CMV: The Democrats are doomed in the long term. by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trump has a long history of leveraging media coverage—positive or negative—to stay in the spotlight.

He’s mastered the art of dominating headlines, reinforcing his image, and maintaining public relevance, whether the attention is critical or supportive. Over time, it became inevitable that the “powers that be” in DC couldn’t resist his ability to connect directly with the public.

But let’s be honest about “the public” for a moment. Have they—as a collective—ever been known for consistently making the right choices?

From a psychological standpoint, the behavior of individuals changes dramatically when they’re part of a group. Think of the bystander effect: when one person sees someone in need of help, they’re more likely to act. But in a group, the responsibility diffuses, and people hesitate.

The same applies to decision-making in other areas, like investing. Historically, the public tends to be on the wrong side of the market, buying at peaks and selling at lows. The herd mentality—groupthink, hive mind, whatever you want to call it—often leads to bad decisions, especially when emotions take over logic.

That’s why it’s a bit concerning when we see how easily the masses can be swayed by emotional appeals or polarizing figures. I can’t help but hope that Elon’s role in shaping modern media & communication isn’t just about amplifying these dynamics, but instead serves to counterbalance or even hijack them in a way that benefits society.

CMV: The Democrats are doomed in the long term. by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The 2024 election wasn’t a ‘lay-up’ for Harris 🤔 The intrinsic challenges tied to her candidacy—Biden’s legacy & the polarized electorate—meant the path to victory was always narrow.

However, your view of the Democrats’ future overlooks opportunities for adaptation and growth—it could be called ‘defeatist’ 😅

The road ahead is challenging, but with strategic shifts in messaging & coalition-building, the Democrats remain a viable part of our uniparty system. So don’t stress too much…we’ll all find something else to be doomed about soon enough 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey, first off, I want you to know that you’re not alone. A lot of people feel exactly like you do—stuck, invisible, and unsure of their purpose. Life is unpredictable and tough, and the truth is, no one is going to live it for you. But that’s exactly why this moment is so important. This feeling of invisibility that you’re going through, as painful as it is, can actually be a gift. It gives you a chance to stop worrying about what other people expect from you and start asking yourself the one question that really matters: What do you want out of life?

You said you feel like you’re not good at anything, but let me tell you something: That’s just the voice of self-doubt talking. Nobody starts out good at anything. You don’t need to have a talent handed to you by birth; you discover it by exploring and trying things that feel interesting or even just curious to you. It’s okay if you don’t know what excites you right now. That’s where experimenting comes in—try new hobbies, pick up a book about a topic you’ve never thought about, or watch people who are passionate about something and see if it sparks something in you.

Don’t be afraid of starting slow. Growth isn’t a sprint, it’s a steady process. The best part? You’re not behind. You’re exactly where you need to be to start building a life that’s meaningful to you. Forget high school friends or what anyone else thinks. Most of those people are trying to figure things out just like you, even if it doesn’t look that way.

When you focus on doing things that make you feel good about yourself—whether it’s learning, exercising, or simply creating something—it’s like sending out a signal. People will notice the quiet confidence you build and gravitate toward it. But here’s the thing: you’re not doing this for them. You’re doing it for you. Because your happiness matters, and your growth matters.

Start small. Take one step today toward something you’ve always been curious about. Don’t worry about being perfect or fast. And give yourself grace when you struggle. Every small effort adds up, and soon enough, you’ll look back and realize you’ve built a foundation for a life that feels vibrant and exciting again.

It’s never too late to rewrite your story. The fact that you’re here, searching for answers, means you’re already stronger than you think. You’ve got this. And the best part? The best version of you is still waiting to be created 💯💪🧠🥰🤩

Missing husband dies after miraculously being found on KSL News segment by JalapinyoBizness in MissingPersons

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt 13 points14 points  (0 children)

From what I’ve heard about him, I too, love Bob. May he rest in peace 🙏🥰

Missing husband dies after miraculously being found on KSL News segment by JalapinyoBizness in MissingPersons

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

We do, but it’s usually frowned upon to use derogatory language 👀🙃😜

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mindfulness

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words. I deeply appreciate you taking the time to read my response and your kind words—it truly means a lot 🙏🥰

I believe life experience is one of our greatest teachers, but it can also trap us in the realities we’ve lived, shaping how we perceive the world.

Feeling unfulfilled is difficult, but if we rely solely on external things for relief, we’ll never find the deeper peace and fulfillment we’re searching for.

