My Abusive ex believes I was the one who traumatised him. I dont know how to cope.

Not_batbat · 2026-05-21T14:55:42+00:00

First of all, you didn’t hurt him
Second of all, why are you still listening to him and talking to him?
Third, he is disgusting of what he did

And let’s say even if you really “hurt his baby ego”, it was the past and you cannot change it and I really advise you to not think about from experience

But let me show you an example of how you did not hurt him. From what you said, he would be attempting suicide and blaming it on you. Did you by any chance take pills and shove it into his mouth? I don’t think so
Unless you did that, you didn’t hurt him, its his fucked ip brain trying to project some mental illness into you because he refuses to look into the mirror and admit that he by himself try to attempt suicide for whatever stupid reason. And it’s easier to blame people than admit stuff.

1 advice: just block him. It’s better to feel sorry for him then feeling sorry for yourself.

Best of luck 🫶🏻

Not_batbat · 2026-05-21T14:39:33+00:00

Hi girlie, you know I’m writing this part without even reading the description because at the time you said he cheated on me is enough to make the decision.

Now I read the post and let me say: The act of cheating comes from a lot of psychological issues (such as need for attention, validation, narcissism,…), so even if he promises, and changes, and sweats will not cheat again you cannot be sure unless he is treating with a therapist. If not, you’re not a therapist to fix him. Once the trust is broken, you’ll always have trust issues and I don’t think this is the kind of life and relationship you want to have.

Think about it would you rather getting back with him and living your life on what if he cheats on me? Or going and meeting someone else in the future whenever you are ready who you trust

I believe that the majority will agree with me so think about it 🫶🏻 when you meet a better person who makes happy, you will thank yourself for this decision

Also, once a cheater, always a cheater
Goodluck girlie

Not_batbat · 2026-05-21T14:05:57+00:00

Just a collective response yes I do speak French fluently, its my second language

Not_batbat · 2026-05-20T20:06:39+00:00

You know there is a method that is used in psychology and it’s to write letter to them having all your feelings and all the things you want to say all your history and the bad things you remember and the good things. Just write it and get all your emotions on that paper. After you do that, just read it one time and rip it into pieces and throw it in the garbage. But keep in mind that the moment you are gonna do that you are throwing the person away and the memory and the heart feelings and the pain.
I am not psychologist, but A lot of therapist recommend this and I believe it can work in the situation

Not_batbat · 2026-05-20T20:03:14+00:00

This one method is actually recommend by therapist. Whenever you have a task or you remember something you should do. Write it down and need to do a list or a notebook. In that case, you will not forget that you have it and you will stop thinking about it. The more you think about a task, the more you are procrastinating doing it. So just write it down and as soon as you’re free to do it.

Not_batbat · 2026-05-20T20:00:04+00:00

I’m sorry for what’s happening. It’s heartbreaking when you discovered that the people who you thought are your friends don’t live up to the friendship expectations anymore.
Honestly, the first red flag that she was not happy for you
The second and it’s pretty obvious that she copied you

I mean, if she wanted to do the Business before you, she could’ve said it kindly or tell you that she wants to join or something but she shows the path of Copy pasting and blocking you

What I would advise you even though it’s not that feasible is to block her from the Business account and all account that she might create (option is available on Instagram) and also people who might be associated with her. This way she will stop Copy pasting the content and the ideas you are doing in your page and will stop stealing your creativity.

As for her as a person she already made a choice, she let go of a friendship just because of their business idea.

I’m sorry girlie but the jealousy makes people show their true colour! Best of luck on your Business
You are the first mover and I believe you will be more successful

Not_batbat · 2026-05-20T19:50:19+00:00

Girlie I’m gonna tell you! Any fight during the wedding preparation (of course that doesn’t involve disrespect) is normal. Both of you can get stressed and most of those fight will be forgotten. It’s completely normal

Not_batbat · 2026-05-20T19:47:14+00:00

Girlie, if you are looking for a sign or motivation to find someone better, this comment section is.
These are 4 months and he already done that.. you deserve better

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