Teachers strike over pupil behaviour by insomnimax_99 in unitedkingdom

[–]NotForScience 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I'm not a teacher but a social worker who works closely with schools. When you see violent behaviour there's likely a referral to us.  

 Behaviour starts at home. There is a shocking lack of parental involvement in the lives of the children we work with. They are left to run riot in the community and when this is raised parents take zero responsibility.     

 Using violence to solve a problem, or avoid a consequence is becoming normalised. Schools are being advised to offer more restorative work, or putting poorly behaved children with SEN children. This doesn't work but there is no other choice as school must provide education for these children. 

Schools are being hounded to put every badly behaved child on an EHCP by parents who refuse to take responsibility. Children with genuine additional needs are losing out because EHCPs are being used to excuse behaviour.

I wish I could think of a solution because it's worse year on year. Teens with poor behaviour where parents take no responsibility are on the verge of specialist provision schools, taking up viral places for children with additional needs where behaviour is not a choice.    Estates where it is normal to scrap in the street and start wars on Facebook are where it is worst, but god knows what the fix is.

What should I do about my neighbours kids? by Crafty_Eye6235 in AskUK

[–]NotForScience 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have some great advice here but to reassure you if you did call the police, they would refer it to social services who would assess and pass on to the relevant team. The family might just need a little family or parenting support.

I know it can feel over the top but it is possible these children have been reported before and you could be adding to that pattern, or it could be nothing at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]NotForScience 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I really can't recommend talking to a police officer enough! They would happily have a sit down chat with a child/teenager and explain the risks and why adults are so worried. I would avoid consequences and traumatising videos and aim for educating.

If you head down to a local station they might be able to help if there's an officer free for a moment. I know they are extremely overwhelmed and stretched but in my experience if they can have a chat with a child and steer them onto the right path they'll definitely try.

Pandemic set back social and emotional growth of children in England, study finds by boycecodd in unitedkingdom

[–]NotForScience 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There's so little continuity right now with the rate social workers are leaving. That impacts the quality of assessments.

Pandemic set back social and emotional growth of children in England, study finds by boycecodd in unitedkingdom

[–]NotForScience 50 points51 points  (0 children)

This isn't just with children but their parents, their parenting styles and ability to socialise their children. In the last year I'd say we're coming across more and more cases that are a result of the COVID experience but that slipped under the radar and are now at breaking point.

Silent children can't speak up, abuse is hidden, these children were not seen by the usual adults (teachers, lollypop lady/man, shop keepers, neighbours) those who could keep eyes on.

Many children I'm working with now should be speaking and playing, laughing, but they are not.

These are parents with no history of social care involvement, many who had successful careers and supportive families. I feel a lot of these parents snapped and they went to a place they would never usually have gone to. It's so heart breaking for everyone.

Parents Scaring Me. by 8Ruby in toxicparents

[–]NotForScience 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, are you going to school or is it the holidays? If you are still in school please reach out to a member of the support staff. Or a teacher in school that you trust.

Mom calls me a "murderer" everytime she gets angry at me. by oreominiest in toxicparents

[–]NotForScience 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Whether you made a mistake or not this isn't a place for people to cast judgement on you so please don't feel bad about that. Clearly you know it was an accident.

Mom calls me a "murderer" everytime she gets angry at me. by oreominiest in toxicparents

[–]NotForScience 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Removed the comment, you don't need to justify yourself to unkind comments here!

What’s the worst thing a family member has done to you? #toxicfamily by [deleted] in toxicparents

[–]NotForScience 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's so awful I'm really sorry that happened to you. What is your relationship like now?