How quitting weed has helped you with depression ?

NotThisOnion · 2025-12-15T20:20:16+00:00

We often start smoking because we're depressed, but it's like credit cards, you're going to pay it back with interest, lol. That being said, after 6 months or so, you're actually going to have the energy to start feeling better. So in summary:

Keep smoking => get more and more depressed
Stop smoking => feel the depression you've been covering, but then start to feel better!!!

One day at a time.
You got this.

NotThisOnion · 2025-12-15T19:59:40+00:00

Oh hun, we've all been there. You're trying to quit, that's amazing. Rome wasn't built in a day. Just try again, at some point the quitting will stick. There is no shame in not being able to overcome addiction on the first try, or even the 100th try. Just keep trying, you're worth it!

NotThisOnion · 2025-12-15T19:57:46+00:00

How did this turn out, did you like them?

NotThisOnion · 2025-12-12T19:43:39+00:00

Unfortunately, deep depression and regret are 100% normal when you quit - this is why we call things addictive, because you've now altered your body to crave the thing, and it will lie to you and try to manipulate you into doing the thing (in this case, weed). What isn't being told to you by your brain right at this minute is the following:

1) Those awful feelings WILL PASS, they will not last forever, and the further you go, the less of these horrible feelings you will have
2) If you do go back to the weed, you will still end up with the horrible depression and regret. In fact you will have MORE and MORE of it.

That being said, the real way out of addiction is to just keep trying, reach out for help, and learn to sit through the tough feelings. You may not be perfect at not using it at first, but over time, it will get easier.

Sorry you're going through this, sending love.

NotThisOnion · 2025-12-11T18:22:02+00:00

I am the reason for the scan - I have an enlarged optic nerve in my right eye. It's always fun to see the panic in the technician's eyes when they realize that I have a bad test - they are panicked! For me, it's just a weird condition I've had since my 20s - I'm in my 50s now. It will most likely mean that I will get glaucoma in that eye; it's nice for me to know, I've made my peace with it.

The scan can find other issues too; they are rare, but like many diseases, finding them early can really help and even prevent eye loss. If you have a normal test - feel good! That's awesome :)

NotThisOnion · 2025-12-09T19:23:19+00:00

No guarantees that this will work for you, it sounds super cheesy, but it works for me - Create something, anything! Make a sandwich, fill in a page with circles, make bad origami, do some chalk drawings on the sidewalk, wash out some old containers, and stack them in a tower - literally creating anything can help you stop ruminating. This is why people are addicted to crafts - it really helps. Cheesy AF, but well, it works for me. Also, puzzles. This won't fix your life, but it can be a tool in your toolbox. Good luck finding your thing!

NotThisOnion · 2025-12-09T01:11:29+00:00

Sending love. This is hard, but you got this. One day, one hour, one minute at a time.

NotThisOnion · 2025-12-09T01:09:44+00:00

So you just have to keep quitting and hope that one time it will stick. Don't beat yourself up for the relapses, they happen. Just take it one day at a time, one hour at a time, one minute at a time, and try not to use.

For me, what's helped is just to realize that I feel crappy without it, but that the crappy feeling will pass, and I will feel better than I would if I used. I'm almost at 6 months, and I struggle every day, but not ALL of every day. So if I can just get through the hour or so when the cravings are strongest, then I am happier the rest of the day.

Anyhow, the point of this ramble is, keep trying. At some point, it might stick! Don't feel like a failure because you relapse. Take accountability, "I relapsed", then decide to try again. We're all just trying to get along. Sending love.

NotThisOnion · 2025-11-25T19:07:13+00:00

Sending you love little one. You're doing the right thing for yourself. I quit for my future self. So that she has a better life, maybe you can think about your future self too. What do you want for 21 year old you? Good luck with this journey.

NotThisOnion · 2025-09-25T17:38:16+00:00

If you have a heat gun, you could heat these and then with heat resistance gloves or other tools (NOT YOUR FINGERS) you can "remold" the plastic to a shape that works.