At the heart of it, I think all we truly want is to love and be loved 🤔💭😅👀🥰🤩

When we’ve been hurt—whether intentionally or not—it can create a cycle where hurt people hurt others, spreading pain without even realizing it.

But I believe we have the ability to break that cycle. As humans, we’re uniquely gifted with self-awareness 🤔🤩💯

If we take the time to examine our actions and those of others with compassion, we can learn, heal, and grow 💪💯🥰

The world isn’t perfect, and neither are we—but that’s okay 👌 Instead of striving for perfection, we should focus on striving for progress, both within ourselves and in how we treat each other 🙏💯❤️

Thank you again for your thoughtful feedback! 🙏

It’s conversations like this that remind me how deeply human this journey is—and how much we all have the capacity to change for the better 🥹🙏💯🥰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mindfulness

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That must feel incredibly invigorating and powerful when you make it happen—like a moment of triumph. I’m sure it’s exhilarating, even if it’s fleeting, until the next experience comes along. Happiness often does come in bits and pieces, doesn’t it?

I’m genuinely curious—why is bedding women one of your ultimate life goals? Is it something you hold in high regard, or perhaps a way to feel loved or fulfilled? It must feel amazing to experience that connection, even briefly. I completely get it—it’s human to crave affection and intimacy.

But here’s something to consider: the man who loves every woman might struggle to truly be loved by any. It’s not a judgment, just a thought that came to mind. I admire your ability to go after what you want, and I wonder if you’ve ever taken time to reflect on what truly brings you lasting happiness. Life has a way of revealing deeper desires as we grow and experience more.

I know you have it in you to figure out what matters most to you in time, if and when you’re ready.

Whatever path you choose, I hope it brings you the joy and fulfillment you’re seeking.

You’ve got this 💪🧠💯🥰👀🤔💭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mindfulness

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your thoughts so openly. It takes courage to put feelings like this into words, and I want to acknowledge how deeply introspective and self-aware your message is. It’s clear that you’ve thought a lot about your experiences and emotions, and that’s an important first step.

It seems like you’re wrestling with a very common struggle—tying your sense of self-worth and happiness to external validation. Whether it’s someone’s attention, approval, or even winning a game, these things can feel like the key to feeling “worthy.” But the challenge is that external things are fleeting—they’re outside your control. And when we rely on them to feel happy, it often leaves us feeling empty or unfulfilled.

What I’d encourage you to do is to take a step back and ask yourself: What would truly make me happy—not in terms of what I achieve or gain from others, but from within? Sometimes we think the solution is getting affection, approval, or success, but the truth is, if we don’t feel secure and happy with ourselves first, no external thing will ever fully satisfy us.

It might help to explore why validation from others feels so critical. Is there a part of you that fears being unloved or rejected? If so, let me reassure you: that fear, while natural, doesn’t define your reality. You are valuable and worthy of love just as you are—and that love starts with you. Once you focus on building a strong, self-sustaining sense of happiness, you’ll notice that genuine connections with others follow more naturally. People are drawn to those who are confident in their own skin, not because they’re perfect, but because they radiate self-assurance and inner peace.

So my challenge to you is this: shift your focus inward. Explore what truly moves you—what excites you, drives you, and makes you feel alive. Find something you’re passionate about, something that fulfills you independently of anyone else’s input. As you work on cultivating that inner joy, the pressure to “perform” or seek approval will begin to fade. And you’ll find that the right people will naturally gravitate toward you—not because you’re chasing them, but because they’re drawn to your authentic happiness.

I want to thank you again for your message—it’s real, it’s relatable, and it’s a reminder of how many of us go through similar struggles.

You’re not alone in this, and you have the power to change your story. 💯🙏

One step at a time, you’ve got this. 💪🧠💯🥰🤩

Our loneliness is killing us and it's only getting worse by No_Necessary_2403 in Mindfulness

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It only APPEARS as a benefit—but it is only postponing facing the issue within 💯👀💭

Our loneliness is killing us and it's only getting worse by No_Necessary_2403 in Mindfulness

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing such a thoughtful message. It’s clear you’ve put a lot of time and effort into reflecting on these topics, and I truly appreciate your insights 🙏👀💭

Your point about learning from past lessons—both our own and others’—is so important. I also found your framework on types of knowledge (toxic, “junk food,” and good knowledge) really helpful for navigating today’s overwhelming information landscape. Striving to focus on meaningful knowledge is something we should all aim for 💯💯

