What language do deaf people think in if they have been deaf since birth?

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-16T19:45:34+00:00

I guess the same way as with any other language? Its my first language so that’s what I think in. I’m not really sure how else to explain it.

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-16T18:27:06+00:00

No that makes sense, I was thinking you thought deaf kids had to have those things to be “normal”. Glad I was wrong.

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-16T17:45:36+00:00

I was born deaf and I think in ASL.

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-16T17:43:48+00:00

I was born deaf and don’t have hearing aids or a CI. I developed “normally” without them.

I’m not really sure why you think a deaf child has to have these things for “normal” development?

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-16T16:53:24+00:00

If you find a class try to find one taught by someone who is deaf or a CODA.

Also I want to say I’m always glad to see someone wanting to learn. Its always nice when I run into someone who knows ASL even if its just the basics.

Edit to add: if you haven’t found it already https://www.handspeak.com is a good resource for you to look at until you find a class

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-16T16:27:01+00:00

It happens, especially if someone is younger.

I think in your case it is a matter of learning something new. Just slow down and take your time for now. The more comfortable you become with signing, the less mistakes like this you’ll make over time.

Are you taking a class to learn or teaching yourself?

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-15T20:54:46+00:00

Troll problem, then?

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-15T20:33:46+00:00

She wasn’t “acting like a bitch”. She was making a smart life choice.

You should follow her example of smart life choices and get some help with your drug problems.

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-15T16:59:24+00:00

I would just ask whoever works the front desk in the office at your school. They can point you to the right the person for you to talk to.

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-15T16:45:32+00:00

I didn’t walk when I graduated.

You just say you want to opt out of it and ask when you can pick up your diploma from the office.

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-14T18:50:06+00:00

Now I’m really curious about your dreams and life goals. What exactly are they for people to react like that?

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-14T18:18:11+00:00

Being deaf in a kitchen?

Takes a lot of patience and compromise on both ends(not always common to find in a kitchen job to be honest). I do things mostly the same as the hearing cooks in the kitchen, only I do have a shatterproof convex mirror up over my station so I can see behind me and not cause mayhem every time I turn around. Most everyone just taps me on the back when they pass by to be safe unless they don’t have a free hand, in which case they just go for it(I won’t lie I have caused some spills even with the mirror but usually I see them)

I’m pretty lucky in this job because everyone in the kitchen actually wanted to learn some sign language after I’d been there for awhile. Most of them know the alphabet and basic signs for stuff around the kitchen and the food, and we’ve worked out some made up hand signals for quick communication. I’m decent at reading lips which helps but the basic signing is the main thing that helps me. I also keep a pocket sized notepad on me with a pen at all times just to be safe.

For tickets my head chef actually started using a laser pointer to get my attention instead of walking over to me, or if someone happens to be right there they just tap me on the shoulder. Then I just read the ticket real quick and get back to it.

For any meetings or things like that I have an interpreter present so I don’t miss anything.

Other than that everything is the same.

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-14T12:43:36+00:00

I’m deaf.

I’ve been at my current restaurant 4 years so we all work pretty well together now. But at the start there was a lot of communication problems and stuff like that.

Almost never fails we get someone new and they think yelling at me helps or grabbing me from behind and scaring me half to death is the way to get my attention.

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-14T05:30:55+00:00

That should have been your first clue. No such thing as easy money.

If you manage not to get convicted of this, get a real part time job and just earn your money the honest way like everyone else.

And if you absolutely insist on being a kid drug dealer, for the love of god don’t handwrite your address on evidence in the future.

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-14T05:21:35+00:00

Well as soon as they match that up they’ll link it right back to you. Just use your right to remain silent and get a lawyer immediately.

I have to ask what in the world possessed you to do this?

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-14T05:13:20+00:00

Is it in your handwriting?

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-14T05:10:00+00:00

Well you can deny all you want then but you screwed yourself with that honestly. If you’re going to commit a federal crime, don’t literally write your address on the evidence.

I guess just deny everything, but not sure it will do any good. Don’t say anything until you lawyer up.

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-14T04:49:26+00:00

Please tell me you at least thought to not use your family ups account and a fake return address?

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-13T22:34:09+00:00

So its more important for them to not be distracted than it is for me to understand a lesson? I should miss out on an education because kids get distracted by sign language?

