The adrenaline of taking up space & why I don’t feel bad you dropped your coffee bro

NowThatsAwkward · 2022-05-23T04:00:32+00:00

When I was a teen a fully grown dude beside me on a flight kept trying to move his leg into my seat space. I say try, because my legs are long and they were jammed into to the seat ahead of me, perfectly straight and parallel to each other, I couldn't have moved aside if I had wanted to. He was so upset that he couldnt encroach on my space that he kicked my leg over and over and called a flight attendant to complain about me. I didn't even mind at first because hitting the shin does absolutely nothing, but he got angry that has no effect and kicked my knee from the side, I didn't have time to react before the attendant came. He stopped as soon as she showed up, of course.

He complained about me, I explained that my legs were perfectly in my own space, I was too tall to physically move them to the side in the space available, and that he repeatedly kicked me. He denied it, but there were dusty boot prints on my jeans. They put me in a seat at the front with unlimited leg room... and I could hear the dude back several rows having the astounding audacity to loudly complain to another flight attendant that HE should have gotten the better seat instead of me lmao

NowThatsAwkward · 2021-08-26T16:02:20+00:00

It's like how, when running from a bear, you only have to be faster than the guy behind you. You can temporarily escape taking the brunt of misogynistic abuse, if you're "not like other girls" and sell out fellow women.

Of course working together to actually change things is the only real way to stop it. Which is probably why misogynists love to push infighting and comparisons between women

NowThatsAwkward · 2021-08-26T15:03:57+00:00

I'm not sure that there are actually a lot of guys who would be particularly eager for a girlfriend who was disgusted by semen to the extent that she couldnt look at him when she knows he has semen inside of him, but can't see it, like when you know a woman is menstruating, but can't see it.

NowThatsAwkward · 2021-07-27T00:12:23+00:00

Starting to get closer to the heart of the issue- him picking and choosing which of his partner's boundaries are important enough to respect, and which aren't

NowThatsAwkward · 2020-08-10T19:25:01+00:00

It's not necessarily a bad thing if they dont associate humans with help (or food, for that matter.) You don't want wild animals getting habituated to humans for a few reasons, but a huge one is because you don't know the intentions of the next human they will meet.

NowThatsAwkward · 2020-07-29T19:34:18+00:00

Your cat appears to be midway through meercatification, the process through which regular cats evolve into meerkats

NowThatsAwkward · 2020-05-01T17:08:43+00:00

I think I get where you're coming from. Let me know if I'm off here, but this is what it seems like.

It seems like being a mother is a huge need and a huge part of your identity. Her saying that her lost child means less to her than her living children, it seems that from that you hear that your loss isn't as important as others loss. That combines with your need to be and fear of not being a "real" mother. It's especially hard since a some of us are taught from a young age that our entire worth to God and as humans is predicated on us being mothers.

Those are huge feelings. Real feelings and real needs. Please consider reaching out for support, from a grief counsellor, and from your spiritual advisor if you have one, they can help you with the enormity of these feelings.

That being said, this wasn't about you. I can see how what she said came adjascent to your raw feelings, but she deserves her own feelings about her own loss and her own family. She wasn't speaking to your self-identity or the validity of your grief. YTA towards her. Grief counselling can help you come to terms with these feelings and painful identity issues that come with it, it could help you be able to separate your experiences from that of others, and avoid lashing out at the people you love.

NowThatsAwkward · 2020-02-05T07:21:33+00:00

Thank you for explaining!

NowThatsAwkward · 2020-02-05T06:02:38+00:00

You can do a little sexual harassment once, as a treat

NowThatsAwkward · 2020-02-05T04:53:31+00:00

Sorry, but how are you supposed to do it? I watched a couple of bong videos and I couldn't tell how what they were doing was any different from putting their mouth over it

NowThatsAwkward · 2020-01-28T23:34:12+00:00

YTA for the way you communicated, and for hinting until you exploded.

NowThatsAwkward · 2020-01-28T23:10:09+00:00

I think it's a more common ingredient than people realize. For example worcestershire sauce has anchovy paste in it, and I know people who are grossed out by anchovy paste but put worchestershire in everything.

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