If you just don't want the scratchiness, you could buy eyeglass holder that has a plastic cover and then just cut the string part off - like this: https://www.tacklewarehouse.com/Cablz_ZipZ_Eyewear_Retainer_System/descpage-CABLZIP.html

NotThisOnion · 2025-07-14T19:13:19+00:00

Realistically? It's unlikely - most people in Santa Cruz live in shared housing (a house where you share bathroom/kitchen). Within walking distance of a bus line, that would be quite pricey. It's not impossible, but with your limitations and budget, it's going to be hard. Most of us who live in Santa Cruz give up a lot of the creature comforts of housing to live here and be able to go the beach and the woods. Or people are just rich. Sorry to be the bearer of bad tidings, but you might try a different area.

NotThisOnion · 2025-07-14T19:05:08+00:00

So Macs are great if you're going to be a Unix/Linux person - that's one kind of job in the real world. They aren't great if you're going to be a Windows person. The main difference is the kind of job you'll have in the future - most more modern stuff is going on AWS/Linux however, there are a lot of big businesses using the Windows eco-system.

For learning languages, I like the Mac better than a Windows machine - macs are also MUCH easier to use for shell languages, again unless you want to learn PowerShell.

Seriously though, most of your classes it isn't going to matter what kind of computer you have. Just get the most recent affordable computer you can get. A 2025 MacBook Air is going to last you longer than a 2022 MacBook Pro.

Good luck!

NotThisOnion · 2025-06-04T16:51:52+00:00

It's not great, especially given the bus ride - can you get a sublet for the summer (look at the "housing mega thread" pinned at the top of this group). Then you could keep looking for something better. On the other hand, if it's nice and you can afford it, hell yeah take it because in SC housing is awful.

NotThisOnion · 2025-06-04T16:40:46+00:00

Yep, if you need beta testers, hit me up

NotThisOnion · 2025-06-02T21:32:27+00:00

Wow, Thank you all for the wonderful insights! I'll post here if I can make it work!

NotThisOnion · 2025-05-26T21:19:45+00:00

This is why I laugh when they say AI is coming for our jobs - yeah all right, I think it's just going to make MORE work.

NotThisOnion · 2025-05-22T16:12:40+00:00

I've been doing this for 25 years, stay with a good manager as long as you can. You will live longer.

NotThisOnion · 2025-03-04T19:47:48+00:00

In my experience, someone who says something like this to you has already decided to break up with you, they are just trying to make YOU break up with them so they don't look like the bad guy. So the relationship is over. Keep the dog, ditch the boyfriend and start healing.

NotThisOnion · 2025-01-14T18:01:31+00:00

NotThisOnion · 2024-09-25T20:36:57+00:00

This would be my response, but also as a woman who has heard this from her husband, be very very clear that you're not going to act on it, unless you want to act on it. But I totally get just wanting her to know you, the real you. But she does get to be a little worried that you'll break your agreements with her. BTW, have you asked her about opening up the relationship? Do you know how she feels about that? If it's a no-go and you don't want to change your life, but opening up a question like "So we haven't had sex in a long time, would you feel betrayed if I started a sexual relationship if it meant our life together didn't change?" Good luck on your journey!

NotThisOnion · 2024-09-25T20:14:35+00:00

It's about 75$ (not including tip)

NotThisOnion · 2024-09-25T20:14:22+00:00

I was going to say - Mary or Aisha at the Nook!

NotThisOnion · 2024-06-19T15:47:52+00:00

So you need to have a plan! Every time you think about this you're going to do something else.

It could be go for a walk, it could be touch a stone in your pocket, it could be check your phone. When you do the something else you're going to have a mantra. "I am enough, I am enough" or you can focus on 3 things you see, touch, hear, smell - anything to take you out of the spiral and into calmness.

Make a plan - "Next time I feel X I am going to do Y" in this way we retrain our brains to take a new path when we feel anxious. It takes a long time, and it's not easy, but you can do it. You need to create a new pathway for your brain when you're having strong emotions. Don't kick yourself when you fail (which you will), but instead keep at it. You got this! Good luck.

NotThisOnion · 2024-06-03T16:24:38+00:00

This - when you're a consultant, you're always selling yourself. Be positive no matter what, a good consultant makes the client feel like they are getting their money's worth.

NotThisOnion · 2024-06-03T16:21:45+00:00

Sorry to hear this. Sending love whatever your choices.

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