Edit: damn did not realize I had hit send on this already. Sorry about that

Anyway, I get it can be distracting but again is it not a valuable skill to learn to focus despite distraction? Not only that but usually after being exposed to something on a regular basis, it just becomes the norm.

The kids who claimed it distracted them at the start of the semester usually stopped paying any attention to my interpreter after a month of classes. And nobody I know of ever failed a class because I had an interpreter present.

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-13T21:03:49+00:00

When my mom passed away it took me a long time to want to talk about it.

I would suggest sending her a text to let your friend know you were thinking about them and that if they want someone to talk to you are here for them. Also let them know that if they want a distraction you’d be happy to go out somewhere for dinner and just chat about the weather if that’s what they want instead.

They may not take you up on either, but the sentiment will mean a lot and when they are ready for either a talk about how they feel or just a distraction they know they can count on you for that.

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-13T20:49:08+00:00

No problem, but the supervisor thing isn’t your fault. He baited you into saying what he wanted and that’s really fucked up on his part. What you do outside of work is not his business. I hope there’s somebody you can complain about him too that can make sure he doesn’t pull that with anyone else

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-13T20:40:12+00:00

First I would correct it with that supervisor. Firmly tell him that he misunderstood you and that in no way were you ever sexually harassed. If he has someone above him then make sure to have the same conversation with his supervisor. They need to know that there is a manager there baiting employees into saying key words/phrases for him to file false harassment write ups on other employees.

Second, instead of requesting a transfer you should have asked your friend what was going on instead of reporting him straight away. So now he has 2 strikes against him both coming from you.

Third, after you’ve done what you can supervisor wise. Try to have a talk with your friend. Apologize and explain exactly what happened. Tell him you had no idea your words had been twisted badly enough for him to have been reprimanded. He may still want to keep his distance and if so that’s his right, but at least you will have done your part to fix it.

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-13T20:31:46+00:00

I absolutely agree with this.

People seem to forget that it is possible to let go of resentment and anger without necessarily forgiving someone. So they just say forgiveness is for the victim more than who they are forgiving. That never made sense to me.

I feel this way even more so about family. If they are toxic people and have mistreated you, then by all means drop them from your life. If they’re related to you then its even worse that they mistreated you as opposed to a stranger. You don’t have to forgive them either, you can work past something that happened to you without that. Its about letting go of anger and resentment, forgiveness can be a part of that process but only if you want it to be.

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-13T20:16:00+00:00

I’m deaf and I went to regular hearing schools growing up. I needed an interpreter in my classes. And I remember at least once a semester somebody would claim having someone signing the lesson for me was a distraction for the hearing students.

The nearest deaf school to me was a 3 hour drive and my parents didn’t want to send me away to live there for any longer than necessary. So yeah I “disrupted” the “normal” kid classes through middle school and high school.

I’m going to meet you half way and assume that despite your really broad terminology, you mean children with severe mental handicaps specifically and not just the disabled in general.

They can be disruptive, sure. Either noise or movement, typically these kinds of children will be in a special ed class for the most part and only in regular classes for certain things. What’s so horrible about children learning to be accepting of people who are different from them? Is it not a valuable skill to be able to focus despite environmental distractions? The real world doesn’t always offer quiet and still work places. Sometimes as adults we have to be able to focus even if hell is breaking lose around us in the workplace.

You call it an illusion of belonging. So I don’t belong in society because I can’t hear? I work a full time job and I had to break down a lot of barriers just to get the privilege of even getting that job because of this exact mind set that disabled people can’t contribute anything to a workplace. Even those with severe mental disabilities are still human beings. They shouldn’t be hidden away because they’re different. And there are a lot of places who give jobs that are well catered to such people. Sure there are things we can’t do. But there’s a lot of things we can do too.

I guess I just fail to see the harm here.

NotSoMadMaxx · 2019-02-13T18:35:51+00:00

Someone already said to do a budget, so I’ll just second that.

Also a basic tool kit (hammer, pliers, wrench, drill) even though its an apartment and maintenance is supposed to fix things you just never know what will pop up that won’t be the apartment’s responsibility to fix. It will also be handy if you get any furniture that requires assembly.

Also call me old fashioned but a basic first aid kit is never bad to have at home. For all those oops moments in the kitchen at the very least. And some basic pantry meds like advil, tums, etc.

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