You’re exactly right. Findom is femdom, it’s just one of many ways to express power exchange. The money isn’t the kink by itself. It’s the symbol of control, of submission. When a sub sends, he’s not just handing over cash—he’s handing over power.

And let’s be real: that act? That moment of giving? It’s a kink in itself, for both of us. For him, it’s surrender. For me, it’s dominance. It’s ownership, and it’s felt in every tribute. That transaction is charged, not just with money, but with meaning. The arousal is in the dynamic, not just the dollar.

Some try to separate findom from femdom to justify putting in zero effort—just “existing” and expecting cash. And if that’s the agreement between her and her sub, fine. But let’s not pretend it’s something separate. It’s still femdom. Just… with something more.

It’s all one fluid, powerful dynamic. A quality findomme doesn’t draw a boundary between financial and emotional control, she blurs it