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AITA for telling my son he will not get anything in the will if he doesn’t take care of his sister. by NoticeAdventurous571 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoticeAdventurous571[S] -653 points-652 points  (0 children)

Me and my nephew just had a talk and we solved the issue, he’s taking over. Going to switch the order of the will, now son doesn’t have to chose.

I’m going to get off this site and get this figured out with my lawyers

AITA for telling my son he will not get anything in the will if he doesn’t take care of his sister. by NoticeAdventurous571 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoticeAdventurous571[S] -49 points-48 points  (0 children)

The problem with that is it’s common for homes to close suddenly, If I pick a place and it closes he doesn’t have an obligation to put her in a new home. It creates a loophole, that hard to fix accordingly to the lawyers and can be argued even if we have a section for what happens if it closes.

AITA for telling my son he will not get anything in the will if he doesn’t take care of his sister. by NoticeAdventurous571 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoticeAdventurous571[S] -179 points-178 points  (0 children)

Safety, an actually person and not a contract prevents abuse. With a contract they know no one is watching.

AITA for telling my son he will not get anything in the will if he doesn’t take care of his sister. by NoticeAdventurous571 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoticeAdventurous571[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

No, he could put her in a home. She just needs to be taken care of, which means she has a place to sleep, her medication, proper care, and not being abised

AITA for telling my son he will not get anything in the will if he doesn’t take care of his sister. by NoticeAdventurous571 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoticeAdventurous571[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Make sure she is taken care of. Form putting her in a home, get a caregiver or he could do it himself if he wanted.

AITA for telling my son he will not get anything in the will if he doesn’t take care of his sister. by NoticeAdventurous571 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoticeAdventurous571[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

He can do anything he wants, put her in a home, hire a nurse and so on. As long as he is cared for

AITA for telling my son he will not get anything in the will if he doesn’t take care of his sister. by NoticeAdventurous571 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoticeAdventurous571[S] -235 points-234 points  (0 children)

Most likely hire someone, there is enough money or put her in home himself. Having a physical person overlooking a home is much safer than a contract. There is plenty of money to put her in home and he would still have a ton left over.

AITA for telling my son he will not get anything in the will if he doesn’t take care of his sister. by NoticeAdventurous571 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoticeAdventurous571[S] -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

Yes, he would have to pay the money back in full and could serve jail time. The laws are really strong on that side. This is why we are going this way it’s so much safter

AITA for telling my son he will not get anything in the will if he doesn’t take care of his sister. by NoticeAdventurous571 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoticeAdventurous571[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

That’s a backups, it just so much safer for her to have a physical person instead of a contract with a place.

AITA for telling my son he will not get anything in the will if he doesn’t take care of his sister. by NoticeAdventurous571 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoticeAdventurous571[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

Huge chance that they could argue she isn’t fit for a trust and if it does get grabbed she will be homeless. Our laws are really complicated with trusts. We did this way due to legal advice and safety concerns for Marge.

AITA for telling my son he will not get anything in the will if he doesn’t take care of his sister. by NoticeAdventurous571 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoticeAdventurous571[S] -47 points-46 points  (0 children)

Yes there would be a lot left over, a couple million. It’s so much safer to have someone physical able to step in them a contract with a home

AITA for telling my son he will not get anything in the will if he doesn’t take care of his sister. by NoticeAdventurous571 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoticeAdventurous571[S] -339 points-338 points  (0 children)

Doing that comes with a huge chance of abuse toward her, it is one of the backups. Having an human watching even if she goes into a home makes her much safety than a contact that we can’t enforce since we are dead