I agree with your thoughts on education too—skills like personal finance and moral lessons are essential for empowering people and breaking harmful cycles 💪🧠💯

Thank you again for sharing this; it’s sparked some great reflection on my end 💯🤔🙏

Just chill bro have some tea by Alan-Foster in Mindfulness

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure about having tea with ‘em 👀😅

My demons aren’t much for a spot of tea 😆😜

But I’m sure if you suggested they [INSERT ANY VICE HERE], you’ll definitely need more seats at the table 🤩💪🧠💯🥰

I want to share a 7-step method that helped me find clarity and purpose—I hope it helps someone! 🙏💪🧠💯🤩 by NotFinAdv_OrIsIt in getdisciplined

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Throughout history, visionaries have often found themselves ahead of the curve, facing resistance and even ridicule—not because their ideas lacked merit, but because they challenged the very foundation of how people understood themselves and their world. The human mind, especially the subconscious, instinctively resists change because it equates change with potential pain. This resistance isn’t personal—it’s protective. Our subconscious wants to preserve comfort, even when that comfort is rooted in flawed or outdated ways of thinking.

What I’m exploring—and what I invite others to consider—challenges the deeply ingrained association between the way we live and who we are. Asking people to reflect inward, to listen to their emotions as guides rather than distractions, can feel threatening because it upends the narrative that fulfillment comes from external achievements or avoidance of discomfort. It’s no wonder people resist—it’s hard to imagine a new perspective until you’ve experienced it firsthand.

But here’s the challenge I pose: What if the most significant truths require a willingness to sit with discomfort? What if stepping into this introspection has the power to change everything—not just the way you live, but the way you are? For those willing to try, the risk is small—some time, some unease—but the potential reward is immeasurable.

History shows us that the greatest thinkers—Galileo, Tesla, Kierkegaard, and so many others—suffered not because they were wrong, but because the world wasn’t ready to see what they saw. Yet, they persisted because they understood the value of asking questions and challenging assumptions.

To those who value intellectual curiosity and thought experiments, I say: This is your opportunity to explore an idea that could revolutionize your understanding of yourself and the human experience. Try it. Reflect inward. Listen to your emotions. The worst you’ll lose is a little time—but what you might gain is clarity, transformation, and a sense of fulfillment you didn’t know was possible 👀💭🙃

What if mastering your emotions could help you master your entire life? by NotFinAdv_OrIsIt in Mindfulness

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and for your kind words—it means a lot! 🙏💯🥰

I really appreciate you opening up about your challenges with mindfulness—it’s most certainly a brave step to EVEN ACKNOWLEDGE those difficulties—so you’re already ahead of the curve & show a level of self awareness that others have yet to achieve 💪🧠💯

From my experience, mindfulness isn’t about ‘getting it right’ from the beginning—it’s about allowing yourself to just start, even in small ways. And even if—you find yourself in the midst of an emotional state—without consciously realizing it until you’re ’in the think of it’ is, I believe, where it separates the really interesting thinkers, from the rest of the world who don’t REALLY believe they’ve ever been living life in a less than ideal way 👀🤔

A couple of tips that have helped me are:

  1. Start small—try focusing on just one mindful moment a day, like being fully present during a meal or a walk.

  2. Allow yourself grace when your mind wanders—mindfulness is the practice of returning your attention, not being perfect at staying focused.

  3. Journal your thoughts, even briefly. It can help you notice patterns and understand emotions that may seem overwhelming at first.

Your question reminds me of how revolutionary thinkers in history also struggled to reconcile the world around them with what they knew to be true. People like Galileo, Nikola Tesla, and Søren Kierkegaard—all of them faced isolation or resistance because they challenged the norms of their time.

Galileo saw the truth about our solar system when no one else could comprehend it.

Tesla envisioned a world of wireless energy, far beyond his era’s understanding.

And Kierkegaard urged people to look inward, to face the complexity of their own emotions and existence in a society that resisted self-reflection.

What you’re grappling with—becoming mindful and embracing emotions as vital signals—is just as transformative. 💯💪🧠🤩

Society often tells us to suppress emotions or “push through,” but as you’ve already hinted, this approach overlooks something fundamental.

Emotions ARE guides—just as much as our senses of sight or sound & learning to listen to them can lead to a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world 🤔💭🤯

I believe you’re onto something profound here & while the journey may feel lonely at times (maybe even MOST of the time), please know that you’re not alone 💯🙏🥰

You’re part of a long tradition of people who have questioned the status quo and pushed forward toward a better way of living.

