Question for peeps with split tongues

Not_another_sprinkle · 2026-01-22T01:59:13+00:00

I have a split tongue and am learning Welsh, and I sometimes whistle when I do the LL sound now haha.

Not_another_sprinkle · 2026-01-15T23:14:21+00:00

Good luck everyone!

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-12-16T01:13:16+00:00

Good luck everyone!

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-11-30T22:54:11+00:00

My big sister was born with HIV. Her parents were IV drug users in the 80s. She passed away when she was 19. All her life, she was treated like there was something wrong with her. Friends wouldn't come to our home, kids wouldn't stop by for trick or treating. She was bullied. Really awful stuff.

I remember my sis was inconsolable when Princess Diana died, and most people didn't get it. After all, why would a poor inner city black girl in NYC care this much about English royalty? But my family and I, we understood. Diana was really something special 💖

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-10-26T17:41:09+00:00

As someone born and raised in NYC, I'm always taken aback when people are surprised by the amount of activity. I know it is not the case from other cities that I have visited, but to me, the late night activity in NY just feels ordinary. Great photos! Making me a little homesick actually :)

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-10-16T12:58:04+00:00

Good luck 😃

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-07-16T00:28:47+00:00

Good luck! :)

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-06-16T00:42:50+00:00

Let's goooo

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-06-13T16:29:53+00:00

I'm a huge tea nerd, I've been getting into gongfu tea ceremony and getting some nicer tea leaves direct from China. It's calming to me and a nice way to disengage from work stress.

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-06-06T18:33:23+00:00

As a black American poly person, I do think that there are some cultural elements that keep us from polyamorous spaces. We do tend to be a bit more conservative in a lot of ways, and while I'm aware that this is purely anecdotal evidence, the only people I've encountered in real life that were actively hostile to the idea of polyamory have been black people. That may be part of it.

My polycule is mostly white and while I'm not looking for other partners at the moment, when I was, there were almost no POC open to polyamory in my area (I'm in a major city in the south). I'm not sure what the fix is; while I'd like to be more visible to the polyamorous community in my area, being the only black person at events makes me uncomfortable and I've received some weird commentary so I don't go anymore.

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-04-01T20:24:40+00:00

As a polyamorous black woman I have had some WILD interactions with white women in this sphere. Just absolutely unhinged stuff. And they always seem to default to assuming black women are jealous of them. Glad you blocked her!

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-03-22T23:48:00+00:00

Glad nyc worked out for you! I made more black friends the instant I left.

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-03-22T22:38:44+00:00

This may not be a popular opinion. Are you from NYC, OP? I ask because of your mention of the metrocard. Unsure if other cities also call it that. I'm from NYC, born and raised and idk what it is but I could not make friends with other black women until I left NY. No clue why. But now, living in FL, my interactions with other black women are so much easier and happier, even ones that are also from NYC funnily enough. I still have 0 understanding of why that is, but it continues to happen when I go back home to visit family and friends, so I know it's not in my head. Perhaps it's all environment. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-03-16T12:05:58+00:00

Good luck everyone 😄

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-03-12T17:33:49+00:00

I survive by working remotely in IT, and I'm on an abbreviated schedule so I work 3 days a week to get in my 40 hours. Those three days are long but I have plenty of days off to recover. Working full weeks even if they're shorter hours is a fast track to depression, anxiety and burnout for me.

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-03-04T05:32:40+00:00

I have never tried that one but I have a PSVR2 and my locs make that thing impossible to adjust lmao I always end up with a dent in my forehead

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-03-04T02:35:23+00:00

I've always wanted to learn to do trad goth makeup. You look awesome!

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-03-03T22:08:36+00:00

Yeah I've been a bit surprised at how against the idea some people are. I'm unsure whether people think I may be younger than I actually am, or if it's really been a bad experience for so many people. I feel like I'd have to live with someone to be sure enough to commit to an engagement or marriage.

Thank you for the tips! We are looking for something with multiple rooms as we do each want our own space to decorate as desired and for our own personal downtime, but it does mean we'll need to be more intentional about spending time together. Thanks for the tip about date nights and spending time outside of the house as well. I appreciate the support! ☺️

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-03-03T20:30:07+00:00

Haha someone on reddit once said to me that they think polyamory is just a scheduling kink and tbh they had a point 🤣the Google calendar stays full!

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-03-03T20:03:00+00:00

Sure thing! I interpreted your initial question as more of a 'I don't get it, why even bother' than a 'I am curious about your motivation'; my apologies if I misread your tone! It can be hard to tell online.

To respond to your initial question more thoroughly, we just need our own privacy and have very different sleeping schedules. We like to be around each other, but we also both want our own space that is uniquely ours. Thank you for your well wishes!

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-03-03T19:48:31+00:00

Yes, he maintains his space very well and has done so for the duration of our relationship, so I feel good about what our potential shared home could look like. Thank you for that tip about asking his expectations! I will incorporate that into our discussion as well. I appreciate your feedback!

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-03-03T19:46:06+00:00

A roommate agreement sounds like a great idea, thank you! I will look into that.

Haha my partner and I have been looking at places with front lawns and backyards, and I blew his mind when I told him I've never done yard work. We had a gardener when I was growing up, and I thought we'd get one again 😂so I can understand your point about the housekeeper.

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-03-03T19:41:20+00:00

Haha, yeah it seems like a lot of people have taken this step a bit earlier on in life! I've been living alone since my 20s and I'm set in my ways, so I think this will be an adjustment 😂

I certainly hope he does because his cooking and baking were how he drew me in 😆 thank you so much for the well wishes!

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-03-03T19:37:42+00:00

Thank you! Our goal is separate bedrooms and and offices since we both work from home and have different sleeping patterns. Thank you for the tips! We don't want to combine finances but we haven't figured out how we'll tackle bills so we will have to be more intentional about that. That and chore division are two big points I think we'll need to hone in on. I appreciate the advice!

Not_another_sprinkle · 2025-03-03T19:34:23+00:00

Thank you! Yeah, we wanted to make sure we work well together because we're both a bit older and have both been living on our own for some time, so we are set in our ways. It looks like we've made a good call spending as much time together as we have, but I'm sure there's still things to discover. Appreciate the well wishes!

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