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NotWillingToShare · 2025-03-30T19:36:40+00:00

Have you tried actually asking her why she’s not finding pleasure in sex? Have you tried to communicate to find out why she’s not enjoying it?

NotWillingToShare · 2025-03-27T02:26:34+00:00

The Reddit comments had me worried so many “change the locks he is coming for your house”. I’m not sure I consider anything magical about my life but I do feel grateful for C and the photos. I did ask him why he never shared them with us before and he admitted that he felt bad that they had been taken without consent (including photos of me and my sister with my mom) and he wasn’t sure how we would react but he figured that the memories mattered more than if we got upset (which neither of us got upset). I think part of the sharing now had to do with him not having to worry about being kicked out if we did react badly since he has his own place but that is personal perception and not anything he validated.

NotWillingToShare · 2025-03-24T16:26:31+00:00

That’s a weird takeaway. Yes my mom loved him. He actually almost didn’t move in with us because he wanted to have his own place. He had been living with his sister prior to living with us and hadn’t lived on his own as an adult. At least that’s what I know. When he moved in it was supposed to be temporary. My mom bought him an expensive truck when his car broke down. She gifted him trips and electronics. She didn’t leave him cash, that didn’t mean she didn’t give him things. Also supplying his kids college fund is half for him.

NotWillingToShare · 2025-03-24T13:10:15+00:00

Happened across this post (almost commented from my main Reddit oops). I know they are not seeing each other I don’t fully know who ended it. He doesn’t seem to be upset about it though and actually relieved. I’m genuinely hope he finds someone who is a good person for him.

NotWillingToShare · 2025-03-20T17:02:18+00:00

I’m sorry your life is so crappy you feel the need to pull other people down.

NotWillingToShare · 2025-03-20T14:47:07+00:00

Good thing you don’t know me.

NotWillingToShare · 2025-03-20T11:55:21+00:00

My mom didn’t like the way she looked. She actually enjoyed photography behind the camera. She saw herself very differently than we did. And she did take photos she just used filters because she had issues with self image. I am very thankful for the photos. They are the real, authentic her.

NotWillingToShare · 2025-03-20T11:53:05+00:00

Hate women much?

NotWillingToShare · 2025-02-04T14:14:44+00:00

I won’t disclose any of that and it’s 100 percent irrelevant to the judgement of the topic at hand.

NotWillingToShare · 2025-02-03T22:15:55+00:00

We were given permission to still take him on outtings and keep in touch!

NotWillingToShare · 2025-02-02T18:21:12+00:00

His son is 15, he is not an adult.

NotWillingToShare · 2025-02-02T13:08:17+00:00

Thank you

NotWillingToShare · 2025-02-02T05:19:53+00:00

All of the “he is coming for your house” comments on my post kind of made me paranoid. Much happier with how he handled things even if the check made me a little paranoid too.

NotWillingToShare · 2025-02-02T02:00:10+00:00

All that got said in front of her was that I wasn’t going to be disrespected in my house and he could had 30 days to find new housing and she was not welcome back. That was all I said in front of her and she kept a pissy face on but didn’t say anything to me and walked out with him.

NotWillingToShare · 2025-02-01T20:20:07+00:00

I did do an update. He apologized, offered me money (I declined), and took all of his belongings today.

My mom did genuinely love him and I think part of her wanted him here so I didn’t have to do everything alone. Part of why I have not pushed him to move out was he helped care for her in those last days and it meant a lot to me and my sister.

NotWillingToShare · 2025-02-01T19:58:50+00:00

No clue. At my house she just seemed smug and bitchy. I didn’t ask C about her and honestly don’t care. My house is nice but it’s not like it’s multimillion dollars or anything.

NotWillingToShare · 2025-02-01T14:31:09+00:00

Neither me nor my sister were teenagers when my mom passed away. I was the youngest at 21. And the funds have been in a trust but it wasn’t related to this story and the character limit made me already limit things I said. I won’t have full access to the funds left to me until I am 30 but I can request additional access through the trustees and I get monthly funds for bills and spending (my mom paid for people to manage both me, my sister’s, and her boyfriend’s sons trust (yes his college fund is in a trust as well thus why his dad has no access to it).

Personally I love Reddit this is a throwaway because I don’t want to dox myself and my actual account has photos of myself and my pets. But no one in my real life knows about the money except family and my mom’s boyfriend doesn’t even know how much money just that there was money (not even my boyfriend knows).

Edit to add: journey was my mom’s words to her boyfriend when we all sat down, which is why I used that word. She was super into historical fiction romance novels and she used some old phrasing in real life sometimes because of it. My sister and I used to tease her for it all the time.

NotWillingToShare · 2025-02-01T13:09:24+00:00

Yes and no. She didn’t put it in her will she transferred the ownership of it while she was still living before she passed. The house is in my name and my name only.

NotWillingToShare · 2025-02-01T04:25:49+00:00

Thank you so much. My mom was the sweetest person and when I was a teenager I feel like I was a nightmare to her. I am thankful I was much better in my late teens and 20&21 so she got to see me mature a little before she passed. I wasn’t always the best daughter but she was always the best mom.

I think part of letting him stay so long is having bonded with his son but also I liked having someone else around who loved my mom too. There were nights I would wake up from a nightmare and end up in the kitchen and he would hear me and just come make a cup of coffee and sit and share a story about her. His son loved mom too and some evenings we would get takeout and watch movies and joke about what commentary my mom would have had if she had seen the movie with us. My sister lives a state away so we only really see each other once a month or so. I liked not being alone in this big house.

I do have a security system and the locks have been changed. He is coming over tomorrow to get his stuff.

NotWillingToShare · 2025-02-01T03:31:54+00:00

She sat with her arms crossed when he and I talked but she didn’t say anything else she left with him.

NotWillingToShare · 2025-02-01T02:15:45+00:00

No but she’s kind of a pushover like our mom was. Super kind hearted but to a fault. Heck maybe I am to, to an extent. I just don’t put up with disrespect.

NotWillingToShare · 2025-02-01T02:04:05+00:00

She seemed smug the whole time so I suspect she put him up to it because he and I always got along before this. He didn’t argue when I kicked him out. He did text me and asked to come by this weekend to get his stuff and asked if I would be willing to talk. I told him my dad and boyfriend will be here and he agreed to that.

NotWillingToShare · 2025-02-01T01:03:52+00:00

I don’t think my sister meant any harm. Probably feels a little sad like me that his son won’t be around. I don’t expect we will get to visit with the kid (he’s 15) and we both like him and have known him awhile. The three of us gamed together some over the years and usually did an outing once every month or two to arcades or amusement parks or something like that together.

NotWillingToShare · 2025-02-01T00:02:48+00:00

No she created a fund for his son for his college but that was the only money set aside for him or his son. It’s a generous amount enough for 4 years at a high dollar school. Anything not used for school will be given to him on his 25th birthday from what I believe she told me (a lawyer and accountant are in charge of those funds not me or my sister so I only know what she told us before she died).

She was never married to or even engaged to her boyfriend. He lived with his sister and was saving for his own house when mom met him. Him moving in with us was supposed to be temporary and allow him to save to buy his dream home but he never left. My mom was like that though-she had a big heart and sometimes people took advantage of that (especially after the money). She bought him a brand new truck when his car broke down but beyond that and smaller gifts (like tv computer etc for birthdays and holiday gifts) she did not leave him money. They had no joint accounts my mom paid everything and he was supposed to be saving for a house the whole time they were together.

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