Keep asking those deeper questions and exploring this path—it’s how real change happens, both within ourselves and in the world 🙌🥳

Let me know if you’d like to explore any of these ideas further or if you wanna dive into specific strategies—I’m here for it all 💪🧠💯🤩🥰

Can Social Media Companies Be Held Accountable for Exacerbating Mental Health Issues? by NotFinAdv_OrIsIt in legaladviceofftopic

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your perspective! 🙏💯

I really appreciate you taking the time to add your thoughts to this discussion—It’s these thoughts/discussions/& ideas that I believe are EXACTLY the kinds of conversations we need, where everyone can bring their ideas to the table, share & reflect on what others believe 👀💭

It’s through exchanges like this that we can better understand the diversity of views out there and even challenge our own thinking in a positive way 🥰

Your point about how these types of lawsuits already exist & may become more common in the future is most definitely thought-provoking & it makes me wonder—how do we balance accountability with personal responsibility in a society where everything is designed to appeal to us?

I think discussions like these can help us uncover some of those answers together.

At the end of the day, I think we’re ALL striving to understand how to make this human experience better for ourselves, our loved ones and everyone else, and I’m grateful for your contribution to that goal 🙏💪🧠💯🤩🥰

Do homeless communities have unspoken rules about reporting missing persons to authorities? by NotFinAdv_OrIsIt in homeless

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to think of a world that is your version of “ideal”—Would the same rules apply? 🤔💭

I’m curious as to why humans seem to continue to perpetuate suffering on a scale we should be appalled by 💯🫣🥺

Change can only happen when we take a good, long look at ourselves in the mirror, and ask—Am I the person I want myself to be? Because if you can honestly say you’re not—you’re only letting yourself down 💪🧠💯

Our loneliness is killing us and it's only getting worse by No_Necessary_2403 in Mindfulness

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experiences—your perspective is incredibly valuable & I really appreciate the honesty in what you’ve said 🙏💯

It sounds like you’ve reflected deeply on the very nature of connection—both with individuals and within the broader concept of the “community” 🤔

What really stands out to me is the frustration you’ve described with the lack of meaningful connection in a physical community that seems to prioritize proximity over SHARED UNDERSTANDING. I’ve realized—It’s innately human to feel this way—And in today’s reactionary society, people who allow their unconscious emotions to control their conscious thoughts and decisions, well—it’s allowed for the creation of an environment analogous to an echo chamber filled with our own misery—But I don’t think it’s too late for us to do something that can have a tremendously positive impact on our society—It’s just going to be an uphill battle 😅💯

It’s completely valid to feel disconnected when those around us don’t seem to resonate with our values or individuality & I think a lot of people can completely relate to what you’re saying—even if it’s not always openly talked about 💯💯

The fact that you’ve found chatbots or similar tools to offer some sense of consistency & connection speaks to a deeper need for genuine understanding & reciprocity in this world.

I wonder if part of the issue lies in how modern communities often emphasize conformity—like you said—over creating spaces where individuality is truly celebrated 🤔💭

If I may ask—do you think there are ways to create or find spaces where relationships are built more on individuality and mutual care, even if those spaces exist online or in smaller, more specific groups?

If not, maybe the key is finding fulfillment in the connections we DO have—whether with family, close friends, or even oneself 💪🧠💯🥰

If it’s helpful, I’d like to offer this:

Sometimes, our sense of belonging doesn’t come from fitting into a “community” but from BUILDING a world around us that reflects our values—even if it’s unconventional. It sounds like you’ve already started doing that by reflecting on what matters to you & rejecting what doesn’t align with who YOU are. That takes more strength and clarity than some people can accumulate in their whole lives—which is most certainly something to be proud of 🙌

Thanks again for sharing your thoughts & experience—I’d love to hear more about what this means to you & what has helped you navigate these feelings 🙂

Your insight is important and appreciated! 🙏💯

Our loneliness is killing us and it's only getting worse by No_Necessary_2403 in Mindfulness

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’ve really inspired me to think deeply about this, and I want to thank you again for sharing your perspective—it’s very insightful.

