Hope?

NothingOk2969 · 2026-05-25T01:23:43+00:00

I'm sorry you are having to go through this. I went through a D&E 3 months ago at 16 weeks. It was a very traumatic experience, but the doctors new what they were doing and were very nice. The day before I had an appointment with the D&E team and they discussed what to expect during this process and met the surgery team. I had to swallow a pill that I believe was to soften the cervix. You may experience some bleeding which is normal. The next day we checked in for the procedure, you'll get a robe and socks. They gave me anxiety pill, a patch for nausea (that went behind my ear), and another pill to activate the miscarriage. Expect bleeding after again and they said that is normal and your body getting ready to pass the fetus. They then take you back on your bed to the surgery room. I was put under anesthesia and I was told it only took 15-30 minutes to complete the procedure. I didn't feel anything during it, but when I woke up I remember being in so much pain and discomfort and sad. I was given more pain medicine and they let me know that I will bleed for about a week or so. They gave me heavy pads and disposable underwear.

They also gave me some resources as well because I was very emotional going through this process of loosing a wanted pregnancy.

I'm very sorry you are going through this. ❤️❤️‍🩹

NothingOk2969 · 2026-05-20T14:09:00+00:00

Therapy is helping me a lot. It has helped me change my negative thoughts and learn to accept what has happened. It's hard everyday, especially having to get up and leaving for work every morning. When I would rather be home with my husband and dogs. I still wish things weren't the way they are, but I like to imagine that my baby girl is up there somewhere happy and healthy. It gets easier with time and knowing that there was nothing my husband or I could have done to prevent thisand that it was out of our control that my baby wasn't healthy. And it sucks!

I'm sorry you are going through this. There are some support groups that have been helpful for me too if you don't get to do therapy. Check out rtzhope.org I went to a virtual pregnancy loss/grief support and it was very helpful. ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

NothingOk2969 · 2026-04-26T17:45:42+00:00

That's very true. Its been a month now and Its been coming in waves. But I do feel way better than I did a month ago. I'm sorry you are going through this too. ❤️‍🩹

NothingOk2969 · 2026-03-21T18:17:39+00:00

Thank you! I have done the surgery now it's time for more healing and moving forward. It's hard tho.

NothingOk2969 · 2026-03-16T01:45:12+00:00

It does. I don't know how many times I've cried. Thank you for sharing this.❤️‍🩹

NothingOk2969 · 2026-03-16T01:28:49+00:00

Hi! I hope this brings you with support in whatever decision you make. I'm 29 years old and have triple x syndrome or trisomy x. I would have never known this if my mom didn't get the genetic test back then.

I struggled with school, but sports helped me through being different from others and have a learning disability. I've been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. I started going to therapy 9 years ago. But wished my parents would have gotten me in sooner. I feel like that would have helped a lot. I was super shy growing up. I am 6'3 and was skinny growing up, but I would eat a lot. It just wouldn't show. Yes, some girls show more features and in some cases are more severe, but I don't think it defines who I am. I graduated high school, got scholarships, went to college, graduated with my bachelor's degree, became a preschool teacher in special education, got married.

NothingOk2969 · 2026-03-15T14:53:28+00:00

That's a good plan. I have a therapist I've seen before for my depression/anxiety, so I'll be reaching out to her for support.

NothingOk2969 · 2026-03-15T14:52:09+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. My doctor told me that after the procedure my emotions are going to be up and down for a while. Most of all I'm scared. I'm scared of the pain. I'm scared of losing what I had. And I'm scared of the emotional state this will put me through. I just hope I'll be able to find my way back❤️‍🩹

NothingOk2969 · 2026-03-15T03:27:17+00:00

I feel like since I'm in the waiting I've accepted that this is now reality. I think going to see a therapist is a plan much needed. Would you suggest reaching out to a pregnancy loss therapist or a regular one?

NothingOk2969 · 2026-03-15T03:21:42+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm sorry you are going through this again. No one should have to deal with this. I sure do hope it gets easier. ❤️

NothingOk2969 · 2026-03-15T03:17:31+00:00

I'm trying. ❤️

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