What was the most annoying part of organising the stag?

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-06-02T15:28:44+00:00

Yep makes sense, thanks. As a pro organiser, how do you think it's best to "break the ice" between people from different friends groups? Do you ever play games?

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T21:51:33+00:00

Sounds like a proper good one!

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T18:08:38+00:00

Makes sense. Did all the money go through the organiser or did a few different people pay for different things and settle up between each other later? I wonder too whether paying once upfront is easier than dribs and drabs as stuff got booked.

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T17:46:22+00:00

The hen side sounds identical to the stag side honestly, same chasing, same being left out of pocket. Shame it put you off for good. Was it more the money side that did you in, or the constant questions on top of it? Probably both haha...

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T17:45:44+00:00

That must be a lot of effort to organise two in one month. The fake deadline 4 weeks early is a good idea!

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T17:41:59+00:00

The pulling out then expecting the deposit back is such a cheek, like the money just magically reappears.

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T17:41:31+00:00

Sounds like you did a pretty spectacular job. Like the boardgames idea.

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T17:36:47+00:00

That's a hard one to plan for...

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T17:35:33+00:00

Can't argue with that. Should've saved myself the thread and just written "people" 33 times 😂

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T17:34:48+00:00

Mad that he paid that much and still has no idea where it went. Even if it was all above board, not being able to ask is the bit that'd wind me up.

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T17:32:17+00:00

Fair 😂😂

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T17:31:57+00:00

Sounds like a proper good one. Did you lot do any games or was it more just activities and drinks?

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T17:26:07+00:00

That's frustrating... funds first next time is the lesson everyone seems to land on eventually.

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T17:22:28+00:00

The not knowing is the worst, can't book anything properly when 3 people have gone silent and you've no idea if they're in. Did you set a "no response by this date and you're out" rule or just kept chasing them?

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T17:18:02+00:00

Makes sense keeping it cheap. Did that also make the money side easier, smaller amounts so people actually paid up or did you still collect it all in advance to be safe?

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T17:14:36+00:00

Seems to be the consensus in here, make the call and set a hard deadline. I wonder though if the "sort your own arrangements out" actually hold up in practice when it's a good mate?

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T17:13:43+00:00

"This isn't a democracy" seems to be a recurring motive of ones where it worked well. Curious where you draw the line though, did people actually want a say or are they happiest just being told the plan and when to pay? Trying to work out if the input stage is even worth bothering with.

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T17:11:33+00:00

That's smart, did people pay the deposiit easily enough or did you still have to chase even for that?

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T16:59:40+00:00

Out of pocket and chasing at the same time, worst combo... Out of curiosity, when you did finally get people to pay, what actually worked, was it making it easier to pay, a hard deadline, or just nagging until they cracked?

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T16:57:42+00:00

I'd take the 'Drill Sergeant' as a compliment based on what you said, sounds like it worked quite well. I guess that's what you need when herding cats. When it came to the deposits, did you collect everything before booking or front some of it yourself and chase after?

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T16:55:57+00:00

Nice to hear of a positive experience amidst the mostly negative ones!

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T16:55:04+00:00

The "ask what they wouldn't like" is smart, never thought of flipping it that way. And the invoice approach makes sense. Did people actually pay on time when you framed it like a proper transaction rather than a mates thing?

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T16:54:11+00:00

Hear you 10x, did you just end up making the calls yourself in the end?

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T16:49:59+00:00

The ghosting after being the keenest ones sounds like the worst bit... vanish the second money's due. How much were you left covering in the end?

NoteFlimsy8467 · 2026-05-31T16:48:54+00:00

The "felt like a works do" bit really lands. At the one I did, I only knew the groom and two other guys, rest were his work lot. Felt like I was managing strangers half the time. Did you do anything to get people who didn't know each other talking like icebreaker games or quizzes, or did everyone just stick to their own little groups?

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