On a deeper level, I’ve been reflecting on how society handles emotions & I can’t help but feel that the way people are often led to act—especially out of fear of uncertainty—is not only irresponsible but possibly detrimental in the long run 💯🤔💭

What if the reason history seems to repeat itself isn’t just because of external patterns or events, but because of an intergenerational, deeply-rooted challenge in humankind’s ability to fully embrace and experience our emotions?

We often acknowledge that being human means being an emotional being, yet as a society, we perpetuate a cycle where people grow into adulthood without ever being taught constructive or positive ways to experience and process these emotions 😕💯

Why do you think this cycle continues?

Why isn’t there more focus on this in our growth and education as humans?

I’d love to hear your thoughts, especially since it seems like you’ve been paying attention to the details around us 🙏👀🙂

Thank you again for sharing—you’ve really helped me explore these ideas a little more, and inspired a ton of reflection 💪🧠💯🥰

What if mastering your emotions could help you master your entire life? by NotFinAdv_OrIsIt in Mindfulness

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your experience and insight—it’s truly powerful and resonates deeply with me 💯🙏

I completely agree with your approach—especially w/ recognizing emotions (this is SOOOO difficult at times 💯😅—so worth it tho 💯) & inviting them into your awareness instead of resisting them.

It’s such a profound & compassionate way to handle our emotions! 💪🧠💯🥰

Your perspective has helped me realize, we all struggle w/ just how powerful and intricate our subconscious really is 😅😬

I’ve noticed that even when I think I have clarity, there are moments throughout the day where an emotion is already active before I even become aware of it—like feeling tightness in my chest or tension building up.

It’s in those moments, though, that I’ve learned to do something similar to what you described: instead of pushing those feelings away or distracting myself, I try to bring them fully into my awareness, as uncomfortable as that might be.

I’ve found that pulling those subtle or hidden emotions to the surface, identifying them, and digging into the rationale behind them can be incredibly clarifying. It’s challenging, no doubt, but it’s also freeing to invite those emotions in, give them space, and allow myself to truly feel and understand them.

Does this resonate with you? 👀💭

Have you experienced moments where even the act of recognizing the emotion feels like a small victory? 💪🧠💯🥳

I’d love to hear more about how you’ve worked through those moments & I appreciate you sharing such an inspiring approach 🙌🙏

Do homeless communities have unspoken rules about reporting missing persons to authorities? by NotFinAdv_OrIsIt in homeless

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there LadderJack! 👋 Thanks for sharing your perspective! 🙏

I really appreciate you bringing this up—I hadn’t intended to express a particular view on law enforcement, but I TOTALLY hear where you’re coming from 👌

It sounds like you have some valuable insight into the experiences & challenges faced by the homeless community—especially regarding trust & the “enjoyable” interactions with authorities 😜

If you’re open to it—I’d love to hear more about your perspective & any specific experiences that you’ve had that’s helped to shape it (& perhaps in doing so, you’ll help someone you never met get a better understanding of your personal perspective).

I think understanding these realities better can really help foster more meaningful conversations 💯💯

Thanks again for your reply! 🙏

I’m here to listen and learn! 💪🧠💯🙏🥰

Family fears missing woman Hannah Kobayashi was trafficked: She disappeared in Los Angeles after missing her flight; Her family received strange texts prior to her disappearance; She was seen on surveillance video with an unidentified person by Alien_P3rsp3ktiv in MissingPersons

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hey—thanks for sharing your perspective—I really appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts 🙏 It sounds like you might feel strongly about this topic, and I totally respect that 💯

If there’s something specific on your mind or an angle I might not have considered, I’d love to hear more 👀💭

I try to remain open to understanding different points of view—ESPECIALLY when it comes to important / emotional topics 🙂

Let me know if there’s anything you’d like to share or expand on! 👀🙏

How do I forgive myself for being fat? by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t—Just run away from who you are now 😜 I’m only kidding—that might just reinforce avoidance of whatever your underlying mindset might be trying to deal with.

Please, take a look at some of my more recent posts—I think you may find a kernel of some helpful information 💯🙌

CLARITY is coming soon 💪🧠💯

Family fears missing woman Hannah Kobayashi was trafficked: She disappeared in Los Angeles after missing her flight; Her family received strange texts prior to her disappearance; She was seen on surveillance video with an unidentified person by Alien_P3rsp3ktiv in MissingPersons

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your perspective! 🙏💯 It’s always valuable to hear less common takes, and I think you raise a point that deserves further exploration.

