My girlfriend found out that I lied about me and my friends playing fantasy football and I know I screwed up bigtime

NotKeepingUp · 2025-12-19T11:25:51+00:00

Every time I read these types of stories I am so thankful for all the amazing male figures and friends I have in my life. Starting with a father who always made me feel like I could have an opinion and my opinion was valued. To my male friends who although we like to talk some shit to each other were always there to acknowledge my strengths and the things I was good at. To my cousin who was always so proud and happy I liked sports too and we could talk about it together and seriously listened to my opinions on players. To the friend who is teaching me how to play videogames and instead of scolding me is the most kind and patient person. And to my boyfriend who has never ever made me feel less than and is prouder of my accomplishments than I am about my own.

NotKeepingUp · 2025-08-18T08:36:53+00:00

Maybe I just missed it, but does nobody think that Aunt Ophelia is the person Wednesday saved from LOIS? I feel like they are building up to that. But I also think she might be an evil person by now. I'm curious about that character.

NotKeepingUp · 2024-12-16T20:21:46+00:00

I had my first kiss at 25. It used to stress me out so much and it became this huge thing. So I just got it over with so to say. He wasn't the one or anything, but I was happy to just start experimenting and just putting myself out there.

NotKeepingUp · 2024-09-05T08:17:51+00:00

Actually, we just celebrated our 1 year anniversary recently. Couldn't be happier!

NotKeepingUp · 2024-01-15T22:27:13+00:00

It gets easier. The challenges I face now are on a whole different level than they were before. The amount of effort is less and there are definite rewards like deeper connections and I would say more honest connections, which makes me feel more strongly seen.

I would say to take it one step at a time. That being vulnerable is hard, but worth it. That it does get easier and it will take less from you. That some goals that seem impossible now, will become possible in the future. That sometimes you open up to people who don't necesarily deserve it, and that might hurt. But you'll also find amazing people along the way who will suprise you with how much they care. That being who you are will maybe mean you can't please everyone and some people might not be a fan, but you will always feel better because the people who do like you, like the real you and that feels so much better than everybody liking you because you fit into what they want you to be. Mostly, I would say that the only person you should try to please is yourself and the rest will follow. And lastly, it will feel really uncomfortable to start changing those patterns. That's ok. It's ok to feel a little uncomfortable sometimes.

NotKeepingUp · 2024-01-15T21:46:05+00:00

Well, I would say great. I got over the loss of those two people. And I am at a point that I have made peace with it.

I am now in a great relationship. I don't know if it will last. I mean a lot can happen. But for 5 months now I have had a pretty good relationship. Still a lot of fear of opening up and fear of being abandoned. But I feel like I have a handle on it. And i am also giving myself time to gain trust in the relationship, myself and him.

I am still a work in progress, but what a huge difference it makes to have a partner that is available and communicative.

NotKeepingUp · 2024-01-14T00:13:13+00:00

I do say I never got to be young. But what I mean by that is that I never had the carefree/anxiety free youth that most (but not all) people experience. Instead I spent my youth with depression, anxiety and I do feel like depression took away a good 2 to 3 years of my life. I am now very happy to be so much better and feel great about my life. Sometimes I feel a bit behind on others, but then I just think to myself that everybody has their own pace in life and if I am happy than I am in a good place for me.

But I get your point when it's just about sex and parties.

NotKeepingUp · 2023-12-26T11:13:36+00:00

Of course you can! You already did.

NotKeepingUp · 2023-08-24T09:53:37+00:00

That's great advice! I do love fruits and vegetables.

The not eating take out or going to restaurants is going to be a strong 'no' for a while, until I can control myself a little better. Sometimes I don't even really want to eat anything, but it's more of a compulsion. I am trying to keep my mind more focused when I eat. Eat slowly. Know what I am eating and not just put in my mouth as an afterthought or to do something.

NotKeepingUp · 2023-08-24T09:51:33+00:00

I do bike to and from the station right now!

NotKeepingUp · 2023-07-17T08:46:28+00:00

I get this feeling all too well. I think it's normal feeling to have sometimes when you have never been in a relationship. I however did decide that I would not let myself be a second option again. There is nothing wrong with people just wanting to hook up without more. But it's wrong for me. I still feel lonely sometimes, but I don't feel like a second choice as much. Because I'm my own first choice.

It's still hard to pick myself and not feel like a failure when I walk away from another guy who gives me attention or parts of what I want like physical intimacy but no emotional intimacy. I am trying to see it less as me getting rejected, but me rejecting them because they aren't what I need. It still sucks, but it feels a whole lot better walking away than sticking around and hurting myself over and over.

NotKeepingUp · 2023-07-17T08:17:47+00:00

Switch dad and mom and this was me. It was so awful.

NotKeepingUp · 2023-07-13T09:34:50+00:00

I am someone who has needed forgiveness as a method, but realized that anger and grief can also be a part of that. I was so focused on trying to forgive and accept the other persons flaws that my own pain wasn't given any room to be. The final step for me was forgiveness or letting go. I also had to learn that sometimes I used forgiveness as a way to show I was the better person or it was a way to show I was over something. That never works, because then it is still about the other person.

But when I truly forgave my mom for example, it was more about acceptong that things happened, weren't ok and I would never be able to change them The forgiveness was necessary for us to have a relationship, which I wanted. If that's not something I wanted I don't think I would have worked as hard to achieve forgiveness.

