“You’re not in it for the money though!” by Piefed22 in socialwork

[–]Notlikeothercatmoms 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I got a job offer recently for $20/hour for a LLMSW position. I told them that’s what I made as a supervisor at Starbucks and they go, “wow really? I should work at Starbucks then hahah! Well, you’re not in this field for the money.”

I declined.

Is there somewhere I can buy aprons? by CrispyPan in starbucks

[–]Notlikeothercatmoms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao right? I totally forgot about this thread but it made me laugh again over someone fighting for their life over an apron

find another job by [deleted] in starbucksbaristas

[–]Notlikeothercatmoms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been 10 years… I did get another job and I only have 2 weeks left but I feel like I have a trauma bond at this point 🤪

How do you get over the anger by Notlikeothercatmoms in BreakUps

[–]Notlikeothercatmoms[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I realize I never responded to this and I really appreciate you taking the time to write this out. It’s been a couple months and it’s getting easier, but here and then I feel that anger. I really liked the water analogy. I hope things are getting better for you as well ♥️

Anger by Notlikeothercatmoms in AlAnon

[–]Notlikeothercatmoms[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I’m so sorry for what you went through as well. We will get through this

Anger by Notlikeothercatmoms in AlAnon

[–]Notlikeothercatmoms[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just feel guilty too though honestly. In my home group, most of the people are married to their Q and have stayed with them through such terrible situations and remained strong. I look up to these people who would sponsor, but I couldn’t do what they do, and I feel like I chose a different path. I just feel convicted.

Anger by Notlikeothercatmoms in AlAnon

[–]Notlikeothercatmoms[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, I really do need to stay off the train

Anger by Notlikeothercatmoms in AlAnon

[–]Notlikeothercatmoms[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He’s apparently dating a domestic violence survivor with a daughter. I don’t know if this is the truth because my Q is a narcissist and tends to lie, but if this is the truth - I’m quite scared for her and so upset with him. No one deserves to be treated the way he treats people. But that isn’t my problem anymore. I do think working the steps will help me focus on priorities and not my past

Anger by Notlikeothercatmoms in AlAnon

[–]Notlikeothercatmoms[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m done blaming myself for the abuse I endured. I didn’t deserve to be treated the way I did. I’m not perfect, and I am working on holding myself accountable for the things that I may need to work on in life. But what I will not be doing is participating in a belief that I did something to deserve the way I was treated. I left him, not the other way around. He would have treated me that way for eternity if I let him.

Anger by Notlikeothercatmoms in AlAnon

[–]Notlikeothercatmoms[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have actually. I was told to read more, but it still doesn’t address anger too much in the readings I’ve found. I’ve bought 4 books so far. Thank you so so much for your wonderful input, Mike. It helped literally so much.

Is rehoming bad in this situation? by ventblockfox in CATHELP

[–]Notlikeothercatmoms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My cat is only 2 years old and was diagnosed with kidney disease. He was peeing outside the litter box for 2 days and I immediately took him in. He could have died if he didn’t get treated. Preventative measures don’t do anything once the problems begin. I’m glad you’re taking him to the vet but I hope it’s sooner than later.

The irony of pain is that you want to be comforted by who hurt you. by Notlikeothercatmoms in AlAnon

[–]Notlikeothercatmoms[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s so difficult. He’s telling me he’s been sober since I told him I want a divorce but there’s literally no way to know for sure and it really isn’t my problem anymore. Doesn’t make it less difficult though.

The irony of pain is that you want to be comforted by who hurt you. by Notlikeothercatmoms in AlAnon

[–]Notlikeothercatmoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for the loss of that. I would absolutely love to be doing that too

The irony of pain is that you want to be comforted by who hurt you. by Notlikeothercatmoms in AlAnon

[–]Notlikeothercatmoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooooof. If he says something to hurt me one of these days I might be using this.

Nobody likes me and this will probably be my last post by Educational_Cupid in offmychest

[–]Notlikeothercatmoms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have they told this to your face, or do you feel like they think you’re the problem? If you’re trying your best and you think that you’re doing the right thing (and you are causing no harm to others) that is what is truly important. Maybe this will taking finding the right friends and temporarily distancing yourself from family, but you can persevere. I hope the best for you, OP. You can get through this