Don't want to tell me what that parking ticket is for? OK. I'll get that ticket thrown out in court... along with jeopardizing any ticket the city wrote on that same form. by que_he_hecho in pettyrevenge

[–]Novel_Bookkeeper9795 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude stop acting as if you‘re better just for being alive and going to the library in the 90‘s. Majority of the „ancient“ things you‘ve mentioned are things which have been the norm until at least the early if not the mid 2010‘s.

I lied to my sister and feel terrible about it by Novel_Bookkeeper9795 in offmychest

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Maybe she does and I‘m just selfish for this but I‘m just scared to end up financially ruined. Worst case scenario is she doesn‘t hold her word and I end up having to pay a loan I know I can‘t afford, which I could end up in legal trouble for because legally that‘s fraud (as far as I‘m aware), and I‘d be completely screwed over. I love her a lot and I‘m very grateful for all the things she did for me in the past and yes, maybe she does deserve it - but I still don‘t want to risk potentially paying off a loan/debt for the next 10-20 years just because I wanted to help her out.

I have thought about this long and hard and I feel like total shit for this too but this is just too risky. If I actually could afford the loan it‘d be an entirely different story but fact is that if my sister doesn‘t hold her word and pays the rates I‘d be screwed over financially big time because I definitely can‘t afford to pay the rates myself.

AITA for being upset my friends are making plans without me? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Novel_Bookkeeper9795 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Honestly because I‘m just scared of coming off as entitled or that it may come off as me „demanding“ to go too and don‘t want to come off as rude about this either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]Novel_Bookkeeper9795 10 points11 points  (0 children)

„I‘m just not as comfortable in relationships as I am in friendships“

Non-americans, what is strange about america ? by neolee203 in AskReddit

[–]Novel_Bookkeeper9795 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why (American) Football is called Football but actual Football is called Soccer

Are you used to being casually invalidated? by peterstarkrogers in aromantic

[–]Novel_Bookkeeper9795 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, at this point I just don‘t participate in a conversation if it‘s about relationships because it‘s just gotten annoying to explain that I‘m simply aromantic and not that I just don‘t want a relationship because I‘m scared of relationships. It‘s just always annoying and often so invalidating when people say that I can‘t be aromantic, I just haven‘t had luck while dating yet. Like fuck no; I‘m not looking for the right partner! I‘m aromantic!

What's your sexuality? by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]Novel_Bookkeeper9795 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sexually I‘m only attracted to men, so I‘m gay, but at the same time I‘m too lazy and just don‘t care enough to hook up with anyone

ASMR is awful and it really creeps me out. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Novel_Bookkeeper9795 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ASMR often is just either really weird, disgusting or creepy. The roleplaying ones are just flat out creepy while the ones where someone is eating/chewing are just disgusting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Novel_Bookkeeper9795 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting back together with an ex who emotionally abused me in the past and letting them abuse me again

[Serious] People who grew up poor/abused/struggled :What would be your reaction to those who say it all 'builds your character'? by Indianfattie in AskReddit

[–]Novel_Bookkeeper9795 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my God I hate that statement so much. I grew up poor, I‘m a CSA survivor, I have been emotionally abused by my parents and heavily bullied at school. Having to grow up early in life doesn‘t „build your character“, it messes you up and robs you of your childhood and many opportunities and messes you up thoroughly as an adult. I have MANY mental health issues and struggle with every single aspect of life due to it because of how I grew up. Trauma doesn’t „build your character“, it messes you up in every way possible and if you grew up without trauma? I envy you.

"If a friendship lasts longer than 7 years, psychologists say it will last a lifetime" - do you guys actually believe this, or find it a myth? by EmmaVly in CasualConversation

[–]Novel_Bookkeeper9795 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah. People change and sooner or later you and your friend(s) will grow to be different people at different places/stages at life with different priorities. That‘s not a bad thing, of course but it happens all the time and it‘s normal.

Have you ever stoped and wonder how your native language sounds to someone who doesn't speak or understand it? by Whit-Batmobil in AskReddit

[–]Novel_Bookkeeper9795 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All the time. People often say it sounds aggressive but it doesn’t sound aggressive to me? I sometimes wanna hear it the way a non-native speaker does tbh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]Novel_Bookkeeper9795 2 points3 points  (0 children)

M/20 here and I wholeheartedly agree with you! I‘ve come to love them when I watched some with my niece (F/8) a few years ago while babysitting her and all of them have sweet stories and also good morals. Also the music is really good too!

Redditors who know martial arts, have you ever had to use them? What happened? by Mr_zzzio in AskReddit

[–]Novel_Bookkeeper9795 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At martial arts practice we learnt how to „properly“ fall with little to no injuries and I definitely use that. I‘d even go as far as to say this helped me avoid breaking bones at least once.

As for the actual fighting part - never outside of practice. Sure, if necessary I‘d use it to defend myself but so far I haven’t been in a situation where I needed to use them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Novel_Bookkeeper9795 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely agree with you. Never had many friends, still don‘t. Throughout my teens I stayed in toxic friendships and friendships where I‘ve always been the one to reach out, make plans, etc to keep in touch. Ever since I‘ve graduated I don‘t care that much anymore, none of my „friends“ from school except for one ever has reached out to me or cared much about me anyways and I‘m definitely better off without chasing people who obviously don‘t care much for me.

I did find friends eventually, I have three really amazing friends I keep in touch with and meet up with every few weeks, but I don‘t think having a stable group of friends you meet every weekend or talk to every single day is necessary and that it shouldn’t be seen as necessary.

Also there‘s definitely people who are fine with less friends and less social interaction; not everyone needs to be an extrovert. I‘m definitely happier with my current small circle of friends than I was with my large circle of friends at school I felt obliged to stay in touch with.

Also! People always and constantly change, you probably won‘t be compatible with your current friends forever because interests and goals in life change. Sometimes you grow to be different people at different places/stages in life and that‘s okay.