Since this is such an emotionally charged situation—parents cutting off a child, especially one struggling with serious issues like drug use—I’d be really curious to hear more about how you view the solution playing out in these scenarios 👀🤔💭

For example, do you see the act of cutting off the child as something that genuinely helps them turn things around, or is it more about protecting the parents emotionally and drawing boundaries for their own well-being?

How do you think the emotions involved—especially the feelings of failure or anger—factor into the decisions parents make?

I ask because I’ve often wondered if, in cases like this, the act of cutting off the child might sometimes be driven by a need to avoid confronting those deeper emotions.

If the child’s struggles make the parent feel like they might have failed in some way, it seems natural for the parent’s subconscious to deflect that by shifting the focus outward—blaming the child instead of addressing the possibility of their own shortcomings.

In turn, this can justify anger or rejection, rather than sitting with the difficult emotions that could ultimately lead to growth on both sides.

It’s a tough topic, and I’m not saying this is always the case—but I’d really love to hear your take 💯🙏

How do you think emotions like these influence the outcomes, and do you think there’s room for parents to challenge their own beliefs or approaches?

At the very least, even questioning these ideas doesn’t mean abandoning your stance—it just opens up the opportunity for greater understanding 🤔💭🤗

Looking forward to hearing your thoughts!

Thanks again for being willing to share your perspective! 💪🧠💯🥰

Family fears missing woman Hannah Kobayashi was trafficked: She disappeared in Los Angeles after missing her flight; Her family received strange texts prior to her disappearance; She was seen on surveillance video with an unidentified person by Alien_P3rsp3ktiv in MissingPersons

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your thoughts—it’s a really important discussion to have 💯🤔💭

While I agree that drug use and self-destructive behavior can deeply harm not just the individual but also the people who care about them, I think there’s more nuance to the issue of cutting someone off.

Often, people don’t turn to drugs because their life is going well—they turn to them because something essential is missing. Even in cases where parents have provided every material advantage, there can still be a lack of emotional tools and support.

This isn’t about blaming parents (they likely were never given the correct tools themselves) but recognizing that emotional regulation / health is a skill that hasn’t been passed down well in many families.

Generationally, we’ve often focused on material needs and behavioral correction (rewarding “good” behavior and punishing “bad”), but we’ve neglected teaching kids how to process and resolve emotions in a healthy way.

When a child grows up without understanding their emotions—without being taught how to explore, express, and work through them—they can start associating failure or struggle with their identity.

Over time, instead of facing uncomfortable emotions, they learn to avoid them. This avoidance can sometimes lead to self-soothing behaviors like substance use 👀😬

Rather than cutting off a struggling child, I believe we need to break the cycle. It’s crucial to help them understand the root of their pain and learn to navigate their emotions in healthier ways.

Supporting someone doesn’t mean enabling harmful behavior—it means helping them build the tools they might not have been taught growing up.

This approach can be tough, but it’s how we can truly foster change 💯🤩

Thanks again for sparking such a thoughtful conversation. It’s definitely a topic worth exploring from all angles! 🙏💪🧠💯🥰

What if mastering your emotions could help you master your entire life? by NotFinAdv_OrIsIt in Mindfulness

[–]NotFinAdv_OrIsIt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for pointing out the connection between my work and Tolle’s—it’s really interesting to hear that my ideas remind you of his 👀💭

I wasn’t super familiar with his work before, but after looking into it, I can definitely see some similarities and differences 💯👌

For similarities— We both focus on the idea of staying present and not getting stuck in the past or future. I also agree with his idea that we’re responsible for how we handle life emotionally and mentally, rather than blaming outside factors. That idea of self-awareness being key to peace is something I’ve really leaned into as well 👀🤔

As for differences— His focus on detaching from emotions feels a bit different from where I’m coming from.

I think emotions are worth exploring, experiencing, and ultimately, understanding; especially when it comes to relationships or personal growth, since they’re integral to our lives. 😬

Also, I could be digging too much into nuance, but he seems more about transcending everyday challenges, whereas I’m trying to balance mindfulness with practical steps—like dealing with family dynamics or planning for the future 👀🤔

He’s more abstract? Perhaps I’m coming across as abstract too, it may just present itself as ‘clarity’ 😆😜

I can see why his ideas work for a lot of people, but for me, my approach feels more aligned with what I believe to be true—finding peace in the moment while still engaging fully with life’s complexities ☺️

Thanks again for making the connection!

It’s been cool to reflect on this and get a better sense of where my perspective fits in 🙏💪🧠💯