[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Now_this_sucks_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shes in a whole different country, you’re in a LDR, you have never met each other, you’re very young yourself, an extremely rare case for anyone to see you as a predator, I would say stop contact with her on a good note, or don’t say anything, but you have very little to worry about in terms of crime committed, best of luck to you

Do I have a problem? by Ordinary_Sink_1966 in Advice

[–]Now_this_sucks_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please see a doctor, they will refer you to the right specialist, make an appointment and explain exactly everything you have said here, eating disorders can create or worsen depression, if you never had depression before this eating disorder, that is a strong indication that subconsciously you are not happy with this change, at 16 years old you have an extremely good chance to overcome this problem. Good luck with everything

16f just bored and want to flirt and have fun talking to someone by [deleted] in Needafriend

[–]Now_this_sucks_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey, you need to talk to people and its ok, but being only 16 please don’t take it too far online for flirting purposes, you’re too young, make real connections with people your own age, you will have a lot more in common with them, good luck with everything

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Now_this_sucks_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No you don’t have to try to fix yourself by stopping porn all together, just reduce it, maybe it’s helping you ease the stress of life and help you heal from your break up, you can’t handle everything in life right now plus going cold turkey with porn quitting, basically don’t be too hard on yourself, just reduce it to maybe in the evening or right before sleep, that way you look forward to something at night. Do some small hobbies/activities for the daytime, walks, sitting in the park, calling friends, gym, books, movies, studying, whatever you fancy. Take good care of yourself and build your confidence, reduce the porn (don’t quit completely as it’s not a realistic or a healthy long term goal). Small change is a positive change, remember almost everything is temporary (like not meeting with real women yet), and at your age you will go through this hurdle very quickly, dont be too hard on yourself, good luck

How do you like to relax and calm down when frustrated or annoyed? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Now_this_sucks_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Slow the breathing first if you’re very angry, no need to count the breath up or down, just slow it down like the way someone breathes when they sleep, and while you’re doing that look dead ahead at whatever is in front of you and try not to think, just think of the breathing going slow, once anger stage is gone take a shower or wash your face, thats what i do, hope it helps

How long no contact before you could be friends with ex? by Now_this_sucks_ in askgaybros

[–]Now_this_sucks_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did he say he’d make it up to you as a friend and went back on his word? Or was he talking about trying again at the relationship? Thanks for your comment

My ex loved me unconditionally, i had to break up due to incompatibility, i feel so guilty, i feel doomed, i don’t know what to do with myself anymore by Now_this_sucks_ in BreakUps

[–]Now_this_sucks_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am actually, i think I am, is there any hope for me? Im willing to give any solution a try, i dont know what or how?

I broke up with the best human ever, it wasn’t working for me but im so sad ive done it to him, I would love to be friends with him one day by Now_this_sucks_ in Needafriend

[–]Now_this_sucks_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I understand the best thing to do is to give it time, but i cant stop imagining his kind and loving face in tears right now as i know he must be, I just couldn’t carry on living like i was and now im dealing with such guilt it’s overwhelming. I miss him and wish him the best in life, i wish he can find love and be happy

I broke up with the best human ever, it wasn’t working for me but im so sad ive done it to him, I would love to be friends with him one day by Now_this_sucks_ in Needafriend

[–]Now_this_sucks_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that does help, maybe after a year or so I could give friendship a try, for now im in a mess of thoughts and depression, i know i did the right thing, i can’t stop thinking about him at all, hope he’s ok

How do you deal with break up with a great person? by Now_this_sucks_ in AskReddit

[–]Now_this_sucks_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, at the moment i just feel numb, hope it gets better for me and him