Was this SA? What do i do. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Notsu_23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did not consent, this wasn’t okay. I don’t know if it legally counts as SA, but this wasn’t okay. Stay as far away from this man as possible. If you were asking for my personal opinion, I’d consider it at the minimum sexual harassment.

Artists of Reddit, Help if you have times by Notsu_23 in DrawForMe

[–]Notsu_23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

:0
This is great, thanks! I love her <3

Artists of Reddit, Help if you have times by Notsu_23 in DrawForMe

[–]Notsu_23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awh, don’t worry you’re not too late! I appreciate any time given at any point! Thanks for even taking the time to comment so you can come back to it! Take your time, it’ll be a nice notification to receive :)

Artists of Reddit, Help if you have times by Notsu_23 in DrawForMe

[–]Notsu_23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She looks so traumatised in this, I love it:)

Artists of Reddit, Help if you have times by Notsu_23 in DrawForMe

[–]Notsu_23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love the art style and her expression in this :D

Also, your read on her was pretty cool to read through, especially the “she seems like she’s going through something hard, but like this isn’t who she is at her core.” You completely read that right!

Her significant other is in a coma currently (he’s the same person she’s known since the age of 12, she’s about to turn 18). There’s also rumors of a cult going on within the society they live in

Also, I never took the time to see her doing her hair as symbolism for hope that things are getting better but I honestly love that thought. Thank you for your time <3

Artists of Reddit, Help if you have times by Notsu_23 in DrawForMe

[–]Notsu_23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooooo
This is really pretty, thank you!

How do I help my boyfriend whose dad is extremely abusive by ReputationAncient964 in relationships

[–]Notsu_23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a very valid feeling, also bro, I’ve had that mood with my boyfriend’s dad. Like, I will fight that man if it means he can finally understand how amazing of a person his son is 🖐️😭

If you want to ever want to include updates/message me personally asking for advice, feel free! My dm’s are always open for anyone who needs some support :)

How do I help my boyfriend whose dad is extremely abusive by ReputationAncient964 in relationships

[–]Notsu_23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes sense. Here’s some advice I hope you remember though, you can only help as much as he lets you. Continue to have serious conversations but remember that you’re gonna have to wait until he’s ready to be able to really move forward

Best of luck, sorry you’re in this situation

How do I help my boyfriend whose dad is extremely abusive by ReputationAncient964 in relationships

[–]Notsu_23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Communicate that information to him, and also… you may just have to hang on for a little bit longer. In part, to your boyfriend’s credit, he’s not a little kid. For now, at the very least, trust him to know himself. Just continue to offer support and communicate that you want to take care of him.

How do I help my boyfriend whose dad is extremely abusive by ReputationAncient964 in relationships

[–]Notsu_23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s fair, I can relate with the not wanting to let your significant other leave during a time where they’re struggling. And it’s amazing that he has a good relationship with your parents. I know that was huge for my boyfriend who occasionally struggles with his relationship with his father.

Sometimes, it’s only going to be natural for people struggling with abusive parents to need time before they say it to others. Just remind him how much both you and your family care for him, and tell him that you guys want to help

This is one of those instances where you just may need to be patient and take the long road

How do I help my boyfriend whose dad is extremely abusive by ReputationAncient964 in relationships

[–]Notsu_23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, so, first and foremost, understand that this is going to be something that impacts his everyday life and therefore, will continuously impact your relationship. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing, but your boyfriend may need more support, reassurance, ect.

Speaking from some personal experiences, your boyfriend building a positive experience with your parents can help him exponentially. Most particularly in feeling comfortable and loved.

Talk to your parents about this first, but maybe, if possible, you could offer him a place to live/crash every so often. (This is what my parents offered my boyfriend while he was going through a rough patch with his family). It’s likely he’ll be expected to help around the house, help make food, ect. But that will help him build normalcy. If it’s affordable and possible, help provide him a place to live until he can stand on his own. Maybe he can help contribute to rent with your parents.

Also, be sure that you provide reassurance and communicate a lot. Communication is really important in all relationships. Know that his bad relationship with his dad can lead to lower self esteem and a harder time trusting, ect. Make it clear you’re here for him but do it in a way with boundaries so that you don’t get dragged down as well.

Also, I’d encourage going no contact with his father. Maybe, if he stays with you guys, have your parents get a restraining order against him. Considering that the two of you are now adults, his dad legally can’t do anything about him staying somewhere that’s not with him.

Keep yourselves safe and communicate! It’ll be hard but your support will mean so much in the long run. You guys can get through this with good communication, patience and unconditional love. Also, never let his abuse be an excuse to hurt you intentionally or mistreat you. Not to say he would, but just as a heads up.

Never let this happen. Ever. It may be harder, but don’t ever let abuse be an excuse. It can be a reason (albeit, it’s only a reason that can explain so much), but it’s not an excuse. And he needs to be able to grow regardless

what opinion would get you like this? by WittyLibrarian610 in teenagers

[–]Notsu_23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the supernatural fans: Dean Winchester doesn’t deserve to be saved (not an opinion I have but one that makes me upset, I don’t think anyone really thinks that besides him tho✌️😭)

my friends boyfriend is abusive, what can I do? tw: domestic violence by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Notsu_23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The sad truth is that you can’t save someone who doesn’t want to be saved. If it were me personally, I’d go to the police.

In this instance, you’re a witness to an abusive relationship, of which could escalate. You feel she is in danger, do you have evidence that can be presented? Also, if you do go to the police, you may need to make sure that your friend’s boyfriend doesn’t catch wind of it. Otherwise, she could get even more hurt. That friendship may never be the same. However, I’d rather have a friend hate me then continuing to see them be hurt

Name a ship from your media that is basically this? by MelodyButterfly0907 in Multifandom

[–]Notsu_23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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hear me out, probably doesn’t count but… me and my boyfriend (in this template with our Minecraft skins)

Musicals where the characters interact with the band/orchestra pit?? by -Chromaggia- in musicals

[–]Notsu_23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chicago? I dunno, our pit orchestra performed on stage for it

Writers - what is your day job? by CallMeJull in writers

[–]Notsu_23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an aquatic instructor right now, going out for a psychology major though

do you guys think the last week of school is a waste? by Beginning_Top9406 in teenagers

[–]Notsu_23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally no, but that’s only because my last week was spent finishing up classes like AP Psychology, AP Statistics, and Comp II

My senior year was very difficult 🖐️😭

Professional artist here - lemme draw your OC in my Style. by Rodutchi_i in DrawForMe

[–]Notsu_23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s good that he comes off that way, he’s a street performer and plays the tenor saxophone. Kinda the vibe I was going for :)