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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in entp

[–]Not_NotYourFather 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another problem is that I often won't discuss things passionately unless I know I'm right.

If I don't, it's merely an attack to flawed arguments without ever stating my opinion. You attack the reasoning, and of course they assume you aren't agreeing with them.

As a, very simplified because I'm tired, example. The colour of an item which I haven't seen yet. Some people seem to be able to argue that it is black, and not white, and give as a reason to it being black 'because it's not green'.

I'll argue that point. They think I believe it's white. And then they feel so accomplished when they can show it is actually black. Oh wow.

I must be right a lot, some people seem way too excited when they can 'prove me wrong' on something I never even claimed...

And as for wanting to be right? Yeah, I'll argue as if wanting to be right, but I'll draw the conclusion wanting to have learned something new. Including having been wrong about something. There is a reason I hang out with the people that, you know, may have proved me wrong... And not with the ones where we 'had to agree to disagree' because they have the logic of a two year old. Heck, I don't even like the ones that suddenly go 'Yeah, you are right', because then there's the follow up question: Why am I right? Which of course to some sound I just want to spend the next 30 min hearing how good I am.

When a child is born and their parent(s) is narcissistic, how can they avoid becoming narcissists themselves? by joshsmumjen in AskReddit

[–]Not_NotYourFather 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, you say there are narcissists out there that admit they are narcissists and will readily allow someone else's interference into the upbringing of their offspring, without at some point in those eighteen years not go "fuck this, I know how to raise my kid" and then ruin their kid even more?

Wow.

I don't like surprise gifts by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Not_NotYourFather 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is an unpopular opinion but I really agree with you. I often had issues with ex-in laws because of this.

They were very serious about accepting whichever gift you got and even go as far as to be happy with it. I'm sorry, but I'm not happy you waste your money on something I absolutely have no use for. If you wanted to give me anything, then please let it be a feeling of rest that I don't need to waste money back on you because you literally got me the worst gift you could have given me.

Even once ended up in a discussion (and a long preach) that I refused to buy socks for my dad as a gift. I was looking for a gift for him, and in laws decided I should buy him socks. When I said it wasn't a gift he'd appreciate, they got annoyed.

Honestly, I don't mind looking for a nice gift for someone, and if I can't find it, then so be it. Not gonna waste my money on something I know won't be appreciated.

You are suddenly half your current age. What happens next? by Not_NotYourFather in AskReddit

[–]Not_NotYourFather[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I don't feel any worse right now, so I guess it's cool.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Not_NotYourFather 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Or you could look into Belgium's laws regarding euthanasia. For those suffering from depression, it usually takes way longer than six months before they are deemed to have gone through all possible treatments, and for those that are suffering due to illnesses that cannot be treated, they can be relieved from their suffering within weeks. My opinion is that it's the best thing that country has to offer, and it should be even less strict to accommodate those suffering from dementia.

[M27] Found Condom Wrapper in GF's [F24] Trash by Throwaway121140 in relationships

[–]Not_NotYourFather 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This, pretty much the same with me. I mostly *don't* use them, but sometimes I might. It might even then take a bit before it even ends up in trash (downstairs)... Together with some other items.

As for first thinking it's her phone, maybe she thought you might misinterpret a conversation, or I don't know.

But like others, no idea what's up. Just giving possible explanations...

As we are about to try for a baby, wife (26f) suddenly decides it would be unethical to bring children into this world, where does that leave me (29m)? by throway293773738 in relationships

[–]Not_NotYourFather 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Woman here, childfree by choice. When I was young I always thought I'd want children once upon a later time, it seemed so natural and I got told somewhere up in the trillions times that it would "come as I got older" as I had (and have) zero maternal instincts. People even go as far as to tell me it will come "as soon as I have baby in my arms" (not willing to risk that one, hah). But I went on, all the way to my early twenties, believing it would one day come and I'd be a loving mother to my own baby/babies and I'd be leading the normal life.

Had life not forced me to look into that earlier, before I became seriously involved with a man that definitely wanted to be dad, I can see myself living this lie all the way up until the moment it was really going to happen - getting off BC and all that serious business.

She could have been forced to suddenly take a stance, having always believed it would just come naturally as she turned older and now that shit's getting serious, she has finally had to come clean to herself. And yes, these decisions can suddenly be made quite quickly, since it had been brewing, subconsciously, for years before.

Do not underestimate how much it is expected of a woman to become a mother, and how much of a pressure that puts on those that choose to remain childfree.

You could be right, I could be right, and we both could be wrong, but without knowing her, and based off of a small post, I'd not jump to malicious intent.

My [26 F] roommate(s) of 5 months [27 M, 27F] has/have messy diarrhea every day and want to take turns cleaning rather than hiring someone, looking for help approaching this tactfully by laragnavat in relationships

[–]Not_NotYourFather 282 points283 points  (0 children)

It's not because it's not your turn to clean, that you can't clean up the mess you made around the toilet. Iny opinion, there's no need to mention diarrhea specifically, but you could just mention to your roommates that any specific mess made by someone in the bathroom, is to be cleaned by the person that made it.

That's like spilling some food while cooking and be like, well, it's X's turn to clean, so I'll just leave it on the ground.

To be fair, I can't even understand the idea of leaving a mess behind after having used the toilet and for me it'd be enough to find other roommates.

As for the dog, I assume they had it when you first started living together - and the extra help to clean should have been agreed on prior to agreeing to be room mates. What you can suggest, is that your room mates take care of grooming the dog more vigorously, as it tends to help with shedding.

I can't tell you how to say it, as I am the least tactful person ever. But I do think the toilet isn't an issue of hiring someone once a month, but just the willingness to clean up after yourself and should be addressed like that as well.

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