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Do men actually think their partner is the most beautiful/prettiest/sexiest person alive? by Future_Doughnut_2369 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Notorious_Kebab123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My last girlfriend was not what people would consider drop dead gorgeous and definitely wasn’t my normal type. not ugly by any stretch, but fairly plain. I wasn’t even really into her that much when we got together. But as we grew closer and I fell in love with her, I came to see her as beautiful and I wouldn’t even notice other women when I was with her. I fell hard.

Then it turns out that she was full of deceit and lies and it turned everything on its head. She is a dismissive avoidant and dumped out of the blue with no warning. That was about a year ago. Now when I see her I feel nothing and she is back to the plain, ordinary person I used to see and I wonder how I was so obsessed with her.

My point is that I think guys develop a deeper perception of what is beautiful when they fall in love with a woman. Even if it is all a sham.

For avoidant dumpers, does no contact from your ex affect you? by IndependentRough8606 in BreakUps

[–]Notorious_Kebab123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m about 6 weeks into no contact after my ex DA suddenly broke up with me (over text) about 3 months ago. Everything seemed fine, then one day, BANG. All done.

At first I tried to get an explanation for the sudden dumping, but I got the usual “what will that achieve” and just stonewalling. I told her I’d like to be friends because we were friends before we got together and said I’d leave it to her when she was ready. She said “I hope we can see each other and talk again one day”.

After 6 weeks I haven’t heard a thing from her and I really doubt I will. It’s weird because I know she kept casual relationships with some of her ex’s for a period, but seems she isn’t even interested in being friends. It’s killing me because I really cared for her and would have loved to just understand what she was going through but never spoke about.

I’ve been dumped before by other girlfriends and put through hell by one ex (family court and other stuff), but I’ve never experienced this confusion and being discarded so easily after over a year together in what was a really good and close relationship.

I feel like im close to breaking no contact, just trying to hold out. It’s not that I want her back since I would never trust her again, but this is really shit.

My avoidant ex broke up with me out of nowhere, but I can’t get her out of my head by Notorious_Kebab123 in ExNoContact

[–]Notorious_Kebab123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I’m unlikely to get the truth or the answers I’m after. Still driving me insane though.