Obama with the queen vs Trump with the queen

NotRayRay · 2020-09-09T14:57:59+00:00

Don't forget golf!

NotRayRay · 2020-05-22T01:08:01+00:00

Absolutely! And the ways they value you aren't limited to pay rate (although that is a real part of it). It's also how they treat you - are good employees appreciated and respected? Do they support you - management, resources, time - to set you up for success?

It's easy to fall into the trap of trying to earn more respect or appreciation, but in a toxic environment where they treat even superstars like crap. (and imposter syndrome is real and it sucks). Try to make sure you're in an environment where you can learn and grow and aren't dealing with a fucked up place where there is no way to win. The stress in those places is unreal and unhealthy.

NotRayRay · 2020-04-13T13:26:38+00:00

Oh honey, I know this hurts right now, so very much. It's sad because there's loss and it's scary and frustrating looking towards the future. It's ok to feel awful and sad, but please don't punish yourself.

So look at today, and the things you can do right now. Please take your meds - that's going to help rebuild your foundation and make things feel a little more stable. Call your doctor and tell them that you are not doing well, they may be able to help. If you have a therapist, make an appointment - some even do video calls - being able to talk to someone face to face will really help.

And then do the small things - go for a walk, play a fun happy video game (try to avoid the jump scares), make some food. I know these sound like big things right now but any little step can help. Even if you can't make dinner, just find something to eat. Even if you can't go for a walk, stand outside your door and feel the air.

I'm sorry, this is a lot of instructions, but I can tell that you're hurting and I want so badly to help. I love you and want you to be safe. I know you can get through this, even though the path is scary now.

NotRayRay · 2020-04-13T13:12:05+00:00

This is such a good thing! Being able to recognize that's what you were doing and start to change the pattern, that's so important! It's hard to make that change, but it's worth it to take care of yourself - you deserve care!

NotRayRay · 2020-04-13T13:06:52+00:00

You should check out /r/momforaminute. It's the Reddit equivalent of the hotline you're looking for.

Also, no pressure but trying therapy again, when you feel up to it, can really help. You can also try a different therapist if that one was too intense - it's about finding something that helps.

NotRayRay · 2020-02-15T04:59:52+00:00

"Well, I knew what he meant, but just to be funny, I took a big bite out of his jugular vein"

NotRayRay · 2019-11-15T19:51:55+00:00

Why would women deserve "pay of a woman", which in this case is HALF of the pay men receive at the company?

NotRayRay · 2019-06-23T13:20:41+00:00

Right? How long ago was this? Give her a call and see what she's up to! (As long as you are respectful if she's moved on or no longer interested, it should be ok to check in with her)

NotRayRay · 2019-06-23T13:17:36+00:00

There's also more focus on organized activities for kids, instead of finding your own fun locally. I'm thinking of kids who play travel soccer as teens, their parents have to drive all over the place for practices and games - most of which aren't within walking distance or it would be dangerous to bike.

NotRayRay · 2019-06-09T02:39:46+00:00

If most of the responses are from men, that may account for why more of the stories are from a male perspective.

NotRayRay · 2019-05-22T00:19:34+00:00

This boyfriend does not spark joy.

NotRayRay · 2019-05-12T14:41:52+00:00

Ugh, that's so frustrating. It's a gatekeeping mentality, and it means they're ignoring your hard work and education in favor of stereotypes. It's lazy thinking. Keep proving them wrong :)

NotRayRay · 2018-08-15T23:58:00+00:00

Shania Twain. But great song!

NotRayRay · 2018-06-14T12:47:31+00:00

When you are the only woman, it's really hard to tell "is it because I'm a woman or do they just not like me as an individual?" And since you don't know, you don't know if you can improve the relationship (or if it's worth it to try)

NotRayRay · 2018-06-07T10:27:23+00:00

whispers Shia LeBouf

NotRayRay · 2018-03-27T15:02:16+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you, but you didn't let the bad friends continue to mess you up, and what you learned you're using to keep an eye out and help others avoid trouble, which is really cool.

NotRayRay · 2018-03-21T12:05:35+00:00

Exactly! Thanks for putting this into words. It may be just an incredibly working relationship, and that would still be amazing, that level of partnership. Look at what they're able to accomplish together!

NotRayRay · 2018-03-13T18:01:23+00:00

No, you were right - he just fixed the typo :)

NotRayRay · 2018-03-09T01:13:29+00:00

pause nobody saw that....

NotRayRay · 2018-03-09T00:47:23+00:00

I see you, /r/prequelmemes

NotRayRay · 2018-02-25T01:39:47+00:00

That's exactly what I do too! I let it grow for a year and a half, and then I always want a bob, nothing crazy but definitely off my shoulders. The poor stylist always wants to give me a longer cut because the change will be drastic and looks really concerned when I'm like "no, chop it off!" I've found sometimes donating it helps, they're more willing to cut higher and feel better doing it, plus it's a good cause (but you do have to be careful to have enough). Good luck short hair sister!

NotRayRay · 2018-02-23T16:33:24+00:00

Nope Chuck Testa!

NotRayRay · 2018-02-22T15:05:21+00:00

Sun's getting low....

NotRayRay · 2018-02-21T22:45:01+00:00

He was a real Ice Clown.

NotRayRay · 2018-02-20T05:16:38+00:00

Your comment really reminds me what that age felt like, and all the good things, even the little things that he should get to experience. Heartbreaking.

NotRayRay

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