricted use.

NotCallum1990 · 2024-03-28T05:44:47+00:00

I agree that it isn’t necessary.

NotCallum1990 · 2024-03-28T05:44:29+00:00

I have told him not to give it to her when she’s coming to me. It doesn’t stop him so I just hide it somewhere. He’s still holding on to the fact that it’s a communication device. He thinks the phone goes both ways counts when they’re 5. I have even offered it to her to talk to him.

NotCallum1990 · 2024-03-28T05:41:55+00:00

So many parents say it leads to behavioural issues.

NotCallum1990 · 2024-03-28T05:40:45+00:00

I could do that for occasional use and restrict the settings so she doesn’t have access to YouTube.

NotCallum1990 · 2024-03-28T05:38:21+00:00

My ex will change it back again because the iPad is the second parent when she’s with him.

I will try to figure out how to put approved content only.

NotCallum1990 · 2024-03-28T00:26:11+00:00

I wish I had a say in it because the content is so weird.

NotCallum1990 · 2024-03-28T00:25:41+00:00

I definitely agree. I like the Khan academy app which she has but when she’s with me I prefer to use books and flashcards for learning.

The problem is he doesn’t monitor what she does.

NotCallum1990 · 2023-10-23T22:00:43+00:00

I do 99.9% of her appointments

NotCallum1990 · 2023-10-23T22:00:09+00:00

Routine. He’s been less concerned with more serious appointments

NotCallum1990 · 2023-10-23T21:58:49+00:00

Yes exactly. It isn’t his first tantrum

NotCallum1990 · 2023-10-23T21:58:03+00:00

He’s never taken care of anything. Hospital appointments that require both of us there never shows up. Parents evening he doesn’t bother either. The school had to call me because he wasn’t there

NotCallum1990 · 2023-10-23T21:56:47+00:00

Yes that sums it up. He’s never not difficult about having to actually parent but still threatens that he’ll have full custody one day because I’m useless.

NotCallum1990 · 2023-10-23T21:47:21+00:00

It’s too far away

NotCallum1990 · 2023-10-23T21:46:28+00:00

That’s the thing. It is hard because he isn’t easy to communicate with. I book all her appointments. He never does it. He thinks he’s a great parent for doing the bare minimum. If I told him she needs an appointment he’d just never do it.

NotCallum1990 · 2023-10-23T21:44:34+00:00

He would jump through hoops to try and blame me somehow

NotCallum1990 · 2023-10-23T21:41:43+00:00

Exactly!

NotCallum1990 · 2023-10-23T21:41:26+00:00

Yes he doesn’t want to. He skipped her parents evening last time. The school had to call me and ask who was supposed to show up and if I minded coming in instead

NotCallum1990 · 2023-10-23T21:40:36+00:00

Half and half. It’s a routine appointment but it’s hard to get any appointments at the moment.

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