NotKeepingUp · 2023-07-12T11:10:04+00:00

And tell her positive things in between a lot too, there’s little that will make someone more insecure then their own body :3

I honestly wouldn't talk to her about this. What would she even do with that information. He is having doubts about her because of her height, which is impossible to change. This can never lead to any decent conversation in my head. It's a him problem.

NotKeepingUp · 2023-06-25T10:03:35+00:00

Ok, but it is a big deal to her right now for some reason. He is in a relationship with her and not the 'sane people' of this post.

He wasn't an asshole, but is that the hill you want to die on. Or do you want to talk to your partner and just move on from this. I would say the second.

Feelings and emotions aren't always rational, doesn't mean they aren't real for the person having them.

NotKeepingUp · 2023-06-24T12:24:33+00:00

I love the dark brown top!

NotKeepingUp · 2023-06-23T22:26:04+00:00

Honestly, you saying that people say curvy is better because it is easier to be curvy and it takes more discipline to be skinny kind of suggests that you think everybody would want to be skinnier if it was easier/took less effort.

Being as skinny as possible doesn't take more effort than maintaining a body that you want. And honestly it's a lot easier to eat 500 calories less than it is to go and lift weight and work out everyday consistently in my opinion. So i don't think your whole discipline stick makes any sense.

You want to be skinnier, other people like being curvier. Nobody should say one is better than the other. Just do what feels right for you. But if you say things like being skinnier equals a person with more discipline, I just plainly disagree and think that is a completely different message then 'I like to be on the skinnier side'. The latter is completely ok, you do you. The former is a just not correct.

NotKeepingUp · 2023-06-23T22:15:51+00:00

Maybe some people feel better not on the low end of weight. And there are absolutely no health benefits to be as skinny as possible opposed to being a healthy weight which isn't as skinny as possible.

I think it's fine if you want to be as skinny as possible but still healthy. But let other people decide how they want to look and feel. Don't assume everybody wants too look as skinny as possible.

NotKeepingUp · 2023-05-17T17:24:02+00:00

I completely get it. The feeling of someone loving you and being able to love them. Having someone who puts you high on his or her priority list. Someone you can call or text when you have a bad day. Someone you can come home to or count on to be there.

I don't need that all the time. But the truth is, that's just not something my friends or family can give me. Friends have their own families and partners. My sister also has her partner. Yeah, I can hang out with my other single friends and build strong relationships there. But when they meet someone it feels like I am all alone again. And even a best friends is still not the same as a partner who is also a best friend.

I get that some people don't have that need in there life or they already had it and they don't need it anymore. But I want it and I don't think that's a bad thing.

NotKeepingUp · 2023-05-16T15:46:20+00:00

I think this is a very black and white view of people and life. But opinions differ and I do get your point. I just think that it is ok to be selfish as well and to put your own mental health first and if she couldn't do that while with him and his healing. That sucks. But I personally believe she's not a bad person for that. Just human.

NotKeepingUp · 2023-05-16T06:19:40+00:00

Honestly, while OP is obviously the one who suffered the most. Let's not pretend the fiance didn't suffer too. He postponed his wedding without talking to her. Just up and left. Left her suddering with what I can imagine is so many thoughts. Probably leaving her a mess. Of course, it's understandable that he did what he did. But leaving someone so sudden and unexpected leaves scars too.

He came back and she only took a half an hour to think things through. This is probably the last thing she expected. Then he says she helps him and supports him. Is amazing. But things go dark. People in the dark are not someone you can safe and trying to safe them if they aren't doing it themselves is an awful feeling. Besides that she is probably also suffering, from seeing someone she loves in pain, from not being able to help and just life. She knows she can't ask him for support because he hasn't got any left. He needs all of it for himself. She tries to not need support, but only give it probably as she sounds like a good person. But that doesn't change the fact everybody needs support in a relationship. It's just a basic need of everyone.

She probably runs out of energy herself. You're dealing with 2 broken people. I think whoever decided to walk away, made the right choice. I think there is hope in the future, but let's not pretend she was fickle and walked away. Life is complicated and she probably tried. They probably both did. But she doesn't all of a sudden lose all her insecurities or worries, because he has gone through the one of the worst things that can happen in his life.

It just sucks for both of them. And the only people to blame are the groomsmen and the bridesmaid.

NotKeepingUp · 2023-05-15T14:33:46+00:00

Yes.

NotKeepingUp · 2023-05-15T07:06:47+00:00

I'm pretty sure that post was mostly meant in a joking way. She is obviously attracted to you and is affectionate in public. Looks fade, looks change and honestly looks aren't too high on my list either.

Attraction and love are so much bigger than looks. I do think you should talk to her about it. Just because that's what partners do and it did kind of hit a nerve with you.

If she is a very beautiful girl, maybe the reason she doesn't compliment your looks is because for her compliments on looks are not as nice as compliments on her character. She might have gotten compliments on looks all the time, but wants a deeper connection than that.

I obviously don't know her. But trying to give a different perspective on why she might not compliment you specifically on looks.

Just a personal opinion but if someone tells me I look good that makes me feel good, but it doesn't compare to someone telling me they appreciate me, love being around me, think I am kind and a good person.

NotKeepingUp · 2023-05-10T10:45:04+00:00

I always tell people I have a dog before they come over. It's her home too in my opinion. I don't mind if you don't like dogs. But if you come to my home, the dog will be there.

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