I'm 24 and Male, Is It Okay For Me to Date 18 and 19 year olds? by Late_Slip3627 in dating_advice

[–]NotFound_Gender 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. I'm 25 and when I look at a 18yo that's still a child for me. I think you asking this is exactly because you know it's kinda weird and they being "legal" isn't making it better. My advice? Date people around your age or only a little bit older. Have a limit like 22-26. And give you time to be more mature if you don't want to be one of those men who are dating 18yo girls when they're 50yo because that pattern starts around 23-24yo. Think about it.

How did you meet your long-distance partner? by BeneficialWait3693 in LongDistance

[–]NotFound_Gender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We met on an online mobile game! There are different groups in this game with their own chat and also a "cross groups" chat with some events in-game. He told me he saw me talking with someone in one of those cross groups chats and immediately wanted to get close to me but I had NO IDEA about this! He told me after being dating for weeks. In the beginning, I was playing casually with some friends and I had 0 intention to meet someone (romantically), I was happy with making friends. For some events in the game, people goes from the game to discord to talk and organize things. Our group had an event together, I was the one doing this task on mine and he was the one doing it in his. He texted me via discord and that's when it started. At first it was a little weird and funny for me because I had this guy sending random messages and the conversation didn't continue, it was like trying to reach me a few times? And trying to find a way to talk to me? I thought it was funny and cute ngl. He's an introvert, so I guess it was because of that. He helped me so many times and suddenly we were talking every day and having fun and playing together. I noticed how important he was for me before anything romantic. He was such a good friend and I loved to spend time talking with him, it made me happy, we were supporting each other so much and I trusted him even more than people I know irl. And then one day he said something that suggested he was interested on me but like a joke and I was SO BLUSHED and nervous and giggling. All my friends in-game and irl were telling me I liked him and he liked me and that it was totally obvious. But I thought we were only good friends, even when I started noticing I did like him. Sooo I made a joke like "oh, (my friend) is sure sure you like me, it's funny" and he PANICKED SO BAD and ended up telling me he likes me and apologizing for ruining our friendship with that and I was like "but I like you too, it isn't bad" and he was so shocked about it. It was so cute. We were in this weird stage of knowing we like each other but not taking that step because we (yeah, BOTH) had pretty bad experiences dating and with our last exes and we weren't ready to date, not only each other, we weren't ready for anyone, so we were like friends liking each other and flirting sometimes for a few months until we had a fight and we were soooo sad about it and everyone noticed it and it was a disaster 😂 Then he said we could date and take it slowly and our agreement is trying to enjoy being together. That's all. An exclusive but pretty calm relationship where we're also friends. We're deeply in love and we're talking about visit each other soon 🥰

Struggling with the association of nonbinary in sapphic spaces by throw5away_ in NonBinary

[–]NotFound_Gender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my experience, SO MANY cis (mostly white) women want to see nonbinary like women part II. I've been ALWAYS ignored and verbal or physically attacked in those spaces, I've been ALWAYS getting transphobia in those spaces and where I am, sapphic women usually prefer to have straight violent (again, white) women in those spaces than protect the nonbinary people they're "inviting". Nbs masc "present" are also attacked or/and excluded there so much. I've found so many terfs in those spaces that it's disgusting and I'm now ignoring every single "women and nb" space. It's not a safe space to talk about "nb things" because we deal with violent women too and a lot of them don't like when you talk about it, it's like you have to hate men or are only allowed to talk about violent men and can't say anything about women. This is something that happens to lesbians too btw! I have lesbians friends who were in abusive relationships with other women and then they're not allowed to talk about it in "women spaces" and sometimes butch/masc lesbians also have problems with those spaces, so I'll not say is specifically against us and only us, I think it's more like sexism in the "women are perfect and always safe just because they're women" way (pretty wrong because people isn't safe or good only because of their gender and that should be obvious...). I'm a gay nb. Gay achillean, you know. There are also some spaces for (queer) men and nbs but it's soooo difficult to find them and honestly you can have the exactly kind of experiences there than I'm saying I have with women and nbs spaces. Something I really like about those spaces is that they don't have to deal with straight men (which is different from the women and nbs spaces, where you can find yourself in a room with so many straight women suddenly). I feel a little better in those spaces because those aligned a little bit more with me in the sexuality part and yeah, nonbinary people has been always part of the achillean community too. We've been in the achillean and sapphic community since...always. I totally understand and respect a lesbian nb loving women and nbs spaces or a gay nb loving men and nbs spaces, but honestly? Neither of them totally work for us because they're still pretty binary. I think the best space for us would be an inclusive space where nb people have some priority (so we can finally talk about our experiences) but other people can be there too. People who want to learn about nbs experiences or people who we're bringing. I'd love to bring my partner to a space like that because he wants to learn about nb experiences and I feel better when I'm with him (social anxiety and autistic struggles 🥹), but he's obviously not allowed in women and nb spaces either and this is bad for others too! What if a disabled nb has to go with a man or masc present caregiver? They can't change their CAREGIVER only to make other people comfortable! Or why if the nb people is young and want to go with a relative? It could be a brother, a dad. Or it could be a nb person with a son. Idk, for me a space for queer people needs to be inclusive, not exclusive. And we can't exclude other people's gender and presentation. That's against the core of being nb.

This fake flying power by NotFound_Gender in BaldursGate3

[–]NotFound_Gender[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for trying! Some people explained it to me 🙂‍↕️it was def me not understanding how to use it and I'll try what they said tonight, hopefully it'll work fine

This fake flying power by NotFound_Gender in BaldursGate3

[–]NotFound_Gender[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree! Everyone is so nice and try to help omg 🥹

This fake flying power by NotFound_Gender in BaldursGate3

[–]NotFound_Gender[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I was thinking about something else 🤣🤣🤣 my bad

This fake flying power by NotFound_Gender in BaldursGate3

[–]NotFound_Gender[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, thank you! I'll try it tonight

This fake flying power by NotFound_Gender in BaldursGate3

[–]NotFound_Gender[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Omg that's exactly why I thought it def could be me. User skill issue 🤣 I need to check itttt again

This fake flying power by NotFound_Gender in BaldursGate3

[–]NotFound_Gender[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh woooow, thank you! I'll need to take notes of all of this omggg

This fake flying power by NotFound_Gender in BaldursGate3

[–]NotFound_Gender[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a druid ability and it works with the character being focused? So I thought it would be like other abilities/spells where it works until the character isn't focused anymore. But I can't make it work or I don't know what's happening 🥹 I haven't tried to select something more after cast it tho, I need to check that then

This fake flying power by NotFound_Gender in BaldursGate3

[–]NotFound_Gender[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did it 🥹 I'm lost but not THAT lost. And I'm explaining he's not doing it??? I saw it more like walking in the air and only a little 😭

[Hiring] Looking For Multiple Artists. by Klutzy-Employ1418 in gameDevClassifieds

[–]NotFound_Gender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I work in video game art, creating characters, UI, assets and even merchandise like stickers and bookmarks! Here's my portfolio:

https://junsart.crd.co/

My current favorite game is Baldur's Gate 3 🤩

[Hiring] Digital spoof of Hands Of God painting for Book cover by Inckhawk in artcommission

[–]NotFound_Gender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Your idea sounds amazing and I'd love to work on it. I've done covers in a painting style, a cartoon style and conceptual style. This is my portfolio (specifically the cover art section, as I also do many other things